are men chasing after small percent of single women

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Men have it much worse, look at the numbers.

The overweight man got 0 while the overweight woman got 11 - that means the overweight man wasn't even messaged by fellow overweight women! So who's more picky? Women obviously, by far.

The gorgeous women there get hundred of messages simply because they are much more likely to receive flirts (and pervy msgs) from overseas.

That doesn't mean the 2 average women aren't getting dates, each one of them got a nb of msgs (76, 48 ) more than all men. I bet they can date as frequently as the 2 gorgeous women.


And believe me, the woman with the lowest score would probably still getting more dates than the guys there; I know a girl on okc who is very overweight and she's like have already met half of the active male members there.

This isn't logical as these women are matching up with men ie men are getting a date

Also a lot of messages off men to women on dating sites are requests for sex - neither side is taking things seriously with those messages

maybe on online dating, women do better. But in real life, there are far more single women than men, or at least in u.s on average.
when I use to listen to MRA, I thought that 90% of women were dating small percent of men, but since doing more study on this issues.
I found out that there more single women than men, and most men and women are into monogamous relations, and small percent
of the population are promiscuous. and the promiscuous people are sleeping with each other.
here a link: http://www.hookingupsmart.com/2012/08/0 ... by-gender/

it's for college students only.

http://www.hookingupsmart.com/2010/09/1 ... principle/

Do you think this is your 'special interest'?

Oh, I got alots of special interest. When I use to go on MRA sites, and listen to men on the internet, saying thing like ''90% of women are dating, 10% of the men,
who are the bad boys'' but when I start looking into stats from various source, I started notice, that no stats support any of these men saying.

and when I found out that there more single women than single men in u.s on average, it also debunked alot of these MRA guys claim.
I myself at one times, thought is was impossible for a woman to be single, that all woman can get a date or laid, just like that.

after more reasearch, I found out that there are tons of women of all types, that are single.

I think the problem with the MRA and the internet nice guys is that they are too focous on the pretty promiscuous girls, who are small
minority of women, and they are the one's who are sleeping with the bad boys and the alpha male.

and the problem with the MRA and the internet nice guys, and wannabe PUA guys is that these men are chasing after a small
percent of women, and when they can't get these women to date them, either by their fault or the women's fault,
they go on the net and complain how women are so ''shallow'' , yet these same men, would not date a fat woman, woman over 40,
and other types of women.


if you listen to MRA, internet nice guys, and wannabe PUA, you would believe that no women are single, and all women
wants the bad boy and the alpha male.

most women wants a variety of men, and so do most men. it just a small percent of men and women who are after the alpha male
or the party girl.

maybe, it not that single men are after a small percent of women, but MRA, internet nice guys, and PUA are after a small percent of women.
That would be a better title. and to be honest, that who I should have direct towards to in the first place, not all single men, so Im bad on that.
Not a great writer, and a not that smart, so sometimes my mind a little behind.

I like that you've evidently studied this subject in great detail and noticed some interesting trends

People who are unsuccessful in any field usually find some way of justifying it to themselves to the extent that it isn't their
fault due to x,y,z, to make themselves feel better

"and the problem with the MRA and the internet nice guys, and wannabe PUA guys is that these men are chasing after a small
percent of women, and when they can't get these women to date them, either by their fault or the women's fault,
they go on the net and complain how women are so ''shallow'' , yet these same men, would not date a fat woman, woman over 40, and other types of women."

This is very accurate!

The more realistic about themself a person is and the more respectful to ALL people, the more likely a person is to find a relationship with a decent person in my opinion. It's all about respect for others, knowing yourself and not taking yourself too seriously.

Very true. But not the entire picture.

Take 6 men and 6 women, for example.

2 of the men sleep with 4 of the women.

Number of sexual partners (men):

4
4
0
0
0
0

8/6 = 1.33

Women:

2
2
2
2
0
0

8/6=1.33

So same number of sexual partners, on average. However, the use of mean in this case is flawed. I think median would be a better measure.

Median would be:

Men: 0

Women: 2

it's call bias sample size, it something that the anti gays do alot. so what alot of mra and internet nice guys do, is they take the pretty, party type girls.
and make it look like these type of girls represent the whole entire women population.

so, yes if you focus only on the ''pretty promiscuous girls'' who hate any men who are not alpha or bad boys, of course you won't have a good thoughts on women.
but the problem with MRA and internet nice guys is that the only type of women they focus on.

I don't why these type of men are always chasing these type of women over and over again, where there probaly a more better nicer quieter sweeter girl,
that would have no problem with them.

It's their biological imperative

Good looks = good genes

I have never seen any evidence any where that shows women having way more partner than men. yes, there are more women who had sex than men,
1.4% of men and 0.4% of women never had sex, by age 44.

So three times more men? Not exactly helping your case.

yes, but there are way more men sleeping with a high number partners than women are.

not really, men say they sleep with more, and women saythey sleep with less. its all saying. and I say im the king of the willywonka castle in nevereverland

Interesting. It sounds pretty low for both sides. I bet, however:

1. Men are more likely to have developmental and other neurological disabilities, Downs, Autism (even under the most generous estimates finding more than half of HFA women unrecognized, there are still 2-3 x as many autistic men as women), etc.

2. Women are more likely to be asexual.

3. Men are more likely to demonstrate off-putting behaviors, like creeping, but equally likely to have off-putting appearance.

4. The majority of Asian immigrants, by far, are men.

It takes quite a bit to be in the bottom 1% of men, I think. If you have a job, take care of yourself, and are not creepy, there is no reason to be there.

Matching up as finding her long-term match and live happy after? that doesn't happen much on dating sites I guess. Plenty of the users there find their matches in real life.

Also refer to tyrion's post.

There's no stats of actual dating on okc, but based on that:
http://cdn.okcimg.com/blog/your_looks_a ... -Curve.png

"As you can see from the gray line, women rate an incredible 80% of guys as worse-looking than medium. Very harsh. On the other hand, when it comes to actual messaging, women shift their expectations only just slightly ahead of the curve"
http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/your- ... ne-dating/

I don't think many women would date guys whom they don't find attractive.

It's women, not men, who are after a small percentage.

How may one figure out how he/she is rated on average?