Need some advice - I dumped the only guy I've ever loved

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The_Face_of_Boo: If they want to date, then they could make some changes, like I am trying to do. By taking a risk and being braver, letting yourself out there, the world opens up a little more. Something I've had to learn the hard way.

leafplant: No need to be hard on anyone. Society stereotypes single women are "spinters" and single men are "sad," and there are financial and political barriers put in place (in terms of taxes, owning a home, etc.) for single women and single men alike, whether or not they have kids. There are people who are fine being alone and can have fun doing things on their own (that's something I strive to do in my life because I want to be independent). Being single is not at all a bad thing. Choosing not to get married and not to have kids is a person's right. Everyone should be able to pursue what they want when it comes to such major life decisions, and not be ostracized by society for it. If someone wants to be with someone else, that's their right. None of anyone else's business.

I have another question. Maybe I'm reading into things too much and over-analyzing (which I do a lot) but I noticed my ex has a picture I took of him as his profile photo on a couple of his sites. Does that mean anything?

Yuzu: But you can't even really see his face in the photo, it's from far away.... I'm confused at this point.

Ok then it could mean that he's still madly in love with you and used the photo hoping you'd notice it and contact him.
It's possible.

LucySnowe: That's a good point. But is it wrong for me to want to know if he's ever thought about me? Is that selfish of me somehow? I let him go and tried to move on. I don't want to always have a part of myself that regrets what I did the rest of my life. Life's too short to live with regrets.