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07 Nov 2014, 10:41 pm

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I didn't even have to check the name to know that Otaku posted this.

I think some people find love and some don't. I'll probably just adopt 20 cats and become a recluse.


You can't necessarily be a recluse with 20 cats, because I doubt the cats would leave you alone....as they like attention.


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07 Nov 2014, 10:51 pm

Sweetleaf wrote:
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I didn't even have to check the name to know that Otaku posted this.

I think some people find love and some don't. I'll probably just adopt 20 cats and become a recluse.


You can't necessarily be a recluse with 20 cats, because I doubt the cats would leave you alone....as they like attention.


A recluse from society, I mean.



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07 Nov 2014, 11:02 pm

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Sweetleaf wrote:
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I didn't even have to check the name to know that Otaku posted this.

I think some people find love and some don't. I'll probably just adopt 20 cats and become a recluse.


You can't necessarily be a recluse with 20 cats, because I doubt the cats would leave you alone....as they like attention.


A recluse from society, I mean.


Well cats are much more amazing than society.


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08 Nov 2014, 1:55 am

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I agree, Otaku. Love doesn't actually exist anymore. Love used to, up until this recent media blitz full of sex and unbelievably perfect-looking people started. Then everybody latched on and "love" became about what people have and how good they look. Now the people who would normally get dates are the ones having to sit back and watch all these stupid people get together and have stupid babies.

I sincerely hope we get a world-altering cataclysm within the next decade.


People used to love each other before it was cool, now that it's cool its been corrupted.

lolz couldn't resist that. Even so I think it probably still exists....but popular culture has turned it into some twisted thing where you love someone for what they have, so you love what they have and confuse it for the real thing since I imagine for it to be real both people in the relationship have to care deeply about each other, not how much the other compliments their image, or the things that person has. But maybe it doesn't exist...and just trying to be optimistic who knows.


Actually, your first sentence kind of sums the whole thing up. Love has really become a hipster thing. Pop culture turns everything to s**t eventually. There was a time period where your normal, average person, and even below-average people, could find love and find it pretty young. Now if average people wanna find love, they have to wade through gallons of BS and also wait till they're past 40 to find it. Which is no good because it's best experienced when you're in your 30s at latest.

I feel bad for this guy I know who finally got a girlfriend after 43 years. His whole life passed him by without him having one. And now this woman he's with is basically using him to take care of her kids. It's no good.


I have to admit a lot of people in relationships I observe remind me why half the time I wouldn't even want to bother, seems like too much crap. I mean I do not think its impossible for people to love each other, but I think much of the time people are more into a bunch of superficial crap and once that's not enough to distract they realize they didn't build the relationship on anything and don't actually get along or really care about each other even. I mean people shouldn't have a significant other just to have a significant other.

But yeah I know in history a lot of times people would get married for financial reasons, or essentially be forced into it, or in some cultures like sold I mean so it really was not like 'normal' to have a loving relationship necessarily....of course over time people moved towards relationships with people they actually wanted to be in a loving relationship with. And now its like everyone is obsessed with material crap and mistake their love of the other persons material crap for love towards that person. Hence why it ends should one of the people in the relationship lose the crap the other person was into. In a couple years I could see people breaking up because they can't agree to disagree on if apple products are overpriced or not or stupid stuff like that, maybe its already come to that. I avoid mainstream 'culture' if you call it that.


yep. also already people who won't date or be friends with people based on product choices apple being a main one. so many people hate apple just to hate it. then in gaming theres sony vs microsoft. so much stupid hatred.



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08 Nov 2014, 2:45 am

Sweetleaf wrote:
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I didn't even have to check the name to know that Otaku posted this.

I think some people find love and some don't. I'll probably just adopt 20 cats and become a recluse.


You can't necessarily be a recluse with 20 cats, because I doubt the cats would leave you alone....as they like attention.


A recluse from society, I mean.


Well cats are much more amazing than society.
Amen to that!


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08 Nov 2014, 4:19 am

I just dont see the reason of surrendering myself to someone and wasting my feelings on someone thus leaving me vulnerable to attack because that happens every time.Its all a trap to merely lure you in and make you feel secure only to use you and dump you and leave you miserable used confused and lonely afterwards!Its all a lie a joke a ruse I don't know who to trust anymore and I don't trust anyone I don't care if I break their hearts because I don't trust them Im no god damn sucker anymore! Its all a god damn fantasy and its a use or be used world these days its sick and pissed me off!


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08 Nov 2014, 4:23 am

Sweetleaf wrote:
I have to admit a lot of people in relationships I observe remind me why half the time I wouldn't even want to bother, seems like too much crap. I mean I do not think its impossible for people to love each other, but I think much of the time people are more into a bunch of superficial crap and once that's not enough to distract they realize they didn't build the relationship on anything and don't actually get along or really care about each other even. I mean people shouldn't have a significant other just to have a significant other.


Yes. That's why I think the odds are low for getting into a long-term relationship with the usual method.

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But yeah I know in history a lot of times people would get married for financial reasons, or essentially be forced into it, or in some cultures like sold I mean so it really was not like 'normal' to have a loving relationship necessarily


Still, many of the people that got forced (or just didn't have a lot of people to select between) ended up in stable and loving relationships. Which just shows that dating and/or intense crushes might not be the best way of getting into a good long-term relationship. After all, the success rate (time together) and probably also satisfaction is lower today than it was in the past.

