Will probably be single forever

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I do talk to women. But most of the time they just stare at me. It like Lady SAY SOMETHING. why do I have to talk. Why do I have to make plan.
women are smart. They can talk too. They can plan stuff. almost every women between 20-35 years old who I talk to, always look shock when I speak to them.
For some reason I always talk to the wrong type of ladies. my ex gf basically came up to me and did all the talking and all the planing and stuff.

here a transprict of me dealing with ladies

me: hey
women: hey
me: so how you doing?
women: (staring)
me: so are into running or anything
women: (still staring)
me: um
women: (she doing some cold scary starring)
me: (annoyed and just leave)

I come back and the lady still there and she just looking. she's not moving. she's like ice or something.

Yeah I just seem put women in trance or something. I wish I could meet a cool fun lady instead all these boring ladies.

yeah, hate, despise, loathe gender roles

Have you tried touching the guy's hand, the guy that you like?

When a woman does this to me I seem to instantly idolize her. Not good for me, maybe good for you

guys have to have passion and drive, girls do not

What I have noticed from sales women is that they eventually will touch me, either brush against my arm with theirs or their hand will slightly touch. The only women that do this to me are people trying to get money out of me. Waitresses or sales women in general. The difference I noticed between the younger and older women is that the younger women, will touch but it wont necessary be skin to skin contact. Where as older women somehow only do it when it is skin to skin contact. E.g you have a shirt or your sleeves rolled up, they will eventually brush against or touch.

This never happens to me at work, walking down the street, in the mall, in shops by shoppers or anywhere else.

Stalk - Touching people is something I'm not good at. I don't initiate physical contact of any form, I don't know how to, and I'm afraid it will be inappropriate or I'll be rejected (which has happened) or I'll look silly. Not because I don't want to reach out for a guys hand, touch a friend on the shoulder when they're feeling down or hug my dad, it's just awkward. Unless they initiate it I stay far away. When my friends say 'that was an awkward hug...' I ask them to show me how to do it properly, adn they're mostly helpful. But for me to initiate, no. I feel I'm labouring the point here.

WantToHaveALife - I hate gender roles too. If I like a guy I'm relentless in catching him and I often ask them out (although rejection % is high).

Billiscool - that sucks. I'm usually very quiet (I'm not shy..quiet and shy are different) so when i meet a guy (or a girl or a friend or a person in general really) that lets me talk, and listens to what I'm saying it's pretty amazing. Although, I don't like making decisions for myself so making them for 2 people is really difficult.

One of the most interesting observations I've read in a fair bit!

i hate how people say it is never too late, i feel it would be better in your prime years, which are your teens and 20's

You want to go for the accidental brush of the back of your hand with his or your arms. This will require you to move into his personal space, but you are doing it in a accidental way because you want to be a seen subtle and lady like

Maybe you can work your way up from there

See point nr 4 => http://www.wikihow.com/Flirt-with-a-Guy

That's unbelievable that people tell you it's selfish to not want kids. At this point I think it's a little selfish to want kids, at least more than 1 or 2. The economy sucks, I'm so cynical anymore, but mostly we are just way too overpopulated. I don't see why we need more people... we need way less. I'd love if I could go out somewhere and not have like kids everywhere being annoying. It would be less annoying if there was just like, less people.

i often times wonder and say to myself, why should I believe I will get a girlfriend eventually? why should I believe that I have what it takes or can get what it takes?

I feel the same way, because you're pretty much SOL if you're not a hippie, hipster, or religious extremist.

Even religious extremists get shot down before the flaps are raised from time to time

exactly

i can vouch for the fact that there are many worse things than being single forever.