Staring girl

Page 3 of 5 [ 80 posts ] Go to page Previous 1, 2, 3, 4, 5 Next

Previous topic | Next topic

wester13
Yellow-bellied Woodpecker

Joined: 12 Apr 2013
Gender: Male
Posts: 69

14 Apr 2013, 5:01 pm

Lilya wrote:

Wolfheart wrote:

Don't be a p****, talk to her and nail her.

Wolf, stop acting like a douche. So much for the "improvement", then.

Not everyone treats women as disposable property.

It's difficult to answer to OP not having seen the situation. This girl may (if she actually is) staring him for various reasons, not necessary in terms of being romantically interested in him. Just let her be, especially as she has a boyfriend.

what if she is a serial killer and i may be her next victim

MXH
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 28 Jul 2010
Age: 35
Gender: Male
Posts: 13,057
Location: Here i stand and face the rain

14 Apr 2013, 5:12 pm

wester13 wrote:

Lilya wrote:

Wolfheart wrote:

Don't be a p****, talk to her and nail her.

what if she is a serial killer and i may be her next victim

Sounds like you're getting laid...
To rest

Who_Am_I
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 27 Aug 2005
Age: 42
Gender: Female
Posts: 12,632
Location: Australia

14 Apr 2013, 5:38 pm

Everyone who is saying "don't be a p****, just nail her" and "he's just a boyfriend, it's not like they're married": I hope that if you ever find someone, they cheat on you, and then turn around and say "well it's not like we were married or anything".

_________________
Music Theory 101: Cadences.
Authentic cadence: V-I
Plagal cadence: IV-I
Deceptive cadence: V- ANYTHING BUT I ! !! !
Beethoven cadence: V-I-V-I-V-V-V-I-I-I-I-I-I-I-I-I-I-I
-I-I-I-I-I-I-I-I! I! I! I I I

BlueMax
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 27 Aug 2007
Age: 52
Gender: Male
Posts: 5,285

14 Apr 2013, 5:52 pm

Who_Am_I wrote:

Fortunately, I think only 1-2 people are actually saying that... and I can see two outcomes for them:

a) he expects her to cheat anyway, since she cheated to come to you in the first place - doesn't care and finds more targets
b) expects her to come running to him and stay forever - is shocked/horrified if she doesn't.

:shrug:

1000Knives
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 8 Jul 2011
Age: 35
Gender: Male
Posts: 5,036
Location: CT, USA

14 Apr 2013, 7:18 pm

Who_Am_I wrote:

I'm not suggesting that he actively chases her, just if he does have feelings after getting to know said girl, tell her. Dating is to find a person to marry, I'd say it'd only be unethical if she was engaged. I'm also not suggesting for them to date behind the boyfriend's back, either. If she likes him more, she leaves the boyfriend, if she doesn't leave, nothing should happen between them. She's given the choice of one or the other. She can do what she wishes.

I know lots of people, too, make basically....contingency plans, and keep people in mind as an alternative in case trouble comes in a relationship. My sister had an abusive boyfriend, for whatever reason, and was talking to a "nice guy" on the side. Once things erupted with abusive a**hole boyfriend, she went out with "nice guy." People'll date someone they don't like, or liked initially but don't like now for whatever reason, and then they'll start looking around for new people. Not that that's wise per se, but it's their way of correcting their problem they created by not being honest with themselves and what their actual wishes are from a relationship. Or they're not able to be honest with their partner they don't like (sometimes not their fault, for example, abuse) and end things, and stick around just because they hate being alone.

Anyway, if I were you, I'd pretend she's not staring at you and don't acknowledge her existence. There. That's what I'd actually do in real life because I'm a p****.

Geekonychus
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 15 Nov 2012
Age: 40
Gender: Male
Posts: 1,660

15 Apr 2013, 10:53 am

1000Knives wrote:

Who_Am_I wrote:

I'm not suggesting that he actively chases her, just if he does have feelings after getting to know said girl, tell her. Dating is to find a person to marry, I'd say it'd only be unethical if she was engaged. I'm also not suggesting for them to date behind the boyfriend's back, either. If she likes him more, she leaves the boyfriend, if she doesn't leave, nothing should happen between them. She's given the choice of one or the other. She can do what she wishes.

I know lots of people, too, make basically....contingency plans, and keep people in mind as an alternative in case trouble comes in a relationship. My sister had an abusive boyfriend, for whatever reason, and was talking to a "nice guy" on the side. Once things erupted with abusive as*hole boyfriend, she went out with "nice guy." People'll date someone they don't like, or liked initially but don't like now for whatever reason, and then they'll start looking around for new people. Not that that's wise per se, but it's their way of correcting their problem they created by not being honest with themselves and what their actual wishes are from a relationship. Or they're not able to be honest with their partner they don't like (sometimes not their fault, for example, abuse) and end things, and stick around just because they hate being alone.

