Where have all the good men gone?

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Good women are just as hard to find as good men. I believe that women should be treated with kindness and respect. I am a very passionate person. I love unconditionally, I respect women and treat them with loving kindness. I have always been very loyal and have never cheated on anyone and give fully of myself in a relationship. But without fail I always get screwed over in the end. Why?

Sorry I just wasn't sure. I've had people pretend to be women or guys before. I was just tying to know . :'(

The Face of Boo is male, he is just very fond of pranks.

All I was really saying is that if I had a girlfriend, I would treat her with respect and be a gentleman, not some loser douchebag who's all like "nice boots, let's f**k." I know that the "knight in shining armor" thing is a little far-fetched, but damn it, if I had the skills and maturity to do it, I would. Why am I not doing it right now? I don't believe I'm mature enough yet for a relationship, and I simply have too many other things going on in my life right now for me to focus on becoming a gentleman, and acquiring a girlfriend.

To answer her question: they're spending their time with the good women. So from her point of view it seems as if they've disappeared.

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I've been out with guys who tried to treat me like a princess. They got a warning, and if they didn't stop it, the date was over. Treat me like an equal, dammit, not an object.

Treat me like who I am, a living, breathing, thinking human just like yourself, only with different physiognomy. I will freely acknowledge that you are physically stronger than me, but that's no reason to treat me as if I'm made of glass, or as if I haven't a thought in my pretty little head, or as if I am a vending machine for sex.

^^ this. But as Aspie1 eloquently put it, a lot (note not all) men see it as "Men provide the romance in exchange for women providing sex"
This is exactly why I no longer bother trying to have a relationship. Virtually EVERY single partner I had, even the female one, had said in the past to me, when I owed them something "You can pay me back in other ways, wink wink". If I wanted to be a prostitute, I'd have been one.

Last edited by leafplant on 23 Mar 2014, 2:42 pm, edited 1 time in total.

women aren't made of glass? all this time I've been miss lead lol

I love giving romance and would enjoy to get some back. though not flowers. they could surprise me with dinner or breakfast in bed or a picnic. I do hope there's plenty of women who enjoy giving romance. It wouldn't be totally disappointing if not though, but cool if there is

sorry they did that leafplant. it wasn't in a silly playful way? if real then that's mean. I might say that playfully then follow it with tickling or something lol. I'd prefer owed stuff payed back, though i'm more likely to jut give stuff to a SO.

is romance=sex really the common thing in society? I'd hate for some lady to try to sex me for some kind of odd exchange. not to mention it might freak me out if its done too quickly. I am just romantic, sometimes I wish I wasn't, If this turns them on then its just a pleasant side effect, not my goal, nor would I know if they are lol. all I want is a happy smile let them go home happy and feeling special and loved(if later on in relationship)

only time I would expect sex is after a lady said lets have sex. Which they don't right? most do hidden signs or just start grouping and kissing.

I wonder then if me romancing them then saying by and going home could have lead to misunderstanding on past dates. probably not, but is it something to watch out for in future dates?? would it been seen as rejecting them or playing mind games? :S

^^^ I'm not quite sure where I said that. I do remember someone else with "aspie" in their username said something similar in a different thread within the last couple days.

"When did it become exceptable to split the costs on a 1st date?"
1732 is my answer!

I can't speak for other women, but I like to do little romantic things for my guy. Make him a special dinner, wear an outfit that I know he likes, give him little presents. I think where the system falls down is where that sort of thing becomes currency in an exchange. Those little special, romantic gestures should be done because they come from the heart, not because the other person is expecting it in exchange for something. When I do it, it's to express my appreciation and let him know that he is special to me, no more, no less.

That sort of thing was a fun game with my late fiance and me. I would do something nice for him, and he would look at me suspiciously and say "alright, what do you need me to fix?". Or he would do something nice for me, and I'd look at him askance and ask "okay, what did you break?". But it was JOKING. A running joke between us, poking fun at the idea that a partner could not possibly show some consideration for the other without there being some ulterior motive. The fact that the nice things we randomly did for one another were completely unexpected (and therefore were absolutely NOT based on some kind of exchange) was what made it fun, and what made us able to joke about it, and what kept it on the plane of a simple gesture of appreciation - not for something the other person DID, but simply for who they were.

Sorry! Fixed it now, it was Aspie1

I seriously suspect this girl's real problem in dating is about not finding a 'chivalrous' guy. I bet there are plenty of guys who would date her and pay for the dates (since they are the ones who often ask out first) and do some chivalrous acts (putting on the coat, opening door and all this s**t).

Her real problem is that she wants a sugar rich guy who pays an X amount of date bill that she set in her mind while she's not that super bimbo model-looking that sugar guys usually date (she's above average looking but obviously not a model; edit: now I see her super ugly after watching the whole video).

She is probably going to die alone or settle with some unlucky not-so-rich fool whom she gonna leech like a vampire.

She reminds me a particular WP user who I am not gonna name now, yet I have named her a lot before and she knows herself.

What happened to all the good men? They never existed in the first place.