so if you didn't feel like you had to get a girl....

Post Reply New Topic

Yeah, I hear a fair bit of posting like this on the forum. But it's also inherent in the "why don't you have a boyfriend/girlfriend" talk I hear here, too. Sex is supposed to be part of the point of coupling up.

Actually if you want to hear nonstop sex-life talk head over to TTC boards, where it's (for obvious reasons) an obsession. Also much-discussed on new-mom/postpartum boards. Just because there are real questions and there's no longer a sense of shame preventing women from asking and comparing notes.

Just walk away....
very slowly, in order to not to cause a startle reaction.

I have no social pressure to get a gf nore a wanting one for social standing. I don't care much about social standing or I wouldn't wear the clothes I find comfortable. I don't care what other guys think of my job choice.

I want a gf for love and companionship. I have a lot of caring and romantic love to give, I want an outlet. I also want to be loved back. I am pretty horny male I suppose, but I don't try to get with just any woman. Even though my hormones would like me too lol. I want someone who is caring, playful, sweet, kind, non judgmental, and I am attracted to(not a big problem as I am attracted to most women) I also want to share interests with them, so I look for women who like sicfi, outdoors stuff, vide games. and is center line or right leaning, but not too right. perhaps slightly left leaning if in the right way. They need to be balanced between outdoors/indoors and outgoing/introvert.

I likely blew a chance at dating due to her being very outdoors, while I am 60%indoors and 40% outdoors.

so no removing social standing and such wouldn't relieve me of my desire to find a companion.



you must understand though that when most people on okc find someone they tend to leave their profile up unchanged. I've messaged a bunch who said so, made friends with some who have, and I did it myself when I was in love. People tend to be lazy when it comes to removing the profile.

f**k OFF! I'm gonna get you banned

You've got two threads locked now. Just stop. I've asked you to stop many, MANY times and yet you continue to do it. There's a difference between stating my opinion and trying to start an argument. Obviously you have an inability to admit anyone could possibly disagree with you. And yes, other members do have issues with you. I've been notified by a moderator that your posts towards me and other members are being closely watched. I know your gigantic, swollen ego doesn't allow you to believe that anyone could possibly have an issue with you, but they do. You're incredibly irritating and you act like a five-year-old

Here I think it's more about fitting into commoners' perception of normality than encouragement to couple up.

It's more of a case of that lots of single women my age spend their weekends rolling in and out of pubs, picking up anything remotely attractive which will have them... and it's often beyond their understanding that (1) I don't do this, and moreover that (2) I am quite happy with this situation of not doing it.

Heck, even the ones which do have partners often go "out on the pull" with their mates... they don't do the pulling themselves but it's like an organised effort to get their single friends "laid" over the weekend.

Even when I was 17, I had to put up with women going on about having sex in a car and getting a gear stick jamming into their bumcracks.... and encouragement to get going so that I had similar no doubt fascinating anecdotes to tell them in return.


And yeah, I'm good without the excessive sex-fixated discussion.

The vitriol is pouring out of you like an arse with diarrhoea.
You really ought to stop picking fights with people, you know.
If you don't stop it, you will end up getting another thread locked.... making a hat trick for today !

The fact that a certain moderator is biased (as quite a few people agree) in no way validates your obnoxious approach to communicating with other people, particularly myself.



I imagine you saying that while swinging your fists drunkenly, like some kind of bar brawler.

YOU are the one following me from thread to thread, trying to troll me. I have only been stating my opinion. I have asked you to stop, but you continue to talk shite, thinking you're absolutely hilarious. You may have got a few cheap laughs among your disciples, but it needs to stop. Now.

What possible reason does that moderator have to be biased, then? Bearing in mind I have had very little interaction with them in the past. You're acting like a child and seem to have some kind of twisted obsession with copying things I've said. It's you getting the threads locked, not me. I've tried to stop. You carry on. Now go. Away.

That's interesting, I haven't say anything of that sort, you put words in my mouth, I simply said that I wouln't date you; and that's because of your judgemental personality shown here - and to prove you that me being a man doesn't mean I want any woman, I took you as an example, i wouldn't be your friend either.

But again your sexist mind automatically assumes that all of us men view women as sex objects; and that we rate half of earth population by..."fuckability?" (you are the one who used that word).

So go ahead, report me to the mods.

L&D and Adult Autism Issues is rapidly turning into some sort of battleground where certain members attack other members for having a different opinion to theirs

Goodness knows why that moderator is biased... I'm not a mind reader.
A number of people have noticed it, though.

Just like a number of people have noticed that you're a crabby belligerent fire-starter.
I don't see you making much of an effort to stop... I mean here you are, still pouring out the vitriol....

Why not make some remotely on-topic posts instead ?

Well sure, but how much of that is based on the number of times you've gone through it?

There's no reason for me to ask a guy out unless I really, quite seriously, want to go out with him and would be open to seeing about a relationship with him. These guys are far and few between. But if I meet one, I ask. I married one of them, may as well have been married to another. Sure, there've been rejections. But if I'm not asking men out but once a year, you know, the rejection's not exactly soul-crushing. If it were happening twice a month, I could see that making a serious difference. The same if I'd gone into it feeling that the men's validation was a serious marker of my own worth.

While love is important to me, I feel no societal pressure whatsoever to find a partner, unless you count the ragey comment sections in news stories about single moms. And I have to say I've been surprised by that; I'd sort of expected it, but it seems to've gone. I did worry when my daughter was little, mostly because of online comments about "how will she learn what a healthy relationship is," but this always seemed a stupid reason to run out and find a man -- certainly you could do a lot more damage with a bad/hasty match -- and as it happens she's done totally fine, it hasn't been the crippling experience advertised. If there were more social pressure, I'd likely feel that I was supposed to be man-hunting, even if I wasn't doing it, and I imagine that'd make me feel bad. And make me view men differently, too, despite myself.



I think the incidence among women is much lower -- and I think that has more to do with the relative okayness of being on your own if you're a woman.



Completely different issue linked to physical safety.



I think your experience of common/uncommon may be colored by social-pressure-related behavior. If the guys feel they must get girlfriends or be lower on the social totem pole, and that it's their job to ask, they'll ask more, and get rejected more often. If girls aren't asking men they don't seriously want to date, and don't feel the same sort of pressure to find someone, they'll ask less often -- reinforcing the guys' perception that "girls don't ask, they're waiting for you to ask".



Right, so I'm looking at where this comes from.

His brain often seems to distort what has actually been said by people into some weird junk, so that he feels like he has an excuse to start a fight over it.
Then when people respond to his antagonism, he goes running to a moderator doing the wounded swan routine.

It looks like said moderator locking the other topics isn't going to prevent him from keeping on doing it.
Which is no surprise to me...

in many cases, hatred is the direct result not of a sense of superiority, but deep-seated insecurities. for example, some people are full of hatred for gays not because they feel gays are inferior to them or sinful (though they may say this is the reason) but because they are in fact deeply insecure about their own sexuality, and that insecurity causes them to lash out at gays because it reminds them of their issues with their own (confused) orientation. so yeah, deep-seated insecurities about rejection by women can lead some men to hate women, and to lash out when rejected. insecurity is, in fact, a hotbed for hatred--hatred of the self as well as hatred of (and violence towards) others.

http://whenwomenrefuse.tumblr.com/

I'm done with you Ladywoofwoof. Leave me the hell alone

Boo wasn't replying to me, genius. Okay, now I'm done