Feeling ugly, flat chested and that I'm not good enough

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I texted him last night and said "I wish guys could walk around pantsless so I could check out their cocks and compare them to your cute, little macaroni noodle." I followed it up saying I wasn't serious but that he should know how I felt.

He's smart, understanding, handome, witty, and so many other things. This is the only catch.

@hyperlexian He makes me feel loved and wanted, and he's undersaltanding. He makes me happy.

@BlueMax He said last night he won't talk about female anatomy in front of me anymore. I think that's a simple thing to ask. Aren't there better things to talk about than lust for other women?

Well... just be aware that sweeping this under the carpet won't make it go away. It WILL rear its ugly head again until you deal with it.

Okay. I will leave it at this: I've told you about my own experience with my ex. It seems to me like you're in a state of denial. The reason why I'm saying this is because you keep coming back to WP and posting some pretty horrendous stuff that he's saying that hurts you immensely. I guess you will learn the hard way like I did, and have your heart broken. I can see all the signs are there that this isn't going to be the last time you're going to come to the Love and Dating section complaining about the same ways that he's hurting you. You'll either grow tired of constantly being hurt, or you guys will grow apart. The more this goes on, the worse the verbal abuse is going to get. I honestly don't see why I should continue posting on your threads if you won't take our advice. Are you only here to vent, or do you actually want advice?

If all women walked around topless, it wouldn't be long before nobody paid any attention at all. It would quickly become a case of "if you've seen one, you've seen them all".

Seriously speaking, we autistics are often caught in a squeeze play by individuals who use degradation combined with approval that gives us the feeling that we are worthless to the world and that the manipulating individual is the only one for us. Be careful. I'm not asking you to jump to a conclusion, but watch for a repeating pattern of behaviors or statements that make you feel unworthy to the world in general, but uniquely acceptable to your boyfriend. If you see that repeating pattern, that may be a sign of a very cruel form of controlling behavior.

I can't tell you how many times people have tried to put me into a position where they have absolute control. They use that sort of pattern as what I described above. In fact, it's usually a three-step process: 1) They try to convince me that what I am doing is wrong; then, 2) They try to convince me that what I'm doing is right, but the way I'm doing it is wrong; and finally, 3) They to try to convince me that what I'm doing is right and the way I'm doing it is the right way, but the fact that I personally did it makes it wrong. I first noticed that pattern from a family member when I was four years old. At that time, I figured out what was going on, so it had no effect and when others have attempted the same thing, I've simply projected the oblivious aura that autistics can. Watch out for anyone who pulls your heart or your self esteem back and forth. That technique has been attempted by members of my family, friends, coworkers, and over half of the managers I have worked for. It is one of the primary modes of operation for those who use bully force. And, it is a primary technique of those who are sadistically cruel.

I hope things work out for you, and I hope you're feeling better.

Post note: I'm currently training my Dragon Dictate speech to text system. So I came back and manually edited this post, due to some errors.

@Kinme He is anything but abusive. He isn't abusive. He's just incredibly ignorant about what not to say around me, although this has only happened twice. Also, he's never had a girlfriend before so he has never had to learn what does/n't hurt a girl. But as I said earlier, we agreed last night that if I'm there with him there are better things to talk about than women's anatomy.

honestly it just sounds like a case of immaturity, after all she is only 19. she might be super smart and adult idealistic. But the guy (assuming he is young too) is going to say stupid stuff for his age. That's what people do when they grow up.