The Girl in Autism Talk 20 video

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For the purpose of trying to prevent any further depression on this thread...

She COULD get laid every night IF she wanted to.

I try to make it a habit not to. Specifically in terms of making judgments based on nothing more than what a person looks like. Judging a person by their words and deeds is a different matter. Thanks for the welcome.

Well said. I totally agree. This is terrible. I think most people would feel horribly humiliated to have a group of people pick them apart like that. I think the OP had nice intentions and then well.....

In the Love and Dating section there seems to be an increase in the amount of really shallow and rude posts. Not a positive trend at all in my opinion.

To be fair to you both, I probably could have posted under a more broad topic subforum.

Your original post wasn't so bad, I was more referring to the rest of the comments after it.

I like the way I phrased mine at least - I didn't assume anything - just simply shared my reaction to what I saw and the immediate reflex it triggered. Call it an insight to the way my mind works. I also said I can override that immediate reaction by speaking to said person (a principal for all.)

I think all my posts were relatively light except for maybe my reply (clumsy wording) to your first post here.

And I know yours wasn't really bad at all in my opinion.

Our hands should be relatively clean.

I would just like to point out that only a few people have made assumptions about her personality, while most of the others (including myself) are simply talking about her appearance. How is that different to what happens in magazines or in coffee shops? It isn't. Apart from maybe you wouldn't find an Aspie in a coffee shop.

As a side question, is it shallow to like someone's looks? Judging someone by only one aspect, and not having them able to defend themself, is ignorant and ignoble. Liking or disliking somebody's appearance, and no thought really goes in to it (for most), is evolutionarily natural.

As far as it goes, I thought she is quite a beautiful young woman. I would feel blessed to have a girl that pretty interested in me-provided the underlying person was of a quality equal to her external beauty.


(As a side note, I think she may be someone who posts here on a regular basis and is an aspie. However, I am not certain so that is all I will say.)

Puh-LEEZE don't act like women don't do this, because a lot of them do it just as much as men. I've noticed a trend here lately, and I don't like it.

I mean, think about this, would you be okay with men judging her if they only said mind-numbingly good things about her instead of neutral things? If you would, then that's hypocritical. Judgments shouldn't be tolerated either way by your logic. Hell, the most snappy comment was BlueMax's and even his wasn't that bad.

ANYWAAAAAAY.....she is pretty cute. Bonus points for the "girl-next-door" vibe. But the chances of anyone like me finding a girl like that who will accept me is nil. Also the girl at the beginning is adorable.

Me hypocritical? Have you read my posts? I said men can be as pickier as women because there are men on this forums that are always whining about how picky are women.

¿Neutral things? Do you think that saying that she has a mean face, or a monkey face, or that she seems manipulative is being neutral?

All of us have to do an effort and practise what we call "respect". You can't break the neutrality to say bad things because then you are insulting and forums are a coexistence between men and women. So all of us deserve some respect. What if a girl on WP has the same face as that actress and reads all this stuff? Why we can't just help each other without thinking all the time who is a male and who is a female and this face seem manipulative but the other one not?

Oh, and yes, all my life I have heard men saying horrible things about women bodies, this is why I laugh when I hear men saying "women are too picky". I have not said "all men of the world say horrible things about women" because that's not true. It's a fact a lot of people (men and women) are very picky and yes, that sucks, you have to find someone who is not that way!

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Oh how a good natured thread slowly turns sour.

Can we keep it a wee bit civil? Just for future reference in case communications break down and Venus and Mars launch Star Destroyers at each other..

It's not your fault, this began with the intolerable comment of Surfman. This thread should be deleted. A forum has rules.

they are watching this thread.....Venus and Mars that is......

Feel free to report it then. I do think you (along with a few others) are overreacting a tad, but it's your prerogative.

I'm not saying you don't have a point, but I'd like you to notice something as well...

"I'm sure she's lovely" *IS* a personality assumption YOU just made. It's a positive one - but an assumption nonetheless. Certain people (and the look/vibe) they give off will give you certain automatic feelings when you first notice them. Those feelings will either be positive or negative depending on your past interactions with similar people. You've apparently had good reactions from people who look like her. If the pretty girls in school (who looked like the one in question) beat you up in school, teased you mercilessly and ruined your life, your automatic, without-thinking reaction upon first seeing/meeting her would probably be a guarded one - wary of more torture.

Make sense?

While the surface may appear rocky here, try to see threads like this one for the gold-mine it can be... where else in the world will people talk about the analysis of what's going on inside their heads whenever they see anything??