AspieRogue wrote:
1000Knives wrote:
The problem is, it seems you don't actually care about college. But, you're going because other adults in your life are telling you to go to college, just sort of for the sake of going to college. So you figured the bright side was "Oh man there's so many hot girls here." But now you realize that's irrelevant.
I've been tempted to go to college basically for the social aspect, too, but figured it'd end up something of how this post is. So in some sense, it's probably a bit less "your fault" because you're probably being pushed to go to college with no real goal in mind, aside from going to college to make it look like you're "doing something with your life" to others. This is the reason community college exists, so you can just be "in college" and make it look like you're doing something, without a monetary gamble. Yeah, you can switch to a 4 year after community, but something like 60% drop out with no degrees from community colleges anyway.
So maybe I'm off base. My advice is, how much do you care about college? If you don't actually care about it or find it important, then, well, depending on how much is invested, don't go. It's all a game, all for social status. You're there to get a degree to prove yourself to others. Then you're there for socializing and friends, and relationships. Also, you're there for networking. The reason why some people come out of college super successful and others not is simple. Fraternities. People from the same frats hire people, all the networking going on. Without the network established, you're wasting time in college really.
If this is more sarcasm, well, whateves.
But if it is not, do not pontificate about what other people do or don't care about. He may care about college but be so seriously sidetracked by this obsession.
Well, what do
you suggest the OP does?
You've already pointed out that he's obsessing. You've assumed I've never been in the grip of an obsession . You're wrong, since my anxious ruminating has crossed the line into OCD more than once, but I guess you're going to tell me that that's not the same either.
I'm trying to give the OP hope by telling him that it is
possible to break through obsessive thinking and go through the motions of what you need to do until you can think about what you need to think about.
I wasn't saying "if I can do it, anyone can". I was saying "if I can do it, that shows it's possible, so it's at least worth trying.".
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10 Nov 2012, 11:53 am
