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Taverson
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20 Oct 2012, 5:40 pm

Not any advice from me.

I'm far too direct and blunt so I'd say:

"Do you still have a BF?"

And then lament the awkwardness that ensues afterwards.

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20 Oct 2012, 6:03 pm

There is always the 'So what did you do over the weekend?' method. Its possible they did something with their boyfriend, maybe not. It may not get you the information you want to know(Because there usually isn't something happening every weekend) but its a relatively harmless question, asking about the past, as opposed to asking 'What are you doing this weekend?' which leads to them assuming you are going to ask them out.

Or you could just be blunt like Taverson.

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20 Oct 2012, 6:08 pm

eelektrik wrote:

Take eelektrik's advice. Pretty sound as long as you're calm and nonchalant about it. Don't be too interested but be interested, etc.

Never be blunt like me.

I once said in an Air Force recruiter's office some questionable statements about the deficit/debt.

I didn't get any smiles needless to say.

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20 Oct 2012, 6:47 pm

Just because someone is nice and shows an interest in you, it doesn't mean they have a crush on you. Older women will often do this to younger guys. They may be very nice but they treat you as if you are a cute little boy, not a handsome man. Plus to no surprise, she has a boyfriend so if she has a boyfriend, forget about her. Trust me, these older women neither have feelings for younger guys nor would they expect you to have feelings for them. I would know as I already went through something like this with someone.

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20 Oct 2012, 6:57 pm

Homer_Bob wrote:

You bring up a point I had forgotten about.

In retail there were older women who looked out for me like a big sister or an aunt would. Never once did I assume they were attracted to me. Those women were probably my favorite people to talk with because they were kind with no strings attached.

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20 Oct 2012, 7:45 pm

wtfid2 wrote:

I see contradictions in your posts. I appreciate the attempt to clarify but in your first post you said that you flirt without expecting it to lead anywhere which contradicts with your last sentence here.

I flirt without expecting it to lead anywhere only when *he* starts flirting first. In other words I am responding to his interest because it is flattering. If *I* start the flirting, I always want it to lead to something. Is that clearer?

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20 Oct 2012, 7:58 pm

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wtfid2 wrote:

yah i got yah lol. I just saw her couldnt bring myself to ask her what she did this wken LOL. we talked though. she as a ten yr old kid-_-/ i think she lives with her parents too.

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20 Oct 2012, 10:07 pm

wtfid2 wrote:

yah i got yah lol. I just saw her couldnt bring myself to ask her what she did this wken LOL. we talked though. she as a ten yr old kid-_-/ i think she lives with her parents too.[/quote]

I certainly get that. Every time I see my crush at the gym, I always have all these things I want to say to him or ask him, but I never do. I just go back to the usual topics of conversation, like fitness and sports injuries. *sigh*

Glad to hear you got to talk to her. Ask her questions about her interests. Women really love that.

How do you feel about her having a child?

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20 Oct 2012, 10:09 pm

wtfid2 wrote:

CrushingHard61 wrote:

wtfid2 wrote:

yah i got yah lol. I just saw her couldnt bring myself to ask her what she did this wken LOL. we talked though. she as a ten yr old kid-_-/ i think she lives with her parents too.

She may not be in a position to be in a relationship then. Unless the kid + living with her parents doesn't bother you.

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20 Oct 2012, 11:06 pm

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wtfid2 wrote:

yah i got yah lol. I just saw her couldnt bring myself to ask her what she did this wken LOL. we talked though. she as a ten yr old kid-_-/ i think she lives with her parents too.

I certainly get that. Every time I see my crush at the gym, I always have all these things I want to say to him or ask him, but I never do. I just go back to the usual topics of conversation, like fitness and sports injuries. *sigh*

Glad to hear you got to talk to her. Ask her questions about her interests. Women really love that.

How do you feel about her having a child?[/quote]

well il be honest..idont think id marry-her knowing that..i wouldnt marry her if she l;eft her bf for me either...which idoubt she would lol.

but this may sound wrong..she would be a great first gf to lose my firsts to :p..hopefully not firstk id though as i want to save that for the girl i marry.

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20 Oct 2012, 11:12 pm

i wont say having a fantasy is bad, but there comes a point where you need to think before acting on something. Chances are if she was so into you shed have dropped her bf for you. Im not trying to be an ass, but you're better off fishing from the ocean and not from someones tank

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20 Oct 2012, 11:17 pm

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all im doing is talking to her..i already said im not asking her out. am curious if she has a bf still however.

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20 Oct 2012, 11:18 pm

wtfid2 wrote:

MXH wrote:

all im doing is talking to her..i already said im not asking her out. am curious if she has a bf still however.

good that you have the mind to think and not just act on whim like many do

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20 Oct 2012, 11:20 pm

MXH wrote:

wtfid2 wrote:

MXH wrote:

all im doing is talking to her..i already said im not asking her out. am curious if she has a bf still however.

good that you have the mind to think and not just act on whim like many do

meh iwouldt have the guts to ask her out anyway...and the kid is very unappetizing(lol that sounds creepy)

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21 Oct 2012, 3:01 am

wtfid2 wrote:

MXH wrote:

all im doing is talking to her..i already said im not asking her out. am curious if she has a bf still however.

My method is failproof.

Start a conversation with her on which both of you are interested in talking. Make sure to bring up husband/partner/starting a family/you know what I mean in the middle of the conversation.
They may be a bit surprised by how forward it seems but it works every time and most of them react well.

For example this summer I was talking to this girl about her job situation
Her: I work at a couple of places,I cant complain about it with the current situation but I wish I had more time for family/church(met at bible group, it was just practise)... you know?

Me: of course. You need some time for family, friends, finding the one....

Her:(laughing) to be honest I havent been dating in years but as I said Im trying to focus on helping young members at church and work.

We kept talking as if nothing had happened for over an hour.

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21 Oct 2012, 3:44 am

spongy wrote:

wtfid2 wrote:

MXH wrote:

all im doing is talking to her..i already said im not asking her out. am curious if she has a bf still however.

subtlety is key here. if it sounds too forced it might stop the conversation at that subject instead of just gettin an answer and moving on

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