Im in love with someone who has Aspergers

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two people who date and who do ahve A.S, may have common ground, but how far will that take them in a relationship to the point of where tehy may get married?

do you really want that, or do you want someone who has opposing view points. for me,I want a democrate, not because I hate dems, but because it would be nice to have some interesting discussions on the world in general.

No problem at all, Sighold! I'd be glad too!

I agree with you entirely.... actually I think it shakes things up a bit when you're dating someone that isn't like you... I know thats how the guy that I like feels, perhaps.... welll let me explain the bad news everyone.... apparently, after everything, he has an on/off girlfriend online... it breaks my heart so badly- I even started crying a few times after everything.... He told my friend that he did.... I'm happy for him and i'm certainly not a "homewrecker" so I figured i'll let it go....

I'll just tell him how I feel (so any baggage that I might've had will be wiped clear) and leave him to leave his well-deserved life with his girl....Ohh gosh i'm so hurt... by everything. If he doesnt want me then I think all I can do is go back to my mentally-abusive ex... he really wasn't so bad and honestly we were going to get married a while back but he wasn't ready for that at the time... I think settling down with him will help me cope especially since I still have some love for him in my heart...

Last edited by caramel on 07 Dec 2006, 6:29 am, edited 1 time in total.

Whoa! Slow down there. No need to go to your abusive ex and while I understand you are heartbroken you've just gotta tough it out (easier said than done of course). Give yourself some rest time. Play a card game with a few friends or something of the like. Hang out on WP can work sometimes too Just because one guy (aspie or not) might not have the same feelings does not mean the end of the world.

Lol I know that seemed kind of off... but he really wasn't so bad... it was more mental abuse than physical I just had grown very weary of it all, honestly... I'm actually very heartbroken.. i've never pursued someone in my life until him- I actually just kept my feelings and loves inside and prayed they didn't swallow me whole... Its so hard to give myself a rest, Murdal... I see him everyday and he still smiles at me in that way and looks at me in that way, and still tries to start conversation with me in that way...

Theres something to be said about broken hearts and untold emotions... it makes it hard to go forward- without thinking about it. I honestly think I want to tell him that I did have feelings and let that be it...Just so I know i've said my peace and let it all go. Its funny because I think i'll feel a lot better about it then... What do you think? A good idea or a bad idea? Lol Murdal- I wish I did have friends like that I could just chill with- it would make me feel so much better! You are correct though when you say one guy not having the same feelings isn't the end of the world...I think it just feels that much worse for me right now than I could've ever imagined... I really liked him a lot and appreciated so many things about him... Thank you for being such a sweetheart...You've made me feel a bit better

It's not the end of the world. Don't get too down about it, OK? There are plenty of fish in the sea and even though I haven't had a relationship (or a kiss!) yet I don't care. Life carries on. You and I will find someone. All it takes is time.

There's a reason you don't want to go back with someone who is abusive, so listen to it. Spend time here and share her joys. Maybe you will find someone here, you never know.

Where are you based? I like caramels - all soft and caramel-y in the centre.

(Promptly starts a fight with Tequila for Caramel's love)

Hey I was the one who was called a sweetheart

Shut it, bat hair.

Still. It is not wise to go back to someone who made you feel bad an abused.

There is something to be said about online relationships and that is most of the time they do not work out. If you're willing, you could wait, though that might leave you with more heartbreak. You should do what ultimately feels good and while this advice might seem odd, I don't think you should tell him those feelings unless it is an absolute must. My experience has been that things kinda become weird when you tell someone you are in love with them just because you're trying to get it off your chest. It doesn't seem as polite. Perhaps this friend telling you he was in an online relationship is a sort of omen so that you didn't have to spill your guts?

My advice sometimes isn't the best and that might not be the way you want to take it. However, you should live life on your own terms

Besides, if you would like to meet up with other aspie males I'm sure there are plenty here to pick from including myself (I know, a shameless plug But I do like meeting different people when I can. Provided no one else is around >.>)

>.> Whaaaatttt?

Steady on, gamester. We're not that old.

well, no, but intellectually I am. which is probably why I piss off half the guys on my floor, because I say stupid stuff a lot, then I pull out my weird occasional intellect..........specially with what I have to say about my evil ex girlfriend.

Murdal, you're pic............what anime/manga is that from? I've read the series, but can't remember it for the life of me.

in my opinion, Caramel, whilst you did make a mistake, there will be other men. I've learned that a lot in my dating experience. in fact, last night my good friend/crush since my 8th grade year called me, to say hi, and and my first ex emailed me to say hi. In my studies, its never a good idea to burn your bridges, cut them, because if you cut them, you can go back to these people later on, and be friends. with my first, we broke up and never got back to being friends........partly that was because I couldn't drive and she could, and the fact that she still thought I had feelings for her............oye vey. women. can't live with them, can't live without them, in general whilst they are a pain, sometimes you need the pain to make you experience life more.

Phoenix Wright

Caramel - If he is an Aspie, he will appreciate a direct question. Using second-hand evidence simply isn't good enough.

You have written the bloke off without checking your facts. This is bad.

Given that he's an Aspie, he may be aware that he has poor social skills and is maybe a bit geeky (??) so maybe he has invented an on-line girlfriend to keep everyone off his back. Plus, what exactly is an online girlfriend anyway? That could just mean a girl he talks to online... it's hardly going to be a deep and physical relationship, is it?

Clarify the situation and don't make assumptions.

You love him anyway, so you might as well tell him.

My uncle had an online relationship with a woman all the way in Europe from the USA. They are now married and live in Norway. It is quite possible.