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10 Oct 2013, 8:49 am

I don;t believe in gravity either. Sadly this does nothing to enable me to float away at will..

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10 Oct 2013, 9:08 am

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I know a lot of my female friends can be motivated by other things like the guys job or standing in the community or how much money he makes, it literally turns them on but if the guy didn't have those attributes they lose interest.

We didn't get off on the best footing but at least your willing to admit that this does exist.

If I ever heard of a man getting turned on by how much Money a woman made I would admit it here too.

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10 Oct 2013, 9:12 am

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I don;t believe in gravity either. Sadly this does nothing to enable me to float away at will..

Gravity is a good scientific theory. Chemistry is more of a mystical idea that may or may not be true but that has yet to be demonstrated to be real.

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10 Oct 2013, 9:13 am

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So it's not some vague chemistry idea, but individual/societal factors the guy has that makes the girl want to be in relationship with him.

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10 Oct 2013, 9:14 am

I nice guy.........

A Nice Guy (TM).......

Based on the existence of this thread i'd say you have some Nice Guy (TM) tendencies you need to work on but you're not a hopeless case. Let go of your bitterness, stop taking rejection so personally and don't treat every woman you are attracted to as some kind of potential savior from your loneliness. Eventually things will aligne for you. Going down the "women only date jerks" route is a ridiculous oversimplification of very complex romantic interactions. You do yourself a serious disservice if you treat this as some kind of dating rule.

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10 Oct 2013, 9:14 am

I already pointed out that that's a false dilemma.

Consider this third nice guy:

Someone who was nice to the girl but ended up being rejected, and him attributing the rejection to him being too nice. Which one does he fit?

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10 Oct 2013, 9:31 am

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Guy 3 is definetly on the Nice Guy(TM) spectrum but not hopelessly so.......

Nobody has ever on the history of the planet (unless they were dating some kind of supervillian) been rejected just for being "too nice." That's just silly. I'm sure that women have used it as an excuse before but that's almost certainly not the real reason. Claiming otherwise just shows a lack of emotional maturity that likely means the person isn't ready to handle a real relationship anyway.

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10 Oct 2013, 9:36 am

So even if he is genuinely nice, he is condemned as the Nice Guy TM instead?

Are genuinely nice people not allowed to make misattributions?

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10 Oct 2013, 9:39 am

On chemistry, interesting read:

http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/shri ... attraction

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10 Oct 2013, 9:44 am

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I don't believe in chemistry. It's really a matter of chance (right time, right place, right mood, right circumstances) that is often mistaken for chemistry.

I don't get this - the science worshipper doesn't believe in chemistry?

Seriously, the right place and right circumstances have a lot to do with it. A lot of people complain about being single, yet never create those circumstances. They'll never talk to anyone when they shop, or out in public. Sometimes circumstances have to be made - there are opportunities (almost) everywhere.

Good article, thanks for posting the link.

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10 Oct 2013, 9:46 am

octobertiger wrote:

MCalavera wrote:

I don't believe in chemistry. It's really a matter of chance (right time, right place, right mood, right circumstances) that is often mistaken for chemistry.

I don't get this - the science worshipper doesn't believe in chemistry?

Finally we agree on something.

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10 Oct 2013, 9:46 am

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I nice guy.........

A Nice Guy (TM).......

Based on the existence of this thread i'd say you have some Nice Guy (TM) tendencies you need to work on but you're not a hopeless case. Let go of your bitterness, stop taking rejection so personally and don't treat every woman you are attracted to as some kind of potential savior from your loneliness. Eventually things will aligne for you. Going down the "women only date jerks" route is a ridiculous oversimplification of very complex romantic interactions. You do yourself a serious disservice if you treat this as some kind of dating rule.

I'm not bitter to women, I'm bitter to guys like you!
You make me laugh. I've rarely been rejected at all, because I've barely asked anyone out.
Women have been kind, considerate, and worthwhile friends to me, why would I be one bit angry at women?
You have a gf, I am supposed to listen to your women won't cure your loneliness point?
I already knew that.
I don't think as this Nice Guy (tm) as you think I do, I honestly thought it was so stupid for a man to think such a thing.
Thing is I am not going to give up being nice. Cody rules posted a good pic,
it said nice guys finish last, but usually finish with a wife and a good savings account.
I find that you assume I'm angry at women who reject me, when they taught me everything I know about how to be appropriate around women, to be quite odd. I'm angry at this nice guy puke, I mean, I've never even felt the first very often let alone the second in your comic.
I like nice girls who enjoy serious long relationships and commitment, not sex in a solo aspect of the concept.

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10 Oct 2013, 9:48 am

MCalavera wrote:

So even if he is genuinely nice, he is condemned as the Nice Guy TM instead?

Are genuinely nice people not allowed to make misattributions?

He doesn't fit all the criteria but he definetly fits some which is why I said it was a spectrum. He's not a full on Nice Guy TM but he's clearly been misinformed and that kind belief of can manifest itself in a resentful attitude.

If nothing changes, before you know it, he's going to be on the cover of a Nice Guy(TM) magazine.........

No self respecting woman would ever want to sleep with someone like that^^^

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10 Oct 2013, 9:50 am

http://www.bbc.co.uk/science/hottopics/love/

Maybe if you try some pheromone spiked aftershave you will feel differently

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10 Oct 2013, 9:53 am

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Ahh. Well. I don't know about your specific situation but I would guess you weren't sensual enough for this gal.
I broke up with a guy once (back when I was a teenager) because he was too nice. I has really liked him and thought he was maybe too shy, but he was just constantly wanting to do things like buy me dinner and then sit silently across from me and would only just hold my hand wouldn't even kiss me and after a while I found this boring and got together with my horrible ex who was a fantastic kisser and while he treated me badly it made life interesting. Nowadays I have learned my lesson and would not go out with either of those (type of) guys, but you have to learn your lessons in life the hard way.

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10 Oct 2013, 9:53 am

Geekonychus wrote:

MCalavera wrote:

Guy 3 is definetly on the Nice Guy(TM) spectrum but not hopelessly so.......

Nobody has ever on the history of the planet (unless they were dating some kind of supervillian) been rejected just for being "too nice." That's just silly. I'm sure that women have used it as an excuse before but that's almost certainly not the real reason. Claiming otherwise just shows a lack of emotional maturity that likely means the person isn't ready to handle a real relationship anyway.

WTF? No I know you are throwing your assumptions of me out of nothing. I am told by most women I'm more mature than most, not the other way around, and that is why they like me as a friend. Most of them had bf, and I was friends with them too. Now I know this is just a fairy tale out of a horses arse.
More mature, learn it, it will help you all.

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