Have you ever questioned your sexuality before?

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I agree with what hyperbolic said. For me I have at periods questioned my sexuality (I am female BTW). I am now 27 and in my teens thought i must be gay because I went to a girls school and was rarely interested in all the guys that my classmates used to look at in mags etc. In my early 20s I had a couple of relationships with guys but nothing serious I think I did it more because that is what was expected I never loved them. I do find the idea of lesbian sex interesting but am not sure if it is just interest it is confusing.

I've never questioned my sexuality, and never have taken issue with the sexuality of others as well. I'm straight and never thought otherwise, and have never took issue with those who aren't as well.

straight and never questioned it... although then again, I have been in love with the same woman that I originally fell in love with 6 years ago when I first developed sexual tendencies...

Last year I thought that I was a lesbain because I wasn't attracted to men. Then I thought that I was asexual...am still pondering on that.

At one frustrating time before I'd heard of AS I wondered if I was subconciously stopping myself approaching women & failing to initiate conversation with them (even at the most opportune times) because I was really gay. After deeper though about firstly my repultion at the thought of me partaking in anything even slightly gay and also the fact I struggle with talking to new people of either sex on most occasions!

Surely to truely contemplate it you'd have to do more than ask a straight question with an immediate answer. If you considered yourself straight before then female would be your automatic answer anyway!

Yes I have questioned my sexuality from time to time since grade 8 when a classmate asked me if i was gay, but i am straight and always will be, although i never did answer him because i didn't understand why he was asking me a question like that. It wasn't until i read Tony Attwood's book "The Complete Guide to Asperger's Syndrome" last july that i was able to understand that it was a form of emotional teasing

I didn't even think about my sexuality until I was 17. Then I thought I was bisexual. Later I thought I was straight, after that I thought I was gay and at one point I thought I might be asexual. Now I'm 22 and still confused.

I know I'm straight, although for a bit when I was younger I wasn't that sure. I used to look up to a lot of celebrities and think they were gorgeous, beautiful and just long to be around them, and when i tried to explain this longing to my friends they'd look at me funny and I'd feel confused. going to an all-girl highschool makes it even harder to be sure, and I find myself always more comfortable with girls then boys. One girl I know is very openly a lesbian, and she's really nice, she's friends with a lot of people and has her share of enemies as well. I started to really admire her like I used to admire those celebs when I was younger, and this year I found myself drawing her things (she likes Avatar: The Last Airbender as much as I do) and really enjoying our little conversations. I wasn't sure how to react to it when she hugged me and made jokes in Spanish class that we were "seeing" each other and that when she moved to the back of the class, that we'd gotten "divorced and gone through some issues" I knew it was all in fun, but I'm really sensitive and I got blushy when she said those things and people had knowing smiles on their faces. She has a girlfriend, and I'm really uncomfortable with ever seeing her "that way", but I'm glad we're friends. she's an awesome person.

So that's the only time I've ever doubted my sexuality, these past few months have been quite interesting. but I'm you're typical teenage girl, with humungous posters of hot guys on my wall, and going all doe-eyed when a cute boy's on tv. and of course the most important, falling deeply in love with my boyfriend. ^_^

I am attracted to women (as I explained earlier), but so many people thought I was gay because I couldn't get a girlfriend at all...

I am straight, but with bisexual tendencies.
{It's called pansexual or heteroflexible.}

Because of my upbringing, I will most likely be a closet case forever if I don't give my sexuality a good questioning.

I spent about 8 years questioning my sexuality. It was very confusing because I was attracted to both boys and girls, and I didn't know there was such a thing as bisexuality. I had been told that you could be either gay or straight, and that homosexuality was unhealthy and morally wrong.

Fortunately, there was a sudden surge of gay pride when I was in high school and I learned about bisexuality. I still felt a lot of pressure to choose one end of the sexual orientation spectrum, but I eventually learned to accept that I was in the middle, and take pride in it.

Nope. Definitely straight here.

Since I live in the Bible Belt, I would be under a lot of scrutiny if I weren't straight.

Last edited by Tim_Tex on 14 Feb 2008, 1:23 pm, edited 1 time in total.

The phrase "exploring one's sexuality" and "questioning one's sexuality" are tossed around in our culture, but it doesn't make much sense to me. How can it be anything but immediately obvious which sex you're attracted to? Can someone explain to me how this actually takes a long period of reflection to figure out? If you feel lust when you see a woman dressed provocatively, chances are good you're sexually attracted to women. If you get that for men, you're sexually attracted to men. If you get it for both, you're bisexual. If you just don't experience lust at all, you must be asexual. What's hard about that?

Have you ever questioned your sexuality before? yes

Yep.

But Now I'm pretty sure I'm straight.

No, but I question my gender.