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You look similar to people who might have an over-sized appendage or foot.
You also look like a class clown, or some other social misfit. I feel that if I was in the same room as you, and I ended up pissing you off and you fought me, if I won you'd walk off with your eyes really wide, blood running down your face, saying "I wanna do that again!"
nessa238 wrote:
You look fine but the way you talk has already made me take a dislike to you
ie talking about being rejected by a woman with chest hair
You seem to think it fine to ridicule women but then wonder why they don't want to be your girlfriend - I wonder what the problem could be?
You also added 'man' to the end of your sentence which is instant dismissal in my book
ie talking about being rejected by a woman with chest hair
You seem to think it fine to ridicule women but then wonder why they don't want to be your girlfriend - I wonder what the problem could be?
You also added 'man' to the end of your sentence which is instant dismissal in my book
I can be a bit of a realist, I know it's not a very nice thing for the poor women affected with hirsutism, but the harsh reality is that hirsutism is a massive turnoff for men. It's not meant to denigrate the poor ladies, it's just one of the many unpleasant aspects of reality. Bear in mind that I still made the attempt on the girl after I found out.
And, to get shot down by one is, for that reason, particularly brutal.
dabeshu wrote:
You look similar to people who might have an over-sized appendage or foot.
You also look like a class clown, or some other social misfit. I feel that if I was in the same room as you, and I ended up pissing you off and you fought me, if I won you'd walk off with your eyes really wide, blood running down your face, saying "I wanna do that again!"
You also look like a class clown, or some other social misfit. I feel that if I was in the same room as you, and I ended up pissing you off and you fought me, if I won you'd walk off with your eyes really wide, blood running down your face, saying "I wanna do that again!"
O_o
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Shau wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
You look fine but the way you talk has already made me take a dislike to you
ie talking about being rejected by a woman with chest hair
You seem to think it fine to ridicule women but then wonder why they don't want to be your girlfriend - I wonder what the problem could be?
You also added 'man' to the end of your sentence which is instant dismissal in my book
ie talking about being rejected by a woman with chest hair
You seem to think it fine to ridicule women but then wonder why they don't want to be your girlfriend - I wonder what the problem could be?
You also added 'man' to the end of your sentence which is instant dismissal in my book
I can be a bit of a realist, I know it's not a very nice thing for the poor women affected with hirsutism, but the harsh reality is that hirsutism is a massive turnoff for men. It's not meant to denigrate the poor ladies, it's just one of the many unpleasant aspects of reality. Bear in mind that I still made the attempt on the girl after I found out.
And, to get shot down by one is, for that reason, particularly brutal.
I'm not with you - you want the right to be nasty about women but don't want them to be nasty to you?
Hmmm logical! Ever heard of the phrase 'If you live by the sword, prepare to die by the sword'?
Or to rephrase - if you deal it out, you'd better be prepared to take it back, which you evidently aren't.
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nessa238 wrote:
I'm not with you - you want the right to be nasty about women but don't want them to be nasty to you?
Hmmm logical!
Hmmm logical!
Wasn't being nasty, just brutally honest. I don't tend to sugarcoat things, and it does often get interpreted as nastiness as society isn't accustomed to "full frontal honestly" as I've once heard it called.
Shau wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
I'm not with you - you want the right to be nasty about women but don't want them to be nasty to you?
Hmmm logical!
Hmmm logical!
Wasn't being nasty, just brutally honest. I don't tend to sugarcoat things, and it does often get interpreted as nastiness as society isn't accustomed to "full frontal honestly" as I've once heard it called.
Same thing if it hurts the other person.
I've been out with a person with psoriasis in the past. I suspect you'd run away screaming if a women with psoriasis even approached you!. And here's the thing - I never commented badly on the psoriasis as I knew for a fact how much it would have upset him. So if I can do it ie keep my thoughts to myself out of concern for a person's feelings, anyone can!
It's a good thing to be brutally honest if you're exposing the wrong-doing of a corrupt organisation but it's wrong if being brutally honest hurts someone needlessly.
The honesty has to be targeted appropriately in other words and not all over the place.
A simple rule is 'If someone said that about me, how would it make me feel?' and if it's bad, try not to say it!
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nessa238 wrote:
Same thing if it hurts the other person.
You're letting your emotions cloud your thinking, I suspect. Note, I didn't say anything or mention anything to the person in question, you guys on this forum are the only ones I've mentioned it to.
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I've been out with a person with psoriasis in the past. I suspect you'd run away screaming if a women with psoriasis even approached you!
If I didn't run away from a girl with chest hair, what makes you think I'd run away from psoriasis?
