I lol'd at this

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I think the author's issue was the mindset of her husband "taking on" her and her child, like he decided to roll up his sleeves and get the job done. Coming together as a family unit is not the same as looking for a caretaker, or someone to insert into the missing nuclear family slot just to have the right equation.

I agree with meems. Everybody is really awful to that lady and the comments on the actual site are even worse.

I imagine it would be awful to be told on a regular basis for years on end that you aren't worthy of something that makes you happy.

You people just need to chill out.

I have to agree that this lady should be more grateful and stop crying about it. If a guy was told the same thing, you can bet, especially if he's socially awkward, that he'd say "oh yeah, I am grateful and lucky." They might even self-deprecate themselves by saying "I don't know what she sees in me." That's what makes this lady's words seem even more selfish.

I'm not gonna say she should bow and scrape and kiss his feet, but dammit, a little humility is in order here.

I do find the notion that one decent human being should be grateful another decent human being has coupled with them ludicrous.
But in times where people are all but nice, I don't see the harm in being reminded how lucky one person is with their partner - not because their partner isn't doing them a favor, or there are implications they aren't worthy of their partner. Instead because there are a lot of people out there with no one, and furthermore a lot of people with abusive or terrible partners.

I can't help but feel while this woman has a valid point she was merely looking to write a feminist article based on not evaluating all the possible meanings of what her peers and family have been telling her. Having said that, I'm sure both her and her man are lucky to have found each other

Those trolls are brutal fiends btw, can't help but say I laughed at some of the obvious trollbait though.

EDIT: I will agree with one of the above comments. Much like a "nice guy" might deserve a good woman doesn't mean he's entitled to a good woman, a good woman that has also had some struggles is not automatically entitled to a (real) nice guy.

I'm just glad that not one of our WP posts were near as bad as the ones responding to her article with morons claiming men are superior, etc.

But a lot of people (not just men) are bristling at the implication that she shouldn't need to feel grateful because of how wonderful she and her child are.

Just like adoption, raising and loving another person's child as your own is a very big deal. This writer hit the lotto jackpot... it'd be a crying shame to squander it because of a self-absorbed narcissism. "I got it because I deserve it." It's creepy because of the danger behind it.

I'm very happy to see that she IS grateful to her good man... the day she stops being grateful is the day she no longer deserves him.

(And don't worry gals, the reverse is true, too. If she's a good woman who treats him with fairness, kindness and love - he'd better be grateful too!)

Now watch somebody come along and twist your words, Max.

I think the woman who wrote this is blowing things out of proportion. I understand that she gets tired of hearing it and all, but people are only mentioning it because they don't have the same thing as she does; they consider her lucky. They aren't saying she isn't 'worthy' and doesn't matter as much, they're just saying, from my understanding, that they wish they could find someone that accepting.