Why do I rarely get any attention on dating sites?

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If girls on the street don't act like you're a walking piece of gold, people on the net won't do it either.

Your profile is very normal, that's why.

Colin,
I often find I got more replies when I was on a site when I was more "flirty" and kept things simple by not giving too much away, you don't need to make the changes I have done to your profile but from a girl's point of view I have made the changes I'd quite like to see if I was reading your profile and would reply to you. Hope this helps!

Also about your photos change the car one, your main one could be your third one. Then the second and third photo should show you doing things - something like an activity you enjoy and the third one should be with your friends or some people - other people in the photo shows you're sociable. It's just something that works. You talk alot about making cars have a photo of you fixing or under a car - it's good fun!

I would also say, be simple and to the point, we often explain and overexplain things... well I do so I get what you're saying but I've changed things in the way I'd look at you and go yeh I'll message him!

My self-summary

Hey! I'm Colin, I'm laid back but can come across shy when meeting new people. I'm a down-to-earth and kind person. I really believe in putting others first and I'm a very generous person. I'm a bit of a mixture I'm very mature but I like to have a laugh as well!


What I’m doing with my life

Currently working at a factory that mass produces credit and debit cards to fund my future studies in the near future where I will be attending UTI to become a mechanic.

I’m really good at

I love cars. I'm great at repairing cars... well, I'm a fast learner I've just rebuilt my former car, a 1998 VW Passat with the help of my stepdad, it's quite an achievement!

The first things people usually notice about me

Recently, it's been how blatantly Irish I look.... what do you think?

Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Stephen King... he is awesome and I just finished the audiobook to "Under the Dome"

Movies: Wanted, The Mechanic, Die Hard 2, Black Dog, The Dark Knight, Death Race, Airplane!, Armageddon, Ted, Superhero Movie, Scary Movie 1, Scary Movie 2, Spaceballs, 40 Year Old Virgin, Idiocracy, and The Matrix trilogy.

TV shows: Scrubs (my all-time favorite ), Family Guy, Two And a Half Men, Tosh.0, Deadliest Catch, MythBusters, Breaking Bad, World's Dumbest, Top Gear, CSI: Las Vegas, Big Bang Theory, Ghost Adventures, Archer

Music: Rammstein, Breaking Benjamin, Three Days Grace, The Offspring, Eminem, Oomph!, Fear Factory, Megaherz, System of a Down, Five Finger Death Punch, and Green Day just to name a few.

The six things I could never do without
1. My car - I need transportation
2. My music - my personal therapist
3. My iPod - can't leave the house without it
4. Sleep
5. VitaminWater - my morning coffee. It's hard for me to start my mornings without it!!
6. Laughter

I spend a lot of time thinking about
What my future would be like, including the career I have in mind....

On a typical Friday night I am

Working!! So it's a Saturday or Sunday for me... which is spent... well, ask me


The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I once drove through a red light in an intersection that I mistook for having a stop sign.... with oncoming traffic... it was like the movies... oops!!

my profile which got a lot of attention (after the pic - did a thread once about it http://www.wrongplanet.net/postx200381-435-0.html ), however I have squeezed okc (very very few members from my country)- I am doing much more better in dating apps such as Twoo and skout.

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Some advice from a former on line dater, and NT madly in love with a AS met on the on line site (plentyoffish).

Leave out the virgin part. Not tht it is shameful but it is too private and should be shared with someone who has grown to care about you not someone who is trying to decide weather or not to date you. I will be honest that if I saw that I wouldn't be likely to go out with you. It would be intimidating. However if I went out with you and we were to the point of sex it wouldn't matter because you are the person I love not a random guy on the street.

Don't make rude comments as someone suggested. Yes I may respond but I will NEVER go out with you. I don't want to be treated that way.

Read her profile and find something in it that interestes you and message her about that. "Hey, is that a 1960 mustang in your third pic? Love it! I am a bit of a car buff"

Ask questions don't make statements. "you sure are pretty" what is she supposed to say to that... ummm ok thanks..

Be yourself but don't disclose too much. That goes for NT as well as AS. And discussing being AS in your messages/first date etc isn't the best idea eather. There are too many sterotypes that are incorrect. If you make it to the 3rd date tell her about the AS and wait until you are ready to have sex with her to tell her about being a virgin. (I am not saying as the clothes are coming off lol..... just when you know you plan to go there)

Think of it as being like trying to get a job... the resume (profile) needs to get you the interview (date) then you need to sell yourself. Be quirky and real because that is who you are and she is going to find out adventaully anyway but just take it in small steps. It takes time but there are women out there who will adore you and find the person you are to be perfect!

After I've been open with my virginity to people I have known for a few days, I always found that it blew up in my face, so I'm keeping that private. I hid all the questions from OKCupid about sex experience and my lack of relationships and I'm getting a little more attention.

Also, I can't be a jerk for the life of me, so I don't do rude messages. It's just hard to think of a message other than the generic "Hey" or "Hi" ones.

Be careful with copy and paste. I would tend to get the exact message from the same guy and it was obvious what it was. A girl wants to feel special. Using her name is a great idea and the advice about not interigating is as well. The one line question I almost always responded to. And don't be in a rush to meet. Get to know her through email or I'M first. As for those who have never been kissed I am not sure why you have to tell. She wont necessarily know. I really wouldn't tell her. You may not be great the first time but it won't take you many kisses to figure it out... And I hope that didn't sound rude. It was not my intention