Getting over someone you can never be with
11 Apr 2013, 5:59 pm
Homer_Bob wrote:
Wow, I feel like I'm reading my own post. I pretty much have gone through the same identical thing. There's a woman I've been crazy about for five years yet we can never be together. She's was one of my best friends. Yet she's a few years older than me which seems to be a problem for her. She has a live in boyfriend and what is upsetting me is that she truly is not that happy with him. Her life still sucks with him in it. She works at a toxic, low paying company and can't afford to live by herself. He does jack sh** to help her get out of it and help her find her way to happiness. He did take her in so she tried to make best of the situation. Yet she told me a week ago, she had to accept being miserable and that her ambitions and dreams have died which really crushed my heart. For someone like me who's in a good financial situation, I almost wish I could swoop in and be the hero but that's me living in a fantasy world. Any how, the only way you are going to be able to get over this person is to truly let them out of your life. If they will never like you back the same way you like them, than it's hopeless, especially if they are in a serious live-in relationship like it was for my case. You don't want to continuously see this woman always date other men, be miserable and still never date you. It is insulting and you should not go through something like that.
It is soooo strange why women willfully let themselves be caught up in a relationship with a bad person. I understand that sometimes they are trapped, because r they don't want to leave because of children. that is the ONLY LEGITIMATE REASON IN THIS FREE SOCIETY. a marriage with children is tricky I will grant that, But GF/BF relationships or even marriages without children, women still indulge in these bad relationships. One may say well he might stalk her or do something bad, well if he is willing to go that far if they break up who is to say he won't do something like that if they are still together.
If anything is true: Women Love a Patriarch as much as they decry it. its ridiculous how they have these relationships and then complain about them saying: " i wish i could meet a nice man" or "i wish he would listen or be more sensitive. "that is total BULL ! !!. they have the opportunities to be with guys who are nice before and after the wedding, before and after having sex , and when all the formalities are broken down .
Then again one may make the argument well, it is just as well, why would you wan to date a woman who goes for a guy like that? if anything its a a good thing it sorts all the weird ones out and to that I Say : Women deserve the bastards they date.. Plain and simple. it is only a paradox when you see an intelligent woman who by all accounts knows better essentially set her own trap steps in it but then complains about the pain and demands an aspirin or who decides to walk out into the African bush late at night but then starts complaining about the Hyena's and Lions.
Ranting....
clearly a majority of women have no real instinct for danger like other animals do nor do they even develop one after a bad experience. When I see a bear getting angry I either run like Hell or get mean and shoot it...
They supposedly have a more developed empathy than men.. That is another stereotype that is total Bull s**t.
Women are just as dumb as men, they only look a little smarter because somehow men get stuck buying the gifts on valentines day when in effect in fact doesn't make a dick of difference in reality.
yeah this looks like a undeserved criticism but is not, its a criticism and it needs be to said. So we can all evolve a little quicker, change the cultural paradigm and stop these guys from reproducing and snub them out into extinction because A jerk begets a jerk..
12 Apr 2013, 3:38 pm
Mitrovah wrote:
Homer_Bob wrote:
Wow, I feel like I'm reading my own post. I pretty much have gone through the same identical thing. There's a woman I've been crazy about for five years yet we can never be together. She's was one of my best friends. Yet she's a few years older than me which seems to be a problem for her. She has a live in boyfriend and what is upsetting me is that she truly is not that happy with him. Her life still sucks with him in it. She works at a toxic, low paying company and can't afford to live by herself. He does jack sh** to help her get out of it and help her find her way to happiness. He did take her in so she tried to make best of the situation. Yet she told me a week ago, she had to accept being miserable and that her ambitions and dreams have died which really crushed my heart. For someone like me who's in a good financial situation, I almost wish I could swoop in and be the hero but that's me living in a fantasy world. Any how, the only way you are going to be able to get over this person is to truly let them out of your life. If they will never like you back the same way you like them, than it's hopeless, especially if they are in a serious live-in relationship like it was for my case. You don't want to continuously see this woman always date other men, be miserable and still never date you. It is insulting and you should not go through something like that.
It is soooo strange why women willfully let themselves be caught up in a relationship with a bad person. I understand that sometimes they are trapped, because r they don't want to leave because of children. that is the ONLY LEGITIMATE REASON IN THIS FREE SOCIETY. a marriage with children is tricky I will grant that, But GF/BF relationships or even marriages without children, women still indulge in these bad relationships. One may say well he might stalk her or do something bad, well if he is willing to go that far if they break up who is to say he won't do something like that if they are still together.
If anything is true: Women Love a Patriarch as much as they decry it. its ridiculous how they have these relationships and then complain about them saying: " i wish i could meet a nice man" or "i wish he would listen or be more sensitive. "that is total BULL ! !!. they have the opportunities to be with guys who are nice before and after the wedding, before and after having sex , and when all the formalities are broken down .
Then again one may make the argument well, it is just as well, why would you wan to date a woman who goes for a guy like that? if anything its a a good thing it sorts all the weird ones out and to that I Say : Women deserve the bastards they date.. Plain and simple. it is only a paradox when you see an intelligent woman who by all accounts knows better essentially set her own trap steps in it but then complains about the pain and demands an aspirin or who decides to walk out into the African bush late at night but then starts complaining about the Hyena's and Lions.
Ranting....
clearly a majority of women have no real instinct for danger like other animals do nor do they even develop one after a bad experience. When I see a bear getting angry I either run like Hell or get mean and shoot it...
They supposedly have a more developed empathy than men.. That is another stereotype that is total Bull sh**.
Women are just as dumb as men, they only look a little smarter because somehow men get stuck buying the gifts on valentines day when in effect in fact doesn't make a dick of difference in reality.
yeah this looks like a undeserved criticism but is not, its a criticism and it needs be to said. So we can all evolve a little quicker, change the cultural paradigm and stop these guys from reproducing and snub them out into extinction because A jerk begets a jerk..
I'm not sure how many people even understand what is going on in a relationship unless they are in one or see it happening. Sometimes, all you hear is "My boyfriend is such a jerk" because the two got into a fight and it might be blown out of proportion.
I am starting to notice there is no "nice guy-bad guy" dynamic in a relationship. Everyone has their desires and intentions. I am starting to notice more that the differences are between being practical and being emotional. Women tend to lean towards the practical type more than they do the emotional type.
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13 Apr 2013, 10:57 am
I might do my volunteer work with the British Heart Foundation again like i did in the past if i can accommodate it around my job. I do intend to join a local gym though will be good to go to after work etc.
She gave everyone the impression including myself that she liked me, i could kick myself now for not asking her on a date or something at the time. ( i had no feelings for her at the time), then when i did get feelings for her and made them known she said she was sorry that she gave me the impression she liked me and that she did everything to try give me some confidence, if that’s true or not i don’t know or if she was interested in me but then lost interest i will never know and doesn’t matter as its long in the past.
I wish i had dealt with it then to be honest, but it’s a lesson i have learnt and won’t make again i wouldnt have been in this problem if i stopped hanging out with her ages ago.
your correct Homer Bob i wouldnt bare to see her date other men, and still never date me.
Thank you for all the messages everyone, i will learn from this and not let a similar situation develop again in the future
