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22 May 2014, 4:24 pm

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I really hope the youngsters are reading this discussion from top to bottom.


It's all gobeldygook if you're not American.


Hmmm. Interesting! Do you think it is top to bottom gobeldygook, or just the ERA discussion? I'm wondering if gender contention is not an issue in your part of the world. Or, in some way, your part of the world has settled matters.



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22 May 2014, 4:27 pm

The ERA discussion doesn't make a great deal of sense if you are not familiar with American politics, I understand the feminist writing quotes, though I've never heard of that particular writer. Germain Greer is the one who gets trotted out alot on British TV.



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22 May 2014, 4:33 pm

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zig-a-zig-ah is sex according to one of the Mels, B or C or D or whatever.

The Spice Girls popularised Girl Power not feminism. Girl power was just being a lad, but female.


For the convenience of those born after the 80's, I offer this link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gJLIiF15wjQ

Past edit: I stand corrected. The song was released 7 July 1996. So, the link is better for those born after that time.



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22 May 2014, 4:41 pm

Wait, did the thread about hate on this subforum just turn into a thread filled with hate on this subforum? Let me go grab some popcorn!



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22 May 2014, 4:43 pm

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I'm just curious why half the threads in this sub-forum end up turning into gender wars. The other half, well half the comments in those threads end up being either rude, uncomfortable sexual jokes, or just plain cruel things to say. So what happened to all the love in the love and dating forum?


because of feminist,white knights,leftist who are obsessed
with cranky loners.(and I got a GF,so the feminist,white
knights can't use ''your just bitter,excuse'')



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22 May 2014, 4:44 pm

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Wait, did the thread about hate on this subforum just turn into a thread filled with hate on this subforum? Let me go grab some popcorn!


Wait! It's morphing into a thread about dreadful 90s pop music. I'm desperate to counteract it with some PJ Harvey just to prove that the Brits did produce some real strong female singers in the 90s.



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22 May 2014, 4:47 pm

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The ERA discussion doesn't make a great deal of sense if you are not familiar with American politics, I understand the feminist writing quotes, though I've never heard of that particular writer. Germain Greer is the one who gets trotted out alot on British TV.


After looking her up, I realized I've watched a TV special on her, but I've never seen her books. She sounds very close to Brownmiller in philosophy. That's very interesting, because Brownmiller is usually credited with creating the central organizing document that energized NOW, plus the global feminist movement. In 1977, when I was an undergrad, a lot of women carried Against our Will like a Bible. From the WiKi writeup, housewives in England traditionally threw Greer's book physically in their husband's face as his introduction to the subject. Well, both books had an impact, and still do.



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22 May 2014, 4:57 pm

I found this on youtube recently. It's a live recording so it's a bit rough at first with the drunk guy singing in the crowd, but he shuts up after a couple of lines. But this live version is better than the original album version.

As this song played it made me think of this subforum

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RSYHwqOZP84[/youtube]

Quote:
I suppose love lives in a dustbin behind the garden wall
You have to grovel on the ground and be pretty disgusting
to find it at all
And I suppose that it grows on you
Standing there with no clothes on,
and I suppose because there's beautiful girls in this town
I'll stay here till I've chosen one.
I suppose life's like a hunt, really: the hounds have fun
until the fox gets bagged
And not one girl in this town will ever fall in love with me:
They'll get dragged.

Her heart speaks to me; says the room the room the room
beneath her dress, and I suppose that it beats for me
Like a hammering moon pulling tides through her chest
Suppose she says that she owes me
all that she owns and all that she is
It seems to me I suppose that her heart's not enough
and her love is a swizz.

So suppose love lives in a mansion
how the hell do I get over the wall?
And if my rope's not stretched the right tension
I won't cross this grand canyon at all.
And I suppose that it grows like a tumor, spreads like a rumor
like the grass grows and inch every day
And I suppose that before I even know it, the tide will start flowing
and the drum beneath my jacket will say:

You know you need her everyday
She is the moon and she showed me her face
She is the house and she opened the gates



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22 May 2014, 5:00 pm

hurtloam wrote:
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Wait, did the thread about hate on this subforum just turn into a thread filled with hate on this subforum? Let me go grab some popcorn!


Wait! It's morphing into a thread about dreadful 90s pop music. I'm desperate to counteract it with some PJ Harvey just to prove that the Brits did produce some real strong female singers in the 90s.


Before the 90's, England lead the world in genre development: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c4OS17lqHiE



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22 May 2014, 5:02 pm

Where were we?



