Coping with being an ugly male

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Yeah, after looking over my post again I was pretty rude in asking that question. But I still kinda stand firm that there isn't much that us ugly guys can do except hope there's somebody out there who isn't so shallow. But that's becoming more and more of a pipe dream these days. Society is corrupt, and even those who don't like society follow it to a "T" for the most part.

I've not died or gotten injured from them yet.

You have a lot of control over your looks. While you can't control everything you can do a lot.

Working out is a good place to start. Find an exercise you like. Running works for some, others like bicycling, others like swimming, you have to find what you like (or at least Hate the least.)

If your pale, spend more time in the sun. It'll make you feel better to. (White people need more direct sunlight to create vitamin D.)

Do some research or consult a professional on what kind of clothes make you look good and what kind make you look bad.

unfortuneately, genetics can often be cruel

"I'm short statured (5ft8.5 - and yes it is short... just ask girls)"

Like hell it is, that's average. And it doesn't matter what some stupid deluded girl tells you. Who are these girls looking to date, David Robinson?

Do you look any worse than this guy?

You are the Nintendo Kid?

YOU ARE THE NINTENDO KID!!?????

unti you show us what your gf looks like your posts are meaningless.

DerStadtschutz really isn't that bad looking, and this is coming from a straight male. And yes, in my case, I'd say I definitely look worse than you.

This makes me think there is more to it than just how you look. It sounds as if you have internal reasons for keeping you stuck, and the two feed into each other like a negative loop. That's an element of depression as well.
I know what it's like to feel like the most revolting and ugly, hideous, grotesque creature ever to walk the planet. Believe me. I have been very overweight in the past and had acne and have scars all over my arms and legs from self harming as a teenager and after; I have other insecurities and generally my relationship with my looks and body has been a desperately unhappy one. However when I am taking care of myself and not overweight and so on, I am not ugly. I am perfectly fine. I don't feel it, but I look perfectly okay.

If you can prioritise clothes and exercise and eating well, the rest will follow. Those are three huge things that will seriously change the way you look AND feel.
Give yourself time. A long time. It's taken me years and years of work. I still struggle with it. It hopefully won't take you nearly as long- I was dealing with a severe food addiction problem (bulimia and binge eating) that kept making my weight go up. If you are slim then you already have that one in the bag

Personally speaking, as a woman what makes a man attractive to me really is more than conventional looks. Have you heard of the term ''sexy-ugly''?? Look up sexy ugly actors, for example. Personally I find these guys to be so incredibly hot! There's something about an unconvential face and their inner confidence that is a big turn on for LOADS of women.
And I'm not saying that as an ugly woman, to the eyes of the world when I am at my very best and toned and slim and taking care of myself, I am above average looks wise and get a lot of male attention. I'm just not always at my best, and internally I always feel sh***y about it.......

There's plenty of hope for you I reckon

DerStadtschutz looks fine, he is just a larger male. If he had a personality I liked, I could be attracted to him. I admit I am not that that obsessed by looks, but I'm saying this all as a perfectly normal woman

But he is not conventionally ''model good looks'' by societie's supposed standards (I mean no offence by this)

I am saying this for the benefit of the author of this thread, as here is someone concrete to compare himself to and so see that he too is surely okay



A sense of humour can make someone gorgeous as well

Id like all of you to keep this post in mind next time you complain about females considering what society might think when selecting a male.
I know both genders equally do it but a lot of you seem to forget that males do it as well, hopefully you´ll stop ignoring the evidence on this forum soon.

Could you post your picture? I want proof. I don't accept you're exceptionally ugly.

When the current wave of idealists got diagnosed with Asperger's and were directed by their therapists to this forum! And, sorry, in spite of all my problems, I'm clinging to my idealism. Well, actually I'm not that sorry ... idealism keeps me going.

creepalert:

DerStadtschutz has some gorgeous eyelashes

:donecreepin'

Posting pictures won't help because I actually look decent in them (I have about 3 or 4 posted in the members only section). That and I don't want anybody I know knowing I use this site. I get ostracized enough as it is.

Okay then, I just find it hard to believe you're severely ugly.
It's very, very rare.