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07 Nov 2013, 10:06 pm

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...when you see a gorgeous-looking girl , like almost movie stars-looking, on a dating site looking for a long-term or soulmate? I always wondered why they would need to resort to places commonly seen as cesspool.
And I can't help it but to suspects something seriously wrong in their personalities/lives lol.


My theory is in a lot of cases they're on the rebound and looking for validation.



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08 Nov 2013, 12:18 am

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For crying out loud, it's not manipulation. They do it because it's rude to just order another adult to do stuff.
You don't have to insist someone do something, but playing with their emotions over it isn't cool either. Just ask nicely, and respect their decision. If its something you physically can't do yourself, most wouldn't have a problem helping.


I don't really see asking someone "would you like to do x?" as playing with their emotions. I don't do it myself (I prefer "Would you please...?") , but I think that "playing with their emotions" is too strong of a term.


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08 Nov 2013, 12:22 am

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I knew a girl like that in high school. She was shier even than I was. She never went on a single date. Guys were either too terrified to approach her or simply wanted her for her looks. Nobody ever looked past her looks to the person she was inside - nobody was interested. My cousin and I were the only friends she had because we were the only two who didn't want anything from her. The other girls were either calling her a stuck up b*tch or making racist comments to her. A few thought she might become one of the popular girls, so they tried to use her to increase their social status.

She went to college and found it even worse. She turned to online dating without using a profile picture - so that way she could be sure. After 9 months if chatting and emailing one guy they finally met up. They've been together ever since, and last I heard, just got engaged.

So if they're not using a profile picture I would assume it's because they want someone to like them for them. Some women assume they won't get any messages without a picture - and therefore include one for that reason.


But surely she's not the only beautiful girl you ever knew at school, it was her shyness that made her vulnerable to bullying. Are you saying that those very beautiful girls on dating sites are probably shy? From my interaction with them it's rarely the case. (Shy girls often don't even put pics to begin with).



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08 Nov 2013, 12:32 am

She's the only girl who wasn't just model material - but supermodel material. That level of beauty made her a serious threat to the beautiful girls, hence why they tried to tear her down.

I'm not saying beautiful girls are shy, although some might be and it's something to consider. I am saying nobody probably gives a damn about them apart from their looks - and that could lead them to look online.

One if the reasons I feel comfortable posting here is because I know I will solely be judged on the content of my posts - that how I look will not bias anyone one way or the other, unlike IRL.

You guys covered most other common situations that they go online pretty thoroughly. This is just an option I noticed nobody had mentioned yet.


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08 Nov 2013, 12:52 am

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She's the only girl who wasn't just model material - but supermodel material. That level of beauty made her a serious threat to the beautiful girls, hence why they tried to tear her down.

I'm not saying beautiful girls are shy, although some might be and it's something to consider. I am saying nobody probably gives a damn about them apart from their looks - and that could lead them to look online.

One if the reasons I feel comfortable posting here is because I know I will solely be judged on the content of my posts - that how I look will not bias anyone one way or the other, unlike IRL.

You guys covered most other common situations that they go online pretty thoroughly. This is just an option I noticed nobody had mentioned yet.


Let me guess, the other beautiful girls often tried to spread whore rumors about her too.



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08 Nov 2013, 1:23 am

Most women I know have whore or slut rumours going around about them. Guys who want to get with them but are too scared to ask start them, guys who get rejected start them and women who have agendas start them too. The more beautiful the girl, the more rumours. Sadly, most people actually believe them too.

But yes she had to deal with that endlessly to in both high school and college despite being a virgin. Not that she would ever tell anybody that, lest the old cat lady jokes and peer pressure start.


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08 Nov 2013, 1:43 am

I haven't found a model to be beautiful. I guess it depends on the type of model. How do women know anyway when she is a model. A model is a job, to be a coat hanger. That is basically what it comes down to and most of them look like coat hangers too. So was she a real model? Or was she just attractive to you Kjas?



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08 Nov 2013, 2:02 am

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I haven't found a model to be beautiful. I guess it depends on the type of model. How do women know anyway when she is a model. A model is a job, to be a coat hanger. That is basically what it comes down to and most of them look like coat hangers too. So was she a real model? Or was she just attractive to you Kjas?


I think she means the glamour-type of models and not catwalk models.



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08 Nov 2013, 2:08 am

^ I was wondering this too. I mean when you say she was "supermodel material" do you mean she was a supermodel in your eyes, or did she literally resemble what the fashion industry currently declares to be a supermodel? Was she really tall, with long lanky limbs, pronounced cheekbones, tiny boobs, straight up and down waist, massively long legs and tiny bum?