Anyway, if I were you, I'd pretend she's not staring at you and don't acknowledge her existence. There. That's what I'd actually do in real life because I'm a p****.

I think this is a very reasonable argument here and not as a****lish as wolf's advice.

Wolfheart
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 17 Feb 2011
Age: 36
Gender: Male
Posts: 2,971
Location: Kent, England

15 Apr 2013, 10:58 am

Who_Am_I wrote:

Screw it, the woman might be a cheat, dude just meet a decent girl that is single and won't cheat. Don't lower your standards if your standards don't match up or at least don't morally lower them.

MXH
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 28 Jul 2010
Age: 35
Gender: Male
Posts: 13,057
Location: Here i stand and face the rain

15 Apr 2013, 11:22 am

Wolfheart wrote:

Who_Am_I wrote:

Screw it, the woman might be a cheat, dude just meet a decent girl that is single and won't cheat. Don't lower your standards if your standards don't match up or at least don't morally lower them.

You really are clueless of when to stop aren't you?

Lilya
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 17 Mar 2011
Gender: Female
Posts: 1,600
Location: Finland

15 Apr 2013, 11:37 am

Wolfheart wrote:

Who_Am_I wrote:

Screw it, the woman might be a cheat, dude just meet a decent girl that is single and won't cheat. Don't lower your standards if your standards don't match up or at least don't morally lower them.

So, you can cheat a girl, but a girl can't cheat you?

_________________
It's not the sinful, but the stupid who are our shame - Oscar Wilde

AspieOtaku
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 17 Feb 2012
Age: 44
Gender: Male
Posts: 13,051
Location: San Jose

15 Apr 2013, 12:13 pm

Wolf reminds me of a Britsh Johnny Bravo hehe!

_________________
Your Aspie score is 193 of 200
Your neurotypical score is 40 of 200
You are very likely an aspie
No matter where I go I will always be a Gaijin even at home. Like Anime? https://kissanime.to/AnimeList

Wolfheart
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 17 Feb 2011
Age: 36
Gender: Male
Posts: 2,971
Location: Kent, England

15 Apr 2013, 12:24 pm

Lilya wrote:

Wolfheart wrote:

Who_Am_I wrote:

Screw it, the woman might be a cheat, dude just meet a decent girl that is single and won't cheat. Don't lower your standards if your standards don't match up or at least don't morally lower them.

So, you can cheat a girl, but a girl can't cheat you?

No, I am saying any type of cheating is immorally wrong and it isn't acceptable.

MXH
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 28 Jul 2010
Age: 35
Gender: Male
Posts: 13,057
Location: Here i stand and face the rain

15 Apr 2013, 12:26 pm

AspieOtaku wrote:

Wolf reminds me of a Britsh Johnny Bravo hehe!

Pretty much down to the T

MXH
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 28 Jul 2010
Age: 35
Gender: Male
Posts: 13,057
Location: Here i stand and face the rain

15 Apr 2013, 12:28 pm

Wolfheart wrote:

Lilya wrote:

Wolfheart wrote:

Who_Am_I wrote:

Screw it, the woman might be a cheat, dude just meet a decent girl that is single and won't cheat. Don't lower your standards if your standards don't match up or at least don't morally lower them.

So, you can cheat a girl, but a girl can't cheat you?

No, I am saying any type of cheating is immorally wrong and it isn't acceptable.

I have a feeling we aren't reading the same thread, cause clearly you just told someone to cheat and have cheated yourself. Yet its immoral if its done to you?

JanuaryMan
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 1 Jan 2012
Age: 41
Gender: Male
Posts: 3,359

15 Apr 2013, 12:28 pm

You can't flipflop on things like cheating in the space of 24-48 hours. Seriously, when you say something just stick to your guns even if it's really moronic and progressively learn from it. Don't just throw out varying conflicting statements til one of them wins people over.

When you say 1 lot of things you have at least 1 lot of people that might relate. When you say 2 or 3 different things you will have no one agree with you.

MXH
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 28 Jul 2010
Age: 35
Gender: Male
Posts: 13,057
Location: Here i stand and face the rain

15 Apr 2013, 12:44 pm

JanuaryMan wrote:

Its how he has been since he joined in wp.

Wolfheart
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 17 Feb 2011
Age: 36
Gender: Male
Posts: 2,971
Location: Kent, England

15 Apr 2013, 12:52 pm

MXH wrote:

JanuaryMan wrote:

Its how he has been since he joined in wp.

Cheating is unaccceptable..he shouldn't get involved with a girl who cheats in the first place.

Page 3 of 5 [ 80 posts ] Go to page Previous 1, 2, 3, 4, 5 Next

Jump to:

Staring girl Post Reply New Topic

Staring girl