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13 May 2013, 7:36 pm

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So, here's my story. I found this gal on OKCupid from Orange County, and she and I have it going along pretty well. Now the big Q, how do I tell her and make it official?

I am just so worried, people.....


Meet her first and then decide if you want to continue dating. After a few dates, then ask her if you can make it exclusive. Technically, you've got a GF from when you start an exclusive dating relationship.


Well...... what do you do when you will only meet her once a year, however?


Then you can still agree to have a long-distance relationship, where most of your contact with her will be on-line. Although, after experiencing one myself, I would probably tell you that those usually end up not working, unfortunately.


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14 May 2013, 3:47 am

equestriatola wrote:
Jono wrote:
equestriatola wrote:
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So, here's my story. I found this gal on OKCupid from Orange County, and she and I have it going along pretty well. Now the big Q, how do I tell her and make it official?

I am just so worried, people.....


Meet her first and then decide if you want to continue dating. After a few dates, then ask her if you can make it exclusive. Technically, you've got a GF from when you start an exclusive dating relationship.


Well...... what do you do when you will only meet her once a year, however?


Then you can still agree to have a long-distance relationship, where most of your contact with her will be on-line. Although, after experiencing one myself, I would probably tell you that those usually end up not working, unfortunately.


Acknowledged. But ya never know, though.


Are you planning to meet her at least once though?



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14 May 2013, 7:54 am

In all likelihood, yes.


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14 May 2013, 5:41 pm

Being 26 w/no experience in this field is no place to be, IMO. That's where I am.


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15 May 2013, 12:21 pm

Well it depends how long you've been talking to her. If you live locally I would wait a couple of weeks before meeting her. If you live long distance I would wait at least one year before meeting up and if you just want to start dating online I guess it's up to you but I'd probably spend at least 2 weeks trying to get to know her.



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15 May 2013, 5:11 pm

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Being 26 w/no experience in this field is no place to be, IMO. That's where I am.


I only started dating at age 31, so you're not the only one. I met a girl on OKCupid and we organised to meet for the first time after getting to know each for a month or so. Anyway, the fact that she lived in another city and neither of could drive meant that we only met 3 times in total in the 6 months we were dating, that's why it was mostly on-line. It turns out that didn't work because sometimes we had no contact for a couple of weeks. I was actually the one trying to hang to it even though it wasn't working until she eventually broke it off. That's why I say that long distance doesn't work.

At that time I had no experience either and I actually thought I would be able to handle not having much contact with a GF because with my AS, I usually can handle being alone and I don't socialise much anyway. That did not turn out to be my experience, however. Actually, I think that I made a thread about it in this forum.



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16 May 2013, 2:28 pm

I first talked to her in Janaury........


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16 May 2013, 2:39 pm

I hope you've taken all the advice not to get so lovey-wuvvy without having even met her...

...but if you insist on professing your undying love to her, I suggest you put your hands on her shoulders, look deeply into her eyes and shake vigorously while you scream,
"I LOVE YOU DAMMIT!! CAN'T YOU SEE THAT I LOVE YOU! YOU'RE GOING TO BE MINE FOREVER WHETHER YOU LIKE IT OR NOT!! !! !"




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16 May 2013, 7:55 pm

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I hope you've taken all the advice not to get so lovey-wuvvy without having even met her...

...but if you insist on professing your undying love to her, I suggest you put your hands on her shoulders, look deeply into her eyes and shake vigorously while you scream,
"I LOVE YOU DAMMIT!! CAN'T YOU SEE THAT I LOVE YOU! YOU'RE GOING TO BE MINE FOREVER WHETHER YOU LIKE IT OR NOT!! !! !"




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A little bit too direct, if ya ask me....


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19 May 2013, 2:55 am

Any other things to say?


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19 May 2013, 3:10 am

equestriatola wrote:
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I hope you've taken all the advice not to get so lovey-wuvvy without having even met her...

...but if you insist on professing your undying love to her, I suggest you put your hands on her shoulders, look deeply into her eyes and shake vigorously while you scream,

"I LOVE YOU DAMMIT!! CAN'T YOU SEE THAT I LOVE YOU! YOU'RE GOING TO BE MINE FOREVER WHETHER YOU LIKE IT OR NOT!! !! !"


:P


A little bit too direct, if ya ask me....


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16 Jun 2013, 12:01 am

So here I am, we're a few weeks out from my visit to L.A.; what am I going to tell her when I meet her? I am a bit scared, guys! Serious advice only, please.


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16 Jun 2013, 1:07 am

Never mind. Everything's alright. Still, I feel like I'm on pins and needles asking her, since she has a friend to see during the con.


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16 Jun 2013, 6:50 pm

I guess I should start with this: "Would you like to spend some time with me at some point during the con?"

Anybody got any other ideas? I am nervous!


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