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22 May 2014, 5:07 pm

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After looking her up, I realized I've watched a TV special on her, but I've never seen her books. She sounds very close to Brownmiller in philosophy. That's very interesting, because Brownmiller is usually credited with creating the central organizing document that energized NOW, plus the global feminist movement. In 1977, when I was an undergrad, a lot of women carried Against or Will like a Bible. From the WiKi writeup, housewives in England traditionally threw Greer's book physically in their husband's face as his introduction to the subject. Well, both books had an impact, and still do.


That's curious. Greer's The Female Eunuch was one of the first feminist books I'd ever heard of... I still have never got round to reading it though. I am not keen on her idea that all men secretly hate women. I hope I have heard a misquoted soundbyte about that and she didn't really say it because I really don't believe that all men hate women. I am sad to say I've skipped over the 60s and 70s and have been reading articles online written by the likes of Tanya Gold, Rhiannon Lucy Cosslett, Suzanne Moore, Zoe Williams and Laura Bates.



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22 May 2014, 5:07 pm

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zig-a-zig-ah is sex according to one of the Mels, B or C or D or whatever.


That is hugely disappointing. I always hoped they'd never explained it.

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The Spice Girls popularised Girl Power not feminism. Girl power was just being a lad, but female.


I was trying to be a bit wry, but from my experience Girl Power seemed as close as most people could get to actually talking about feminism. Which is really quite sad.

I think you're right to bring up Greer. She's as much a general public face of feminism as there is in the UK, in terms of if someone wants a feminist for a programme, or wants to know what a feminist thinks, they ask her.


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22 May 2014, 5:22 pm

Hmmm... I'm sure I've said this before.

Women and Men handle stress differently. Women typically like to talk about what is stressing them out, Men like to distract themselves with other tasks or look for the solution. The empathy quotient comes into play because of this.
Women may feel men are jerks for not listening. Women may get worried when Men are not talking about what is bothering them and may assume it has something to do with them.
Men feel women don't like their suggestions offered to when the women talk about their problems. Men feel women are pushy when they want to know what is bothering the guy and he wants to deal with it himself.
Communication may break down, misunderstandings happen, and s**t hits the fan. The blame game starts from here when a misunderstanding occurs and isn't cleared up.


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22 May 2014, 5:45 pm

hurtloam wrote:
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After looking her up, I realized I've watched a TV special on her, but I've never seen her books. She sounds very close to Brownmiller in philosophy. That's very interesting, because Brownmiller is usually credited with creating the central organizing document that energized NOW, plus the global feminist movement. In 1977, when I was an undergrad, a lot of women carried Against or Will like a Bible. From the WiKi writeup, housewives in England traditionally threw Greer's book physically in their husband's face as his introduction to the subject. Well, both books had an impact, and still do.


That's curious. Greer's The Female Eunuch was one of the first feminist books I'd ever heard of... I still have never got round to reading it though. I am not keen on her idea that all men secretly hate women. I hope I have heard a misquoted soundbyte about that and she didn't really say it because I really don't believe that all men hate women. I am sad to say I've skipped over the 60s and 70s and have been reading articles online written by the likes of Tanya Gold, Rhiannon Lucy Cosslett, Suzanne Moore, Zoe Williams and Laura Bates.


The Female Eunuch was published in 1970 and was very popular by 1971. Against Our Will was published in 1975 and was popular by 1977. They both seem to have the same view of men and women. And, both cast men as villainous, hateful, and abusive by nature, from birth. Greer was born in 1939, so she was a child at the end of WWII. I've traveled through Europe three times. Twice, I ventured into Eastern Europe. There, many women rejected feminism based on their affections for men in their families and the men who defended their countries during what they call "The Great Patriotic War," which is WWII. When I was in Kiev and visited the Museum of the Great Patriotic War, everyone said a prayer outside and at each place something indicated a soldier died, like a helmet with a bullet hole. However, the women always said a second prayer because the soldiers were fighting for the women and children of Ukraine. The war left the women, even women born long after the war, with a cultural affection for their men. Obviously, during the Cold War, feminist books probably didn't make it into Eastern Europe. The last time I was in Eastern Europe was about fifteen years ago. I wonder if Brownmiller's and Greer's books are popular there and what effect they've had. I wonder if those authors are persuasive in that region.

Post edit: The rumors are true, the women can cook and the men can drink vodka. A traditional dinner, where the women show off their culinary skills, is a multi-course meal that lasts about two hours. After each course, the men toast something and slam an overflowing shot of vodka. No, I couldn't keep up. No person should try to keep up with Ukrainian soldiers when they are on a mission to get drunk. That said, those guys are tough as nails. Actually, they were all really nice.



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22 May 2014, 6:31 pm

Let's have a group hug.



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22 May 2014, 6:34 pm

Why can't we all just get along? Guys are guys, women are women. The Gender Wars represent the Ultimate Challenge: finding a lifelong mate you could live with.