Men suffer more emotional pain from failed romance

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Whaaaaaaaat... are you serious? Damn it Boo, how do you do it?

Vicky, it is quite unusual for someone to claim women have it easier than men when generally they don't. That's why people suspected trolling.

Trolls can be cute tho, remember the toys?

I have made a few long posts which I seem to "lose" whenever I try to post them, so I will make my response in several snippets [plus I need to stop in a few minutes to make dinner]

I'm not sure where to begin,because to me,this is all beyond obvious.

Still, a woman without money can marry a man who is wealthy. Other than a few "gold digger" comments, it is fairly well accepted. The reverse is not true.

Still, if a woman gets pregnant,it is totally her decision whether or not to abort the fetus,even if the man already considers it his baby.

I totslly agree with the marriage part, and it didn't change much in our generation.
Homelesseness is more common among single men than women for that very reason.

And stats show that most millionnaire women want more millionnaire men (ooo they are afraid to die from hunger lol).


but this is so off topic.

My husband just saw the title of this thread and told me a joke. A little boy shows his parts to a little girl and says " Look what I got. You don't have one of these." Little girl lifts up her dress and says "Look what I got. My mom says with one of these, I can get all of those I want."

And it's the truth. A woman who wants a new guy in her life, just needs to go anywhere and basically just pick one out, while men have to worry about almost certain rejection.

Men are more likely to take their own lives because of a broken heart.

It is hard for guys. Largely because guys make it hard for other guys to exist as themselves.

I was talking about this stuff with the women's-center director the other day. It seems to me that one of the major results of the feminist movement that began in the 1960s is that there is now a tremendous multiplicity of ways in which it's fine to be a woman. There is no woman uniform. When I leave the house, no one's scandalized if I'm not wearing makeup and my legs aren't shaved. No social deaths occur if a bra strap shows. Pudgy girls are allowed to wear whatever the hell they want. Shave your head, knock yourself out. A woman can be a mother, or not; married, or not; straight, or not; sexual, or not; career-driven, or not; and we don't generally ostracize each other for these variations anymore outside "traditional" and largely religious-fundamentalist communities.

The same is not true for men. Whose fault is that? Well, that's a little complicated, I think. Obviously, if it's going to change -- if men are going to stop attacking and policing each other's masculinity, beating the s**t out of each other for not conforming -- men have to be the ones to make that change, and it has to be for some positive reason, rather than a "don't do that". But it's true that men have been caught flatfooted...okay, it's 50 years' worth of flatfootedness, now, but even so, women did have a positive reason to break out of a bad situation, and men haven't had a reason to do anything but react. And it does suck to be in the position of having to react. My friend explained it like this: to be a man is not to be a woman. (There's something to it. If you listen to boys' and men's insults for other boys and men, it's to do with being like girls and women.) But over the last few decades women shrugged and said "not playing" and just went wherever they pleased on the gender spectrum. Which left men with a problem, if "masculine" was going to mean "not feminine". So y'all have a choice between inventing something new (while freaking out about abandoning a rage-defended tiny little "THIS IS MALE" space), which would be cooperative and, by THIS IS MALE standards, pussylike, or...just carrying on beating the s**t out of each other, I suppose.

All this stuff about "society demands"...I think those of you saying these things aren't paying very careful attention. Women take up with broke, ugly, not particularly talented or funny dudes every day of the week. Criminals, for god's sake. '02 Corolla drivers, non-job-havers. Guys who can't get it up. I don't think it's women telling you you have to be a rich musclebound dude with a swank car in order to get a date.

I thought we were discussing that I might be a male troll because of my defense of men

Autistics,both males and females, have a 96% chance of being sexually asaulted, but by so many threads here,you would never know that males are as likely to suffer this abuse. Plus, there is more sympathy for a woman who this happens to and much more support.

Battered men and women, same thing.

Oh, and as far as what tarantella said, I agree that men themselves also need to make some changes to make this transitional period less difficult, just as Autistics need to take action to make positive changes for the Autistic community.

I am neither a man nor a troll.