how not to piss off women

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^^Amen to that.Both partners also have to make compromises.It gets tough when you're the one doing all the compromising.

America's 60% divorce rate [and 90% for subsequent marriages] is testament to our dysfunctional culture.

If you threw soft things, that meant they did good right?

In a way ,yes,if they did right,I'd throw myself at them.

I have met a lot of pretty girls in my life, but a vast majority of them are often insecure and look for a constant in their life. That constant has to be able to take care of them and protect them. They don't want to feel like they have to do it, or else they will move on to the next one. They also have the tendency to live in the moment without regards to the future or other people's feelings as well.

and I would say to such of the fairer gender, "who needs ya?" I would rather have peace.

I would rather have peace too. Now of course, some Aspie males can be just as insecure. The difference: Aspie men tend to compare themselves to other men the girl might be interested in and focus too much on status and social skills. Of course, add the sensitivity as mentioned earlier.

I cant think of any way I have pissed off women quicker than by comparing myself to other men in her life. That's a sure-fire way to lose her interest.

I have found that I always seem to bring out the worst in people, and they bring out the worst in me. so solitude it is to be for me. I am not mentally facile sufficient to deal with women or even men.

Because the women like me who tell them when they are being an a**hole and directly say " I don't have to put up with your BS." And actually follow it up with action, the following things happen to them; they get called b*****s, they get called ball breakers and people are intimidated by them - which in the end usually means they would rather date someone else because most NTs hate dealing with conflict directly.

then at least via the direct method you would have saved yourself a lot of wasted time with somebody who was not right for you, via the direct method filter.

Yes. But that's not how most women think. They think if only they find the right way to say it or say it in a less direct and less offensive fashion (like they would if they were dealing with another woman - they forget that men are different or they don't know what motivates or how to communicate with men) that they will get what they want. Most women are under the illusion that being nice will make a man be nice to them. Or at least if they are nice, they think they have less chance of getting dumped. Many women also value the relationship itself overtly much, even when it is deter mental to them and they are loath to let it go, break up or get dumped - being indirect and even passive aggressive about conflict allows them to express themselves about a problem without putting the relationship in danger if ending, and while still allowing hem to think if themselves as "nice" and that therefore the guy must be nice back to them and give them what they want. It's a very transactional system.

It doesn't work of course, it usually only extends relationships that are in computable in the first place, but if you look around you will see it everywhere.

maybe it is a good thing then, that technology is rapidly making F2F communications/relations passé.

but I do have female friends,had gf's before,and other
women I get along with.so,Im not the worst with women.
Im just very mediocre with women.

Last edited by billiscool on 29 Oct 2013, 11:06 pm, edited 1 time in total.

"very mediocre" is still a world better than total failure.

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hPAzinsGGyo[/youtube] Probably not sing this song if so be prepared to run!

The only thing that I have found to be 100% successful in not making women mad is to never be around them. They can't call me creepy, laugh at me, or threaten to call the cops for saying hi to them if I never approach them and remain quiet.