Women seem to be attracted to guys with psychological disord

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I love how nature works sometimes....people learn from their mistakes on both sides....so it's moreso a selective cycle really. The ones who dated bad boys usually do get "their man" at the end...but it's not always what is hoped for.

I think that some (not all) woman who do this are pretty shallow because....why would they like to put their life and appearance at risk for these guys?

First appearances is a very shallow thing indeed, but I agree that some nice guys are genuinely boring people that I can relate.

Interesting that you mention this actually....if you look at our generations...many old people are happily married because they chose who they liked without the bad boy persona being around all that much....everyone worked together in a community so love happened via interacting in the same interests....but those from the 1950's to even these days you see many divorces because these couples have rushed their relationships when they find out down the line that they are not what they thought they were...but were too young to split due to having a kid on the way (in most cases, not all), so they bring up the kid like loving parents but with no love with one another and split as soon as the kid is old enough to take care of themselves.

It's a sad case really but I think that is what happened back then....these days people pick and choose when to split regardless of whether they have a kid on the way or not!

Seriously? Using pet names is now a bad boy trait?

yes, along with wearing black shoes and drinking orange juice.

I wear black shoes and drink orange juice!
If I get a sex change and start liking girls, I can be a bad boy who gets all the ladies.

That's not what I meant -- it ought to be evident in my context -- I am referring to someone using non-commital terms like "babe" or "girl" or "hon" as a means of emotional distancing, instead of first names like everyone else does. 'Bad boys' often do this as emotional avoidance, because they don't care, and don't want to - it's part of the emotional pathology.

It's also not an independent indication -- the use of pet names =/= "bad boy" -- it completely depends on the context and purpose. It's a "how."

(If a guy you just met is being overly flattering, smarmy, and not using your first name - that could be a red flag as to his probable nature...)

The context of what I mean is very important. I should have been more specific.

Last edited by abyssquick on 09 Dec 2012, 7:47 pm, edited 3 times in total.

what about milk? Cause i got the black shoes thing down

'Dysfunctional' (as defined by the mental health industry) people tend to have more in common with other dysfunctional people as they have often suffered a lot of rejection and are often outsiders therefore they will find more common ground with other outsiders than the more mainstream type of person.

I feel very uneasy and insecure around 'normal' people - the pressure to conform they bring with them makes me feel ill!

Give me a non-violent dysfunctional over a normal any day as we have far more in common and they are invariably more intelligent from my experience

The dysfunction is usually caused by being too individualistic and stubborn to conform to society's highly unreasonable expectations and these are good traits in my opinion, not dysfunctions

And with the majority foolishly looking down on the dysfunctional, all the more for me so I'm quite happy with the low status afforded us!

Nah, I've done that for years...

I see what you mean now.
"Pet name" to me, implies some sort of affectionate intent, hence my misunderstanding.

Of cause they do their "fun" who wants boring (us)

Hello

i seem be getting more mentally unstable by the day lol. My social skills seem to be declining, i become less and less independent, and more and more anxious/paranoid.

My experience with girls seems to be the same...at a nice 0/infinity experience points.

abyssquick hit the nail on the head. I'm already at that stage of not wanting to be the "second choice" to a woman. If you didn't like me before, why on earth would you like me now? That type of thing.

I hate that too. Nothing is worse for me than having to reject a girl for when they come back to me because things didn't work out well with the person they rejected me for. I think the saying goes "you didn't want me when you could have had me, and I moved on. Sorry"

It depends on the type of abnormality. Some types tend to be attractive to women in general; other types not so much.

*gasp* even worse!! !! get caught scarfing that down and the babes will be hanging off of you!! !