14 Oct 2012, 4:48 pm
14 Oct 2012, 4:51 pm
14 Oct 2012, 4:59 pm
balletnerd wrote:
Hi Metalmax,
I read this thread and there was a great deal of poignancy for me reading your reflections. I split up with my ex in May even though I tried really hard to keep it togather.
He cheated on me but I thought we could work through it and went to couples counselling and he was just not interested in changing anything even though I was and I find change far more overwhelming than he does. Felt like I was tossed into the trash when he said it was too late, his head had changed.. Too late? When did the timer start? It was like those 12 years we spent together meant nothing, expendable.
I read this thread and there was a great deal of poignancy for me reading your reflections. I split up with my ex in May even though I tried really hard to keep it togather.
He cheated on me but I thought we could work through it and went to couples counselling and he was just not interested in changing anything even though I was and I find change far more overwhelming than he does. Felt like I was tossed into the trash when he said it was too late, his head had changed.. Too late? When did the timer start? It was like those 12 years we spent together meant nothing, expendable.
Thank you, I don't understand why people feel a need to cheat on each other. I think those are just the kind of people who shouldn't be in long term relationships. Or in one at all for that matter. Its pretty selfish to find instant gratification elsewhere when you are already with someone.
Some people just aren't thrilled by romance, but more so by having someone new and not knowing what to expect.
I can't stand not knowing what to expect.
It is rather cowardly to find someone else before you leave whom you're with. Its not like finding a new job before you quit the one you have, in a relationship that leads to a lot of hurt. Present employers could care less.
