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03 Jan 2013, 12:14 pm

DialAForAwesome wrote:
HEEEEEYYYYYY WASSUP SWEET THANG?!?!??!?! :lol:


I think 2013 will be the year that the words "Heyy guuurl" will justify manslaughter. ;)



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03 Jan 2013, 1:05 pm

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I guess I can relate to the OP's issue. It's hard because I have always been alone (ie a "loner", though it feels normal to me!) so I guess maybe that makes me vulnerable, and never in tune with social norms. But more to the point, I wouldn't believe I would have to not wear makeup, not go where I want to go, not wear what I want to wear - why should I?!?!

It makes me mad that people would suggest that.


Good for you. Very good for you. I like you already. In fact, I almost insist (in a manner of speaking) that you go out dressed like that if it pleases you.*

* As long as I can look you over briefly.



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03 Jan 2013, 1:06 pm

DialAForAwesome wrote:
HEEEEEYYYYYY WASSUP SWEET THANG?!?!??!?! :lol:


I like your cherries.



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03 Jan 2013, 10:57 pm

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maybe go somewhere where the men can't find you. where are these guys at? if these guys are always at certain place, maybe you could find a new location to hang out at.


Unfortunately I follow specific teams and they always play at the same places. I'm not going to punish my teams by withdrawing my support because of these guys. And even if I do move sections, there's usually new blokes who want to cause trouble.

Hell, even sitting in the same place all the time there's always one new bloke who wants to try it on every so often. It's ok when they take the rejection well (like I said I've made a few friends) but usually they're like "whatever *naughty word*" and storm off. Then I feel bad for the next few minutes (until I see my crush and it's like :heart: lol).

Plus all my new friends (male and female) are there and on the times where I don't get annoyed I have a really good time (pending team winning LOL).


hey, today I got reject by two women and I was cool with it. I did not call them names.
who are these guys who are asking you out. They seriously insult you. what jerks.



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04 Jan 2013, 12:48 am

Kezzstar wrote:
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maybe go somewhere where the men can't find you. where are these guys at? if these guys are always at certain place, maybe you could find a new location to hang out at.


Unfortunately I follow specific teams and they always play at the same places. I'm not going to punish my teams by withdrawing my support because of these guys. And even if I do move sections, there's usually new blokes who want to cause trouble.

Hell, even sitting in the same place all the time there's always one new bloke who wants to try it on every so often. It's ok when they take the rejection well (like I said I've made a few friends) but usually they're like "whatever *naughty word*" and storm off. Then I feel bad for the next few minutes (until I see my crush and it's like :heart: lol).

Plus all my new friends (male and female) are there and on the times where I don't get annoyed I have a really good time (pending team winning LOL).

That's terrible advice. You shouldn't have to sacrifice your daily habits because some stupid blokes can't control themselves. Try asking your friends to support you. If they're genuine friends, they should have no problem helping you out.


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04 Jan 2013, 1:03 am

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heyyyyyy wasssuuuuuuup?


YO YO SUP I GOT MUNNEH IN THE BANK, SHAWTY WHAT YA DRANK?



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04 Jan 2013, 1:22 am

BlueMax wrote:
DialAForAwesome wrote:
HEEEEEYYYYYY WASSUP SWEET THANG?!?!??!?! :lol:


I think 2013 will be the year that the words "Heyy guuurl" will justify manslaughter. ;)


I can see why you'd be annoyed if people kept shouting them at you. :P


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04 Jan 2013, 4:20 am

Who_Am_I wrote:
BlueMax wrote:
DialAForAwesome wrote:
HEEEEEYYYYYY WASSUP SWEET THANG?!?!??!?! :lol:

I think 2013 will be the year that the words "Heyy guuurl" will justify manslaughter. ;)

I can see why you'd be annoyed if people kept shouting them at you. :P

Actually, yes! Like I said in another thread, any man can get a small taste of it by walking into a high-commission store where the money-hungry salesbeasts won't leave you alone! Even if some are well-meaning and helpful, the greedy scum leave such a bad aftertaste the first impulse is to tell the next employee to f**k OFF, regardless of how friendly he is!



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04 Jan 2013, 5:53 am

billiscool wrote:
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billiscool wrote:
maybe go somewhere where the men can't find you. where are these guys at? if these guys are always at certain place, maybe you could find a new location to hang out at.


Unfortunately I follow specific teams and they always play at the same places. I'm not going to punish my teams by withdrawing my support because of these guys. And even if I do move sections, there's usually new blokes who want to cause trouble.

Hell, even sitting in the same place all the time there's always one new bloke who wants to try it on every so often. It's ok when they take the rejection well (like I said I've made a few friends) but usually they're like "whatever *naughty word*" and storm off. Then I feel bad for the next few minutes (until I see my crush and it's like :heart: lol).

Plus all my new friends (male and female) are there and on the times where I don't get annoyed I have a really good time (pending team winning LOL).


hey, today I got reject by two women and I was cool with it. I did not call them names.
who are these guys who are asking you out. They seriously insult you. what jerks.
I've found that guys are more likely to be insulting when their mates are there, and it seems that the insults and snide remarks are proportional to how many of his mates are around. Ego perhaps?


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04 Jan 2013, 6:22 am

So what do you tend to say? Something like, "you're not my type" This seems to be a polite way for him to get the idea to leave you alone and there is no way for him to argue around that. You made it clear.



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04 Jan 2013, 7:35 am

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So what do you tend to say? Something like, "you're not my type" This seems to be a polite way for him to get the idea to leave you alone and there is no way for him to argue around that. You made it clear.


It should make it clear enough, but unfortunately there are also a lot of guys that don't like to take no for an answer that easily. I and any of my girlfriends always try politely at first.


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04 Jan 2013, 7:40 am

If the tone being used is sort of flirty, then it's not really that clear.



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04 Jan 2013, 8:37 am

Shau wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
:lol:
heyyyyyy wasssuuuuuuup?


YO YO SUP I GOT MUNNEH IN THE BANK, SHAWTY WHAT YA DRANK?

:P darnit if people are talking to me then my plan just backfired.

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to the people above asking how to respond to men who approach, i try to be funny, like in this art class a few years ago where i had painted myself with a bare shoulder:

HIM: "your self-portrait is captivating. i'd like to see the rest of that painting. you should come over for some wine after class."
ME: "do you have enough for my husband too?"

(it made him laugh and got the message across that i was not interested. never mind that he said, "sure!! !! !! that sounds great!! !! !" he did understand that i was saying no. :lol: )


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04 Jan 2013, 8:50 am

It looks to me like he stopped hitting on you because you mentioned your husband. Had you adopted this funny style with him while not clarifying that you were married, it would've been likely he would've continued and not take it as you not being interested. They would take it as a challenge instead.

Best way for such issue is to use a polite but strict tone and say "I'm not interested", move forward out of his way and don't play along.



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04 Jan 2013, 8:52 am

MCalavera wrote:
It looks to me like he stopped hitting on you because you mentioned your husband. Had you adopted this funny style with him while not clarifying that you were married, it would've been likely he would've continued and not take it as you not being interested. They would take it as a challenge instead.

Best way for such issue is to use a polite but strict tone and say "I'm not interested", move forward out of his way and don't play along.

oh, i would have made up a boyfriend or husband in that case.


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04 Jan 2013, 1:24 pm

MCalavera wrote:
If the tone being used is sort of flirty, then it's not really that clear.


Neutral, polite and/or firm answer should be clear enough. Any woman I know has examples of men that don't give up that fast unfortunately.


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