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And here's the thing - I never commented badly on the psoriasis as I knew for a fact how much it would have upset him. So if I can do it ie keep my thoughts to myself out of concern for a person's feelings, anyone can!
I'm just gonna point to my first response. Obviously I'd be a massive dick if I said anything to the girl. I only said it to you guys.
Shau wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
Same thing if it hurts the other person.
You're letting your emotions cloud your thinking, I suspect. Note, I didn't say anything or mention anything to the person in question, you guys on this forum are the only ones I've mentioned it to.
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I've been out with a person with psoriasis in the past. I suspect you'd run away screaming if a women with psoriasis even approached you!
If I didn't run away from a girl with chest hair, what makes you think I'd run away from psoriasis?
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And here's the thing - I never commented badly on the psoriasis as I knew for a fact how much it would have upset him. So if I can do it ie keep my thoughts to myself out of concern for a person's feelings, anyone can!
I'm just gonna point to my first response. Obviously I'd be a massive dick if I said anything to the girl. I only said it to you guys.
It's still not a nice way to talk about another person, especially on a public forum.
Shau wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
It's still not a nice way to talk about another person, especially on a public forum.
I'll give you that point, but bear in mind that I the event in question had just happened and I was still reeling from it.
Think about it though - no one is perfect and every girl is going to have some flaw or other and if these flaws are a deal-breaker for you you'll be a long time single! Then of course you need to factor in women being as shallow back to you and being put off by your flaws! So all in all shallowness is a losing game.
nessa238 wrote:
Shau wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
It's still not a nice way to talk about another person, especially on a public forum.
I'll give you that point, but bear in mind that I the event in question had just happened and I was still reeling from it.
Think about it though - no one is perfect and every girl is going to have some flaw or other and if these flaws are a deal-breaker for you you'll be a long time single! Then of course you need to factor in women being as shallow back to you and being put off by your flaws! So all in all shallowness is a losing game.
Should I repeat this again? I found out the girl had chest hair, and gave her a shot anyway. And then she shot me down!
Shau wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
Shau wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
It's still not a nice way to talk about another person, especially on a public forum.
I'll give you that point, but bear in mind that I the event in question had just happened and I was still reeling from it.
Think about it though - no one is perfect and every girl is going to have some flaw or other and if these flaws are a deal-breaker for you you'll be a long time single! Then of course you need to factor in women being as shallow back to you and being put off by your flaws! So all in all shallowness is a losing game.
Should I repeat this again? I found out the girl had chest hair, and gave her a shot anyway. And then she shot me down!
Ok but it might have affected how you acted towards her and she picked up on it. It's the devaluing of the person that's wrong. I always notice that people who do this inevitably have a massive load of flaws themselves ie who are they to judge!
And how much chest hair - one or two strands or what? It sounds like a hormonal imbalance.
nessa238 wrote:
Ok but it might have affected how you acted towards her and she picked up on it. It's the devaluing of the person that's wrong. I always notice that people who do this inevitably have a massive load of flaws themselves ie who are they to judge!
That might have happened, but as a man with AS I basically went into it thinking "She's gonna have a lot of my AS quirks to get around, it's only fair that I get around hers, including chesty hair." I honestly think you're reading far more nastiness into this than really exists.
[edit] I tried not to stare, I'd guess maybe 7? 10?
Shau wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
Ok but it might have affected how you acted towards her and she picked up on it. It's the devaluing of the person that's wrong. I always notice that people who do this inevitably have a massive load of flaws themselves ie who are they to judge!
That might have happened, but as a man with AS I basically went into it thinking "She's gonna have a lot of my AS quirks to get around, it's only fair that I get around hers, including chesty hair." I honestly think you're reading far more nastiness into this than really exists.
If it was me I'd go into problem-solving mode ie well how much hair is there? Is she bothered by it?
Go online to see what causes it and what solutions there are. Might she be suggestible to shaving it off or
dying it blonde? - just because you don't like an aspect of a person does not mean you can't help them to change it or get used to it.
nessa238 wrote:
If it was me I'd go into problem-solving mode ie well how much hair is there? Is she bothered by it?
Go online to see what causes it and what solutions there are. Might she be suggestible to shaving it off or
dying it blonde? - just because you don't like an aspect of a person does not mean you can't help them to change it or get used to it.
Go online to see what causes it and what solutions there are. Might she be suggestible to shaving it off or
dying it blonde? - just because you don't like an aspect of a person does not mean you can't help them to change it or get used to it.
LADY!! !! I am NOT going to bring up a girl's chest hair if I'm not going out with her!! !!