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And now its like everyone is obsessed with material crap and mistake their love of the other persons material crap for love towards that person. Hence why it ends should one of the people in the relationship lose the crap the other person was into. In a couple years I could see people breaking up because they can't agree to disagree on if apple products are overpriced or not or stupid stuff like that, maybe its already come to that. I avoid mainstream 'culture' if you call it that.


It's all been commercialized. Humans are not built for getting into relationships this way, and especially not neurodiverse people.



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08 Nov 2014, 10:52 am

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yep. also already people who won't date or be friends with people based on product choices apple being a main one. so many people hate apple just to hate it. then in gaming theres sony vs microsoft. so much stupid hatred.


I don't really like apple stuff because its freaking expensive, but I really could care less what technology brand someone prefers less, not even sure why people would care about that. It's just sad if people are turning down potential friendships or relationships over stupid crap like that.


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08 Nov 2014, 10:59 pm

The Beatles recorded songs about love, therefore love exists.


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09 Nov 2014, 6:17 pm

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yep. also already people who won't date or be friends with people based on product choices apple being a main one. so many people hate apple just to hate it. then in gaming theres sony vs microsoft. so much stupid hatred.


I don't really like apple stuff because its freaking expensive, but I really could care less what technology brand someone prefers less, not even sure why people would care about that. It's just sad if people are turning down potential friendships or relationships over stupid crap like that.


up until recently apple products were well built, had very few malfunctions and lasted forever. more then I can say about my andriod experience.
they cost a bit more but now other phones are right up there at the same price. I "hated" apple when i was younger only cause I was jealous and couldn't afford it, theres many people who do it for that too. but like with any product that becomes a big brand name they will charge more , (sony, lg, samsung, colt, FN, etc.) you start paying for the name over the product in their heads.

that said, I don't care what people own or not own. I mean I don't think i'd stay with someone if she constantly belated my phone choice. no one likes to be constantly told that the thing they spent so much money on and love is awful. But i'm a very open minded person where as a lot of society is very close minded.

I went from ps2-ps3-just xbox 360-ps4, where most xbox people would never cross the line. I lost a bunch of friends cause I refused to by call of duty anymore and they are cod fan boys, so I became the enemy. such hatred and disliking or even sending swat to peoples hours over a choice of electronic device. this is what our society is doing/going into to. makes me sick.



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10 Nov 2014, 12:54 pm

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yep. also already people who won't date or be friends with people based on product choices apple being a main one. so many people hate apple just to hate it. then in gaming theres sony vs microsoft. so much stupid hatred.


I don't really like apple stuff because its freaking expensive, but I really could care less what technology brand someone prefers less, not even sure why people would care about that. It's just sad if people are turning down potential friendships or relationships over stupid crap like that.


up until recently apple products were well built, had very few malfunctions and lasted forever. more then I can say about my andriod experience.
they cost a bit more but now other phones are right up there at the same price. I "hated" apple when i was younger only cause I was jealous and couldn't afford it, theres many people who do it for that too. but like with any product that becomes a big brand name they will charge more , (sony, lg, samsung, colt, FN, etc.) you start paying for the name over the product in their heads.

that said, I don't care what people own or not own. I mean I don't think i'd stay with someone if she constantly belated my phone choice. no one likes to be constantly told that the thing they spent so much money on and love is awful. But i'm a very open minded person where as a lot of society is very close minded.

I went from ps2-ps3-just xbox 360-ps4, where most xbox people would never cross the line. I lost a bunch of friends cause I refused to by call of duty anymore and they are cod fan boys, so I became the enemy. such hatred and disliking or even sending swat to peoples hours over a choice of electronic device. this is what our society is doing/going into to. makes me sick.


Well yeah If you have something you like and someone constantly talks crap about it, then yeah that would be very bothersome....but I feel if that lead to a break up that would be more about feeling disrespected and put down if they are constantly talking crap.....my point was more if someone initially rejects someone else over their choice of phone or some other electronic or something like that it would be sad, but I feel society could be to that point. That last part sounds ridiculous, sounds like they just cared about call of duty and the gaming system...and weren't really friends.


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10 Nov 2014, 1:15 pm

ReticentJaeger wrote:
I didn't even have to check the name to know that Otaku posted this.

I think some people find love and some don't. I'll probably just adopt 20 cats and become a recluse.


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10 Nov 2014, 1:32 pm

My parents have been happily in love for over 25 years, and my grandparents on my dads have been married for 60 years, so yeah, I'd say love exists.

Just because you've never been in love with someone doesn't mean it doesn't exist.



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10 Nov 2014, 5:54 pm

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I know love exists because I just got dumped and it hurts like hell. I must've been in love otherwise I wouldn't feel like dirt now.


Yep. Things will get better, though. I thought they never would for me, but I'm actually happier now than I was before I met her. But when we were first together, and there were no problems, that was like the most awesome I'd ever felt. I think that initial part is kind of like any other high and isn't meant to last forever. It sounds crazy, but loving someone can actually be very painful, even when things are good. It really bothered me the way her family treated her. It actually hurt me. I guess that's a sign of loving someone. If it hurts and bothers you more than it does them.