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25 Jan 2014, 6:35 am

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What precisely is wrong with dubstep?


It sounds like robots screwing.


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25 Jan 2014, 5:21 pm

I was 16 when I had a relationship with a 25 year old. The relationship was fine. It just depends on each person of course.



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26 Jan 2014, 3:17 pm

For me, age is irrelevent.
I have aquaitances that are 18 & I have aquaitances that are over 90. Some people at age 20 can be more mature in outlook than most people who are 70. It ALL depends on the individual.

As for a potential partner, I have observed that most people tend to "grow up" around the age of 23, and at about the age of 30 most people tend to "let go of childish things".

For me, the partner would have to be someone aged 23 or older.

As for the oldest age I'd want a potential partner to be, then that once again depends upon the individual concerned. As I'm 39, then maybe it should be about 50.

So my age bracket would be 23 to 50.


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29 Jan 2014, 5:47 am

EnglishJess wrote:
I'd just feel uncomfortable with anyone over 2 years older than me, and I can't help thinking of those even just a year younger than me as MUCH younger...


I'd feel uncomfortable with any one 8)

in fact I would lose respect for them out of the 3 billion people on this planet they chose me 8O


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29 Jan 2014, 5:50 am

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Keep in mind that the OP is an Aspie & us Aspies tend to mature difernetly than NTs. Some say that Aspies on adverage mature a 3rd less mentally comparred to our peers & I know we tend to be behind in things like independence, social skills, relationships, & getting jobs to name afew; that's the case with me but it's NOT the case with all Aspies. Some mature ahead of their peers, other mature less & some mature fast in some ways but are behind in others. Considering the Aspie lag it makes sense that an Aspie woman would rather a a younger guy. I'm not saying this is the case with the OP thou.


keep in mind we don't know what age where at, ever .


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29 Jan 2014, 6:03 am

FunkMasterMike wrote:
I'm 27.
I stay within a 2-3 year guideline.
Women 18-20 are generally too immature for my age. Not to mention they like this plague called "dubstep."
Mostly people that are younger are harder to relate to. (especially things that I knew of growing up)
I agree I also prefer women older than me they know what they want and dont run around doing stupid s**t! Even though I am Physically atracted to younger women as well the youngest I would go for is maybe 24 any younger would be creepy even if legal!


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29 Jan 2014, 4:41 pm

^^^

good point it's only when you hit your 30's do you realise how childish girls are in their early 20's .


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04 Feb 2014, 6:06 am

I'm male, straight and would love to be in an AS/AS relationship; I'm not on the market right now for various reasons, but that will change over the next few months. Age-wise, I'm not far off 50 and would happily date women up to around 55.

Below that, it's problematical. How young is too young? Especially when AS affects one's maturity level (as perceived both by self and others). As mentioned on another thread, I know an AS/AS couple who are a mid/late 40s woman and a mid 20s man; it seems to work for them. But when considering an NT partner (hell will freeze over first, but I digress) I guess it'd be hard to say.

The generation gap could be a source of misunderstandings: cultural stuff and so forth; legally as long as both partners are over 18 it should be OK, but there could still be an element of the older person being seen to "prey" on a vulnerable partner.

Personally, I can't imagine dating anyone more than 25 years younger than me, whether NT or AS.



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04 Feb 2014, 7:28 am

I don't really see why age would matter, isn't it just great if you find someone who feels the same way about you as you do about them? My bf is 5 years older than me but when I met him I had no idea what his age was. He has one of those faces that I wouldn't have been surprised if he would've said he was 17 or in his late 30's.