Any exp. with foreign wife from poor country?

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Here, NK, it was written just for you. Don't take it too literally.

http://www.amazon.com/Platform-Michel-H ... 1400030269

That's a nice story.

MODERATOR WARNING:

While there's nothing wrong with chatting about experiences dating abroad, I'm going to have to caution everyone not to go down the, "American women are all superficial and spoiled," route. We're not there yet, but some posts are on the line, and I'd hate to have to disappear this thread on account of sexism.

Thanks for you cooperation, everyone.

Carry on.

Well, I must say, there are times I have fantasized about being a housewife*, after three decades of supporting husbands (not all at the same time!) who neither contributed to the household income nor helped with anything around the house.

*At the age I am now, I think it would be called "retirement." But it's not yet something I can afford to do without another household income. I'm more likely to win the lottery, however, than I would be willing to find myself a sugar daddy.

I'm actually dating someone from Asia myself, In particular, from Singapore.
Now, i often cop a heap of crap from my friends and peers at work, about the fact that she's Asian. They often ask me some stupidly racist questions, most of which are along the lines of the whole mail-order-bride thing. The thing is, She's smart, devastatingly pretty, and also, she (like me) also has AS, and weirdly, has been really understanding and loving towards me. She's a keeper, is all i can say.

In the past, i've dated girls of several nationalities. My previous relationship was with a Filipino girl. She was a mother already, had a young child, that unfortunately, was at home (in Davao City) with the father. Honestly, she was one of the sweetest, kindest girls i ever met. She may have come from a disadvantaged country, but she was actually really nice. If you do decide to go ahead with it all, do remember that some girls are simply after your citizenship, like this one time when i dated a Vietnamese girl who wanted to marry me like, a month after i met her... whilst others, like the girl i previously mentioned, are simply looking for someone to love. It's all about the balance, really. Usually you can tell if someone's after your citizenship, they tend to want to rush things, where as girls who want a proper relationship, will be acceptant of the pace you want to take.

As for the whole Mail-Order-Bride thing, i find it to be both immoral, and in all honesty, stupid. I believe that a relationship is based solely on good communication. Being able to actually understand your partner, and share stuff that you have in common, makes a relationship fun, and worthwhile. If you're looking for someone to control, or be overbearing to, due to an "Alpha Stance" personality, than you need to find someone who communicates in that way. Love's a really weird thing. Different lovers communicate in different ways. Some do it through simple gestures, others do it through fetishes.

OP, I think you have to actually look for what _you_ want in a person, and to understand who you are as a person, and let the right person come to you, instead of worrying about being alone forever. I speak from experience, as my partner and i didn't technically ask eachother out, we just... Happened. All the girls i've physically seeked to find in desperation, have all been incompatible with me. The one girl in whom i've let come to me? She's been nothing but peaches and cream.

I come from a country where trolls are a national symbol. While traditionally a troublesome pest for man with loss of livestock and men today we have an agreement about supplying them with foreign criminals, paedophiles, people getting their seventh non minor offence, and all the Lebanese restaurant owners well known for poisoning everyone.

Today I was at a nature preserve, it`s a well known habitat for sea trolls. Btw another troll at sea http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Troll_A_platform

Sea trolls sometimes like to marinate and ferment their food in algaepools by the shore.
By the smell from this pool I think it recently have been Libanese there.


Me standing where the local population of sea trolls are fed at night twice a month.



Seriously I am not a troll. If you are provoked or have some moral issue with what I write I have no damn interest in it, you can start new threads for such pointless discussion. If you have a face full of poo and just want to make fun of everything please avoid my threads where I ask about something specific.

I invite The face of Boo to send me his post address by PM, if so I will send him a few nice postcards when travelling again, including any progress or lack of in this matter.



I found a Norwegian aspie my age with a wife from the Philippines, it was working good for the third year. I also found a NOR aspie man having been fooled by his former Thai wife, but this man seemed extremely naive in general.

I am not against marrying a foreigner woman, I am against mail order concept or to seek out wives who are specifically desperate for husbands from a rich country - big difference.

What's ironic that those guys who complain about how their local women are materialistic and shallow, promote in the same time a niche of foreign women whom their goal in life is to get a white husband and getting into his wealthy country. This very niche is a minefield of gold/greencard diggers, then why those latter are seen as generally less materialistic than western women?? It makes no sense, this is what I am not understanding, I find this to be very hypocritical - just be honest and say there's a higher chance that a foreign woman of this niche would want to marry you but stop saying they are generally less materialistic than your local women.

It was a stroke of luck, really. We met at a comic book store... Or a "Manga Shop" rather. No special dating services, no online whatevers, it was a "Girl in the bookstore" Scenario. Except, she came to me.

To be honest, my case is incredibly mild, almost un-noticable. However, that's probably due to the fact that my parents kicked me out when i was younger. Sadly i've had to learn how to socialise the hard way. Her case, however, is a little more severe than mine is. She was quite talkative, i'm more of a listener. We balance eachother out, really. She's had training on how to talk to people, i haven't.