Most supermodels (with the exception of Claudia Schiffer) have rather ugly / plain faces. They are so tall that they look gangly and awkward when standing next to normal people in everyday situations. They look good on the catwalk because they have lots of makeup piled on to dress up their protruding cheekbones, and they don't look freakishly tall on the catwalk because they're walking next to other people who are tall. But put them out of their work environment (say, sitting on a train or a bus) and most supermodels would not be considered beautiful or get compliments or chattted up by men. Lingerie models or catalogue models actually tend to be far more beautiful-looking in real life than supermodels do.



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08 Nov 2013, 2:41 am

She has an incredibly distinctive look, and she doesn't look much like your average model.

She's Brazilian and therefore mixed - she was tall (5'10) and is thin enough without it looking bad. But she actually has decent boobs and a really nice butt, with ridiculously long legs and a tiny waist. Her facial structure was not what you are thinking of because she wasn't Caucasian, she took after Indios in her facial structure, with honey/caramel colored skin with black hair and gorgeous blue and green eyes.

She actually did go on to do modelling while in college. She did do catwalk but a lot of designers complained because they considered her boobs and butt too big for industry standard and it was giving them hell with the clothes. She ended up doing mostly photography because there they don't mind hourglass figures so much, especially for lingerie.

She was encouraged to go further and take it into a career many times but she refused. She loves journalism too much to give it up.


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08 Nov 2013, 2:47 am

was she ENFP'ish?



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08 Nov 2013, 2:56 am

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She has an incredibly distinctive look, and she doesn't look much like your average model.

She's Brazilian and therefore mixed - she was tall (5'10) and is thin enough without it looking bad. But she actually has decent boobs and a really nice butt, with ridiculously long legs and a tiny waist. Her facial structure was not what you are thinking of because she wasn't Caucasian, she took after Indios in her facial structure, with honey/caramel colored skin with black hair and gorgeous blue and green eyes.

She actually did go on to do modelling while in college. She did do catwalk but a lot of designers complained because they considered her boobs and butt too big for industry standard and it was giving them hell with the clothes. She ended up doing mostly photography because there they don't mind hourglass figures so much, especially for lingerie.

She was encouraged to go further and take it into a career many times but she refused. She loves journalism too much to give it up.


You said she's shy???

Anyway, in other term she is "glamour model" or "lingerie model" material not "catwalk model" material - google image all the types and the difference is striking, the former two types are what men often find attractive, while most men don't find the typical catwalk model that attractive (too skinny/underweight).



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08 Nov 2013, 3:06 am

She doesn't sound "glamour model" at all.

Glamour model = cheap, vulgar-looking, usually with spray tan and fake boobs and hair extensions and tacky false nails and drag queen makeup.

Lingerie model = buxom, wholesome-looking "girl next door." No implants allowed. Looks classy as opposed to vulgar. Natural beauty as opposed to fake.

Glamour models are the kind of girls willing to show their boobs for money. In fact, they're the kind of girls who will happily flaunt their (huge and probably fake) boobs in your face whenever they can. Lingerie models, on the other hand, draw the line at stripping to their underwear. Also, they're not posing for men, like glamour models are. They're posing for fellow women, to show us what a certain bra or pair of knickers would look like if a person were wearing it. So in my mind I think of glamour models as sluts and lingerie models as beautiful clotheshorses.



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08 Nov 2013, 3:21 am

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She doesn't sound "glamour model" at all.

Glamour model = cheap, vulgar-looking, usually with spray tan and fake boobs and hair extensions and tacky false nails and drag queen makeup.

Lingerie model = buxom, wholesome-looking "girl next door." No implants allowed. Looks classy as opposed to vulgar. Natural beauty as opposed to fake.

Glamour models are the kind of girls willing to show their boobs for money. In fact, they're the kind of girls who will happily flaunt their (huge and probably fake) boobs in your face whenever they can. Lingerie models, on the other hand, draw the line at stripping to their underwear. Also, they're not posing for men, like glamour models are. They're posing for fellow women, to show us what a certain bra or pair of knickers would look like if a person were wearing it. So in my mind I think of glamour models as sluts and lingerie models as beautiful clotheshorses.


I agree with you on the glamour attitude (after all, glamour photography is erotic) and make up but looking at handful of them by now they are not necessarily having fake boobs/tan, and lingerie models are not necessarily all-natural either but yes, they are much more likely natural.

But both have body types more attractive than typical catwalk models.



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08 Nov 2013, 3:32 am

Also some lingerie shots are boob-flashy too:
https://www.google.com.lb/search?q=ling ... 24&bih=673



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08 Nov 2013, 4:02 am

OK you seem to know more about this topic than I do. My idea of what constitutes a lingerie model is based on Bravissmo catalogues and the back of Triumph boxes in department stores, and my idea of what constitutes a glamour model is based on irritating articles about Ms Katie Price, a former glamour model the UK public loves to hate. That is all. :lol: