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goldfish21
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21 Jun 2014, 4:50 pm
billiscool wrote:
goldfish21 wrote:
Yes, people find confidence attractive. But Bill isn't displaying confidence. He's coming across as arrogant without the ability to justify feeling socially/relationship superior because he has displayed his lack of social skills quite transparently & it's obvious to anyone reading this thread, or the ones linked, that he cannot possibly be doing everything right and thus it's the GF's fault alone that things aren't great in their relationship. If he were in fact such a social & relationship success story then it would be abundantly clear in his posts that he deserved to be able to say he's confident that it's not him that's the problem. But it's blatantly obvious that he's somewhat socially inept and has a lot of work to do if he actually wants to be a good boyfriend and attract a "quality," girlfriend.
BS,read my post above.I do everything right,it's them who are the problem.
I didn't ask them,I didn't choose them.They choose me,they declare they
are My girlfriend. Yet,they suck at it. They are good ''quasi''Girlfriend.
so,why don't I deserve better than them.
No one is perfect. You're far from it. I highly doubt you do everything right. You are part of the problem.
They chose you and declared you their boyfriend? WTF is that? You didn't even consent to it? Shouldn't it be a mutual decision to decide to be boyfriend and girlfriend vs. someone just stating that you're their boyfriend?? See, right here you're part of the problem for going along with whatever they say despite the fact that you don't sound very interested in dating either of them.
Of course people deserve people better suited for them.. but you'll have to acknowledge that you're not perfect and have room for improvement in many areas, and then work hard on improving yourself, before you'll be able to attract someone better into your life. Until then you'll continue to get exactly what you deserve.
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21 Jun 2014, 5:23 pm
21 Jun 2014, 6:01 pm
Klowglas wrote:
hale_bopp wrote:
Sigh.
Is that a frustated sigh, or wistful longing one? If it's the later, I'm sure billiscool is willing to put you in queue on a list somewhere.
Get in line missy!It's more of a sigh of "This guy can't possibly be serious, either that or he has severe IQ issues".
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21 Jun 2014, 6:05 pm
sly279 wrote:
goldfish21 wrote:
sly279 wrote:
now, isn't confidence the mind set that you are great at what ever you do and make no mistakes. isn't confidence what people find attractive?
No. Confidence isn't the belief that you are great at whatever you'd o and make no mistakes. That's arrogance. I know many confident people that are always willing to admit they've made a mistake and are willing to learn from them, even thanking others for correcting them/teaching them something new/better.
Yes, people find confidence attractive. But Bill isn't displaying confidence. He's coming across as arrogant without the ability to justify feeling socially/relationship superior because he has displayed his lack of social skills quite transparently & it's obvious to anyone reading this thread, or the ones linked, that he cannot possibly be doing everything right and thus it's the GF's fault alone that things aren't great in their relationship. If he were in fact such a social & relationship success story then it would be abundantly clear in his posts that he deserved to be able to say he's confident that it's not him that's the problem. But it's blatantly obvious that he's somewhat socially inept and has a lot of work to do if he actually wants to be a good boyfriend and attract a "quality," girlfriend.
the definition of what confidence is seems to vary greatly person to person.
i've always been told having doubt in yourself or thinking you can mess up is lack of confidence. confidence and arrogance sound like the same thing to me. If i go into a situation thinking it might fail and try to be prepared for it then its said I have no confidence, but if i go into it thinking i will succeed and there's no way to fail you say that's arrogance, so what is your idea of confidence?
I never said to doubt yourself. I said it's arrogant to believe you never make mistakes & have nothing new to learn or improve. It's confident to believe in yourself and visualize yourself succeeding vs. thinking you're going to mess up, but it's arrogant to believe you never make mistakes and don't need to learn anything or be corrected.
It's good to go into a situation believing in yourself and a positive outcome, but it's also good to be able to react to changing situations on the fly should something go sideways so that you can still make the best of things if you have to correct an error or deal with some unforeseen variable. It's foolish to believe that absolutely everything will always go perfectly and so you don't need to be able to ever react to the unexpected or to your own mistakes.
I can confidently say I can do _____, but it would be arrogant of me to say that I have nothing more to learn about it, or to improve upon my abilities, or that I should never be corrected & learn should I make a mistake etc.
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21 Jun 2014, 6:37 pm
billiscool wrote:
goldfish21 wrote:
Can you elaborate as to what makes them "Lousy GF's" ?? Maybe if you could communicate that better we'd understand you a bit better.
Ok,lady friend aka GF#3.Goes from very Affectionate to
''leave me alone'' and she's always ''tired'' I want to
hang out and do stuff but she's always tired. it's annoying.
She's says she My GF,yet she always too tired to do
anything. She's is 50 year old.and she doesn't live
very ''clean''.her apartment is very nasty.and she has
alot of problems.She gets bullied alot. I don't understand
why she wants to date,if she doesn't put in any effort.
GF#4,says she's my GF(remember both's are claiming
to be my GF)but she acts like a friends,it's like were
just friends.Plus she lives in another city(none of us drives)
so which Adds another problem.So,yes both are lousy GF.
(if you can call them that)
and they choose me.They asked me out,kissed me first,
told me they are my GF. They are better as ''quasi''GF,
both are female co-workers.So basically Im in a work
relationship,I guess.I want someone better than them.
Holy moley.
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21 Jun 2014, 10:08 pm
TheGoggles wrote:
billiscool wrote:
goldfish21 wrote:
Can you elaborate as to what makes them "Lousy GF's" ?? Maybe if you could communicate that better we'd understand you a bit better.
Ok,lady friend aka GF#3.Goes from very Affectionate to
''leave me alone'' and she's always ''tired'' I want to
hang out and do stuff but she's always tired. it's annoying.
She's says she My GF,yet she always too tired to do
anything. She's is 50 year old.and she doesn't live
very ''clean''.her apartment is very nasty.and she has
alot of problems.She gets bullied alot. I don't understand
why she wants to date,if she doesn't put in any effort.
GF#4,says she's my GF(remember both's are claiming
to be my GF)but she acts like a friends,it's like were
just friends.Plus she lives in another city(none of us drives)
so which Adds another problem.So,yes both are lousy GF.
(if you can call them that)
and they choose me.They asked me out,kissed me first,
told me they are my GF. They are better as ''quasi''GF,
both are female co-workers.So basically Im in a work
relationship,I guess.I want someone better than them.
Holy moley.
Um?YEAH?
I'm married to my best friend. I kinda LIKE being friends. We have "frienefits."
If you have a GF that's your friend you've got the best GF anyone could hope for. As long as no one else puts his meat in my GF, my GF and I can have a long, beautiful relationship.
I wouldn't mind using my GF again if some other guy put his meat in my GF, but he'd have to clean up when he got done with my GF. I'd hate to come home to find out someone else was using my GF. My wife knows about my GF, too, ever since we all met together at Wal-Mart, and as tight as my wife and I are, I could handle my wife using my GF. She says she's not really into that kind of thing, though.
Which is too bad?my GF is really hot. I'm proud of my GF. Here's a pic with my meat inside my GF:
21 Jun 2014, 10:36 pm
Oh, turn that frown upside down Bill.
You're a lucky guy after all.... right !?
http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt245942.html
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