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10 Dec 2013, 11:32 pm

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Yeah, I've seen aspies blame their AS or the opposite gender for their dating failures, when in reality they are just no fun to be around. Some are annoying, some have unrealistic standards, some are boring, some are predjudiced, some are flat out jerks.

You can't expect someone to want to be around you if you are awful to be around.


problem is,alot of aspie men don't even talk to women,long enough,for women
to even know,what kind of personality they have.
aspie men are either very shy,where they can't even talk
to women,or they come off as weird,strange,creepy,that
women will avoid them,right from the get go.

Yeah, that's another problem. Shyness is another trait that can be worked on. I have that issue, too. I wasn't approachable, so I never got asked out. (Every time I did the asking, I got turned down.) Online dating fixed that issue for me, because me being there showed guys that I was looking for a date. Of course, my fix was easier, since men traditionally do the asking.


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10 Dec 2013, 11:34 pm

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^^^^

I do as what the great Homer (Simpson ) says, never try :)



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10 Dec 2013, 11:36 pm

i think you may be right different strokes and all that, on the Chinese dating show "If you are the one" yes it's on You Tube , :wink: all 23 women kept their light on for a bubbly humorous man , the other turned it off she claimed she's boring and doesn't want a fun bf, it was enough to make me want to learn Chinese . :wink:


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10 Dec 2013, 11:38 pm

well it can't be judgemental can it MD ? more annoyed with myself for what I did :cry: , now that I am medicated and made those life style changes I do hope that never happens again (meds can stop working :cry: )


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10 Dec 2013, 11:50 pm

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well it can't be judgemental can it MD ? more annoyed with myself for what I did :cry: , now that I am medicated and made those life style changes I do hope that never happens again (meds can stop working :cry: )

What? I don't understand.


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10 Dec 2013, 11:51 pm

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^^^^

I do as what the great Homer (Simpson ) says, never try :)



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I may? XD


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11 Dec 2013, 12:37 am

metaldanielle wrote:
Yeah, that's another problem. Shyness is another trait that can be worked on. I have that issue, too. I wasn't approachable, so I never got asked out. (Every time I did the asking, I got turned down.) Online dating fixed that issue for me, because me being there showed guys that I was looking for a date. Of course, my fix was easier, since men traditionally do the asking.


alot of aspie men are not popular on online dating either,so,yeah,that's really
don't help them either.



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11 Dec 2013, 12:40 am

billiscool wrote:
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Yeah, that's another problem. Shyness is another trait that can be worked on. I have that issue, too. I wasn't approachable, so I never got asked out. (Every time I did the asking, I got turned down.) Online dating fixed that issue for me, because me being there showed guys that I was looking for a date. Of course, my fix was easier, since men traditionally do the asking.


alot of aspie men are not popular on online dating either,so,yeah,that's really
don't help them either.


agreed though I find I'm more popular online :wink:


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11 Dec 2013, 3:06 pm

metaldanielle wrote:
Some are annoying, some have unrealistic standards, some are boring, some are predjudiced, some are flat out jerks.


There's nothing wrong with being boring. :thumbdown:

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There's a difference between being awkward and being unpleasent.


It's completely subjective.

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11 Dec 2013, 3:47 pm

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some are boring

I don't think anyone is boring intentionally to hurt other people. Some people just have interests that the average idiot with an attention span of a gnat aren't capable of appreciating in proper depth.



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11 Dec 2013, 4:12 pm

what happens when 2 boring people meet up ? :wink:


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11 Dec 2013, 4:24 pm

Ferrus91 wrote:
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some are boring

I don't think anyone is boring intentionally to hurt other people. Some people just have interests that the average idiot with an attention span of a gnat aren't capable of appreciating in proper depth.

Of course people aren't boring intentionally. However, your second sentence is exactly what the OP is talking out. You aren't gonna get any dates insulting people.


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11 Dec 2013, 4:28 pm

^^^^

different strokes....


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11 Dec 2013, 4:32 pm

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Of course people aren't boring intentionally. However, your second sentence is exactly what the OP is talking out. You aren't gonna get any dates insulting people.

It's just interesting to me that going on incessantly about boring-as-hell topics (to me) like the weather, or your annoying relatives, or the job you do which is no different to any one else's is considered fine, but anything outside this social norm is categorised under the boring label, as if to denigrate anyone who has interests with more depth. This is precisely why I have no interest in dating, because it is essentially a content in conformism and mediocrity, and I've realised I want no part in that.



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11 Dec 2013, 4:43 pm

Ferrus, you have a bad attitude. Just because people find your topics boring, you label them as idiotic.

You don't have much time for their topics either, you say. Does that make you an idiot too?


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11 Dec 2013, 4:49 pm

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Ferrus, you have a bad attitude. Just because people find your topics boring, you label them as idiotic.

You don't have much time for their topics either, you say. Does that make you an idiot too?

The difference seems to be though that they can presume upon their topics being interesting, and mine not.