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18 Feb 2013, 9:47 am

Don't people enjoy flirting with people of the opposite sex even though they're in a relationship? Does it really do any harm? I think the problem is when people take flirting to mean more than is intended.

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18 Feb 2013, 9:59 am

HauntedKnight wrote:

Flirt on the go is ok but when one SEEKS for flirts then it's....confusing for others.

Either way, it's an ape thing.

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18 Feb 2013, 11:25 am

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Do they? I don't start random conversations with people without a reason. I have a hard time accepting that a woman would start a conversation with me for absolutely no reason. If she's talking to me, she must want something. If that something is not obvious, I become suspicious.

1. People are social animals.
2. If you don't talk to strangers, you'll never make friends.
3. People talk to strangers.

I don't want to derail this thread, but... why is someone going to want to make friends with me if they don't know anything about me? Why would they intentionally seek out new friendships with random people?

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18 Feb 2013, 1:20 pm

Beef_n00dles wrote:

I've noticed some women can feel trapped at some point when things start to get more serious, and they have a subconscious desire to be a free bird again and get to enjoy another's skies.

^That, exactly. While I am married and faithful to my husband, I miss the flirting and the thrill of the new.

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18 Feb 2013, 3:20 pm

B3dsage wrote:

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It is used by the minority of women. Most of us have better ethics plus we actually don't enjoy playing manipulatively.

Are there any studies on this? If not, why should I accept your claim. My own anecdotal evidence suggests that most women actually do engage in this sort of ego-inflating manipulation.

mine too.

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18 Feb 2013, 4:39 pm

B3dsage wrote:

Who_Am_I wrote:

B3dsage wrote:

1. People are social animals.
2. If you don't talk to strangers, you'll never make friends.
3. People talk to strangers.

Because most people enjoy socialising even if they don't know the person. They get some kind of nice feeling out of just having human contact. They seek out friendships because they're willing to take the chance on whether or not you'd be a suitable friend.

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19 Feb 2013, 2:47 pm

ok

I am an NT guy who has been talking with aan old gf who is AS but thats the first time. i do have lots of experience with NT women

women often will say I havea bf just as a watning as they think its will scare of guys. some actually have a BF and its not a serious one some women keep a cast of safe guys around till the right one comes. its kinda sh***y to do this but many do. some girls are just flirty some are bad. and some are just programmed to assume you ant them even when just talking

what had worked for me . act like you never heard them say its. the i got a man is relevant as i like vanilla ice cream. so oh sure i bet he is a nice then change the subject . often times you find the supposed bf disolves.
reading people is hard enough not having AS but it can be done. I got so good at it ythat i have to not think along those lines when dealling with the AS girl I know. as she often will try to be as one of the AS girls but it comes off lousy.

so simply A girl says I have e BF oh ok cool well so where do u live . etc hear it acknowledge it then change subject.

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19 Feb 2013, 6:42 pm

wtfid2 wrote:

B3dsage wrote:

Are there any studies on this? If not, why should I accept your claim. My own anecdotal evidence suggests that most women actually do engage in this sort of ego-inflating manipulation.

mine too.

My own anecdotal evidence is that most guys I run into are nice guys*. I doubt most men are nice guys (and to put things in perspective, I only have myself as an example,).

*Nice guys in the colloquial sense. I'm sure you're all familiar.

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21 Feb 2013, 4:23 pm

I don't think you can't paint this behavior across all NTs. I've even seen it with an Aspie female.

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