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16 Mar 2013, 8:52 am

Wolfheart wrote:
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I've always been most attracted towards men that are intelligent, clever, and usually have interests/passions that are more logic based rather than art-based.


There goes my chances, haha. :P


and my chances go up! Huzzah!
There might be a dominating "look" in culture (media) but everyone has different tastes.

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^^^ That girl looks like she's made of plastic... it's... unnerving. :?


She's not even attractive.


Example.. I find this first girl much more attractive ... and I'm sure many people would disagree.
I could find a more concrete example, but I'm lazy and this is what google gave me.

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16 Mar 2013, 8:54 am

To each their own. Example: A girl i sort of know only dates men with bald heads (captain picard fetish or something), one of my friends only likes round girls with girl-ish faces, another likes people that share the same interests. There really is no real generic rule that says what everyone likes, except for some research that says that a certain face-symmetric relationship that is said to project healthiness and the ability to produce genetically sound children.


Myself, i am at first attracted to the physical apperance. Then i try to get to know her. If her values are way too much different than mine, it does not matter if she is the most beautiful girl on the planet - once i label someone as an idiot, i cannot stand being the same room as such a person.

I prefer girls/women who
- are somewhat attractive (at least that, looks isn't everything, but honestly - it is what attract people first.)
- uses her brain (and have interests other than to socialise with other people)
- want a career (which proves that she cares for herself and want to do something with her life)
- have empathy (and can "put herself in other peoples shoes")
- asks questions rather than to become upset by assuming things like my moron sisters who starts screaming
- have life experience and isn't a spoiled bimbo who have never worked for anything in her entire life

Note that that is what *i* find attractive. I have dated such girls/women before, but once they take out a cigarette or mentions how much she wants kids or how much she dislikes immigrants, she does not attract me any more and what little life there is left of the date, is heading fast toward the mortuary. All of this regardless of her looks and facial symmetry.

(I know, i'm gonna die alone).


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16 Mar 2013, 9:36 am

You people are talking about exceptions but there are physical and personality features which are seen attractive by the majority.

For example, many of you, especially the ladies here, repeat stuff like: "women don't like whiners", "women like confidence" , usually as replies to a male member who's whining.
Aren't those generalization statements too? maybe some emo girls on this planet like whiny boys with zero confidence.

But you're totally right, you're talking about the majority of cases and you know it but the thing I find funny when you deny the same for the physical features.



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16 Mar 2013, 2:31 pm

Assembly wrote:
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Faces are the most important physical feature, imo. Everything else I can effectively ignore (except for really extreme cases of like, obesity for instance). Otherwise, actually liking the person is a plus for me. ;B


That's pretty shallow...


We're hardwired, genetically programmed to be attracted som some with "good genes".
People who are "pretty" usually have a better immunesystem, they are more intelligent (contrary to what people may believe).
It's like we try to surpress our natural instincts and apologize for who we are. Sure, personality is important, but never once have I been attracted to a person with bad looks and great personality. Though I've been attracted to girls with an appealing exterior only to find out that they have a "bad personality". If that's shallow then theres nothing wrong with being shallow. Everyone are whether they like it or not.
I don't think we should apply moral codes to -or over intellectualize human attraction.


I agree that it's hard-wired

I'm guilty of it myself - I've tolerated appalling behaviour off another person because I fancied them, even though I hated myself for it :(

I don't like to be judged on my looks but I do it to others in my head. I think I differ from a lot of people in not wanting to upset other people with my views though ie I'd always keep them to myself. Also my form of judgement would go something like 'That person looks unattractive, I bet they have a hard time in life' rather than 'God that person looks awful, hope they keep away form me!' ie I have a sympathetic opinion rather than a nasty one. This is because I can sympathise with them having been judged on my own looks. I sometimes try and imagine if I'd be less sympathetic if I was stunningly attractive but it's impossible to know.

So while I think most people can't avoid judging others to some extent, they can avoid making a person feel bad with their opinion.



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16 Mar 2013, 9:21 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
You people are talking about exceptions but there are physical and personality features which are seen attractive by the majority.

For example, many of you, especially the ladies here, repeat stuff like: "women don't like whiners", "women like confidence" , usually as replies to a male member who's whining.
Aren't those generalization statements too? maybe some emo girls on this planet like whiny boys with zero confidence.

But you're totally right, you're talking about the majority of cases and you know it but the thing I find funny when you deny the same for the physical features.


Yeah, there are certainly certain features that are seen as more attractive by the majority of people in the whole world even.
But a lot of people that don't posses any of these 'typically attractive' features still find love. Because they know how to dress, the have a positive aura, smile alot, warm personality, etc...



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16 Mar 2013, 10:06 pm

Ichinin wrote:
To each their own. Example: A girl i sort of know only dates men with bald heads (captain picard fetish or something), one of my friends only likes round girls with girl-ish faces, another likes people that share the same interests. There really is no real generic rule that says what everyone likes, except for some research that says that a certain face-symmetric relationship that is said to project healthiness and the ability to produce genetically sound children.


Myself, i am at first attracted to the physical apperance. Then i try to get to know her. If her values are way too much different than mine, it does not matter if she is the most beautiful girl on the planet - once i label someone as an idiot, i cannot stand being the same room as such a person.

I prefer girls/women who
- are somewhat attractive (at least that, looks isn't everything, but honestly - it is what attract people first.)
- uses her brain (and have interests other than to socialise with other people)
- want a career (which proves that she cares for herself and want to do something with her life)
- have empathy (and can "put herself in other peoples shoes")
- asks questions rather than to become upset by assuming things like my moron sisters who starts screaming
- have life experience and isn't a spoiled bimbo who have never worked for anything in her entire life

Note that that is what *i* find attractive. I have dated such girls/women before, but once they take out a cigarette or mentions how much she wants kids or how much she dislikes immigrants, she does not attract me any more and what little life there is left of the date, is heading fast toward the mortuary. All of this regardless of her looks and facial symmetry.

(I know, i'm gonna die alone).


I think you could generalize that most people (especially people with aspergers) are attracted to people who are intelligent. I agree with pretty much all you listed too, great points man.