The_Face_of_Boo
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16 Jan 2015, 6:02 pm
trollcatman wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
One of my closest friends (and former coworker) was very right about this in his questing in seeking the right one, he's a senior graphic designer and he makes good money from job and from freelance work.
He was used to observe the girls' attitudes he dates, in late stages, especially when it comes to their attitude toward money; he was used to throw provoking questions regarding this matter too, one of the questions was "If one day I lose my job and I found a hard time to make money, will you stick with me?" - his wife now was the girl who said she loves him and will stick with him no matter what (despite the fact that she was still a junior teacher and college student too) - I recall the day he told me about her answer and he said "she's really the best one I've ever met" .
And that what really happened, our employer went into a sudden bankruptcy, we all lost our jobs for a while - this guy stayed unemployed for 8 months with debts, she sticked to him all the time, they had a baby soon after he worked again. While two other marriages (two male coworkers) ended within the same time.
What many don't understand, that the "she may just want me for money" is a common men fear when dating, we are so paranoid of it, it is the strikingly equivalent of "he may just want me for sex" 's common fear of women.
Dress like a bum to avoid women getting attracted to you for your money
Although the way he asks it, "will you stay with me if...", won't most girls be smart enough to give the desirable answer? If doubt many are stupid enough to say "no, I'll leave you for a rich guy".
I only agree with this in part.
I wouldn't look down upon my hypothetical daughter's partner for his occupation so long as he had one and worked hard and was stable etc. I wouldn't care whether he was a working class plumber or a surgeon. But I would look down upon someone who didn't have a stable job/career, & was unemployed/unemployable. Why would I want to see a loved one burdened with a partner that can't hold their own head above water let alone contribute positively to their joint relationship? Money isn't everything, but lack of it is certainly stressful and that just wouldn't make for a good relationship in other areas non concerning money at all. So, I can agree with parents setting some sort of baseline minimum socioeconomic status they want their child's partner to have achieved. I'm just not down with discriminating against someone for being a construction worker instead of a doctor.
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