I have never had a boyfriend!

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I wouldn't be opposed to dating a girl who's never had a boyfriend.
For one, she would probably be more affectionate. From my experiences, I've noticed that when they speak of their past relationships they used to be more easy-going, fun etc..
Then some douchebag cheated on them, or treated them badly, and now they're jaded and hold back in a relationship.. and I pay for his mistakes.
This is just my personal experience, and men do the same thing, don't get me wrong.

Point is, not everyone is great at moving on, forgiving people etc.. so being inexperienced is almost a blessing, since you'll be able to have a proper relationship without all those issues.

Why do chicks like the cool confident guys but then the dude ends up cheating on them?

I think girls should date nerds more. At least they won't cheat.

.....want to have a BF?

Don't worry. I'm a 28 year old dude and I've never had a boyfriend either

i'm 30 and still haven't had a 'real' relationship.
Anyways you could just make friends with guys you have stuff in common.
I usually go for geeks/nerds or gamers since i am a gamer/geek/nerd

A quick look around this site will show you that you are not alone. There are a lot of late bloomers here. I am 30 and have never had a girlfriend before.

I had to wait until 29 despite the fact I'm "tall (extremely tall that is) dark and handsome" in great physical shape and in theory girls should stick to me like glue. Once I accepted I was a late bloomer and was not alone I found my GF.

My advice is that it takes a lot of effort. I'm a 20 year old female Aspie who has actually had a few boyfriends (not trying to brag or anything, I'm actually surprised at this myself). Basically make it a goal to be social and make new friendships all the time - I met my current boyfriend through a well-meaning friend who introduced us. However, even after meeting him I had to put some effort into letting him know I liked him, as he is a very shy nerd without much experience with girls. My friends sometime say I'm more "forward" than other women in this way, but in my experience, it works. (Especially because I tend to like nerdy guys who need a little extra "push" to realize that a girl is actually paying attention to them.)

So in essence, conscious effort is key.

This thread bothers me and I'm not sure why.

OP, develop yourself as a unique, healthy, and happy individual. Find your interests and preferences and explore them by joining clubs and social groups devoted to them. Learn as much as you can about as much as possible, so that you can be a valuable presence in the world and in a relationship.

Doing that should expose you to the right guys who will share your interests and passions, and the rest will naturally follow.

But don't pursue a boyfriend just so you can say you have a boyfriend. That's what all those high school girls do who never grow up. All they are is the people they're around. They have no inner worlds to admire or to explore. It's sad and pathetic, and insecurity of that level isn't something mature people brag about.

I guess this is restating the 6 harsh truths stuff in my sig, and I have no idea whether it applies to women or not.

I can say that when I was in college, and a girl wanted my attention, she had to knock it out of me.

What if you have no interests or preferences, so you can´t join any group?

Really, I wouldn't know what group to go to...