Are you positive, negative, or indifferent about romance?

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romance is so meaningless to me that I hate to watch romantic comedies and avoid it at all costs.

Negative.

I was the Little Engine That Could At Least Try, now I'm The Little Engine Who Doesn't Give a Flying f**k.

i should committ suicide already

Romance? I'm not romantic at all. I just don't get into all the lovey dovey BS like some people. Too old fashioned for me.

same old crap

I wish it weren't an issue. I am generally content on my own, but the only interest I get from guys tends to be firtatious married guys that I can't have (or rather don't want to have a relationship with because other people would get hurt) or someone like an employer (and that's not appropriate) it just becomes an irritation rather than something good. I get a glimpse of something nice, something I would like and then I have to walk away from it before it even begins. I would be happier not to have that sort of interest.

pessimistic still

I don't believe in romance.

I believe in romance. I'm not very good at creating it, but the very limited experience I have with it is about the best feeling in the world.

Positive!
I'm a hopeless romantic

Meh. I can live either with or without it. To be in a relationship would be cool, but I'm not going to go into full panic mode because I don't have a boyfriend.

I'm not really into the typical romance stuff that Hollywood portrays but I like romance in a more alternative/unique way; I think watching TV with my arm around my partner or us going out while holding hands is romantic.

I vacillate between not caring and caring so much it makes me want to cry. Some weeks, I don't care at all. Some weeks, a relationship is all I can think about all day long and I just end up sleeping all the time.


About what someone said earlier: "...I hate to watch romantic comedies and avoid it at all costs." Oh God, totally agreed. I either don't understand them at all or if they're really good, I just end up sad and more depressed.

I suppose positive, because I recently began to desire it intensely despite never having felt that way before. Many a joke has been made about the misery of relationships, but ignorance is not bliss for me.

I feel like anything contrived isn't romantic at all, it's fake and it's a b.s. way of trying to make someone like you, open up to you, or potentially be intimate with you without making a real effort to get to know them as a person. It's wrong in my mind, and I don't respond to it at all. I'll see through the act the instant it starts...and I am never amused.

When it comes to genuine displays of love, that is something I find very touching and important, though. For my ex-girlfriend, I took these chocolates that she liked that I told her I purchased once a week on the way out of town. They had little messages in them and I took those out and replaced them with personal messages I wrote to her. I put them in a box and made a drawing of roses to put at the top of the box and gave it to her as a loving gesture. I thought this was genuine romance, a real show of love, and not a fake elaborate contrivance. I wasn't trying to get into her pants. I was trying to show her I loved her -- and I did.

That said, she bought me roses a lot and it had no meaning in it (I'm a lesbian, by the way). They were just a pre-fab bunch that you could get at a gas station and they didn't feel meaningful at all. If anything, they made me wonder what she potentially had done that she felt the need to buy me anything -- because it didn't seem like any genuine display of love in the least. Those sorts of gestures I hate. The idea of going to a fancy restaurant doesn't mean anything to me, either, because it's not about the place, it's about the company. I could be happy taking a walk down the street and getting falafel from a vendor as long as I have great company and conversation, I'm thrilled!

So, I have to say "yes" and "no" -- it's all about how you define "romance" to me...

For me, romance is something that I very much desire, but that feels impossible for me. It's depressing because it's being held up for me everywhere, but I can't have it. I'm an ugly, quiet, heavyset girl with no social skills who never gets even a second glance from guys. I wish I didn't want a relationship so badly, because wanting it only brings me pain, but I don't know how to get over it.