21 Mar 2013, 11:45 pm
ShelbyGt500 wrote:
uwmonkdm wrote:
aspiesandra27 wrote:
danmac wrote:
uwmonkdm wrote:
Old people say everyone looks good.
when you get old you will know why. I'm at the point now that 21 is too young, mostly, I know a few that I could see myself with(one with my NLD!) but I do think there cute. when I was younger I was more judgmental, but as for looks over personality, not anymore.
Nah, I don't think everyone looks good. I prefer a good vintage wine anytime.
I meant like, people old enough to be grandparents.. like the 50 year old in OP's post.
I'm 57, so I can put old bit of perspective on this. However, keep in mind that the gift of autism has left me with a more youthful mind that most of my chronological peers. That said, I have to say that I only find a woman attractive in a physical sense if she's really good-looking. However, I don't find someone who is unattractive or even ugly to be offensive. I think that is the difference. After you've been around a while, someone you like or who is a nice person looks good. It's one of those Association things. Regardless of how their face looks, it is their identifier. And, if that identifies something good, then we are glad to see it. So in that odd sort of way, someone who is not attractive, is good-looking because we are glad to see them. So I think that perspective is based on life experience. And, I suppose you could also call it "an acquired appreciation." Does that make sense?
I know exactly what you mean - but I didn't want to take the time to explain it so thoroughly
I'm only nearing 24 years old and I've already experienced this phenomenon. I used to be extremely shallow and do the whole "rate girls 1-10" thing or whatever; my attraction varies widely now to many types of women that in the past I would have shrugged off.
Pretty much every 18-20 year old girl who isn't like obese or hideous is now attractive in some way to me. I think youth becomes synonymous with beauty after a while, as well as the refreshing carefree attitude that comes with it.
21 Mar 2013, 11:52 pm
uwmonkdm wrote:
ShelbyGt500 wrote:
uwmonkdm wrote:
aspiesandra27 wrote:
danmac wrote:
uwmonkdm wrote:
Old people say everyone looks good.
when you get old you will know why. I'm at the point now that 21 is too young, mostly, I know a few that I could see myself with(one with my NLD!) but I do think there cute. when I was younger I was more judgmental, but as for looks over personality, not anymore.
Nah, I don't think everyone looks good. I prefer a good vintage wine anytime.
I meant like, people old enough to be grandparents.. like the 50 year old in OP's post.
I'm 57, so I can put old bit of perspective on this. However, keep in mind that the gift of autism has left me with a more youthful mind that most of my chronological peers. That said, I have to say that I only find a woman attractive in a physical sense if she's really good-looking. However, I don't find someone who is unattractive or even ugly to be offensive. I think that is the difference. After you've been around a while, someone you like or who is a nice person looks good. It's one of those Association things. Regardless of how their face looks, it is their identifier. And, if that identifies something good, then we are glad to see it. So in that odd sort of way, someone who is not attractive, is good-looking because we are glad to see them. So I think that perspective is based on life experience. And, I suppose you could also call it "an acquired appreciation." Does that make sense?
I know exactly what you mean - but I didn't want to take the time to explain it so thoroughly
I'm only nearing 24 years old and I've already experienced this phenomenon. I used to be extremely shallow and do the whole "rate girls 1-10" thing or whatever; my attraction varies widely now to many types of women that in the past I would have shrugged off.
Pretty much every 18-20 year old girl who isn't like obese or hideous is now attractive in some way to me. I think youth becomes synonymous with beauty after a while, as well as the refreshing carefree attitude that comes with it.
Very cool! Autistic people tend to mature and gain from experience very quickly. Most of us psychologically mature to about 27, and after that we keep the youthful perspectives and mindset and continue to benefit from life experience. In a few years, you'll notice that your NT family and friends are getting mentally old. It's tough to watch. Autism has its definite advantages.
22 Mar 2013, 3:39 am
uwmonkdm wrote:
aspiesandra27 wrote:
danmac wrote:
uwmonkdm wrote:
Old people say everyone looks good.
when you get old you will know why. I'm at the point now that 21 is too young, mostly, I know a few that I could see myself with(one with my NLD!) but I do think there cute. when I was younger I was more judgmental, but as for looks over personality, not anymore.
Nah, I don't think everyone looks good. I prefer a good vintage wine anytime.
I meant like, people old enough to be grandparents.. like the 50 year old in OP's post.
perhaps, although i get it from younger people as well. jaaaay! i passed! LOL
My mom is exactly the opposite by the way. She finds almost no one ugly, but no one goodlooking either.
i'll show her a picture of brad pitt, george clooney, johnny depp or whoever. she goes: 'they are all just normal looking'.
22 Mar 2013, 3:43 am
ShamelessGit wrote:
Why were you in France? And where do you normally live? I don't think even socially skilled people are always able to find a boyfriend/girlfriend after only one month, btw. I don't think your neighbors expectation was very fair.
I was in the middle of France, near Tours. And I am from Holland. I went there for my study, half a semester
I didn't go there with the purpose of getting a boyfriend. But I don't think my neighbour expected me to have met a boy specifically there either. I think it was a gerenal question, if you get what i mean...
22 Mar 2013, 11:21 am
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