How to choose between two girls?

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Yet? How does she become a choice?

You don't know if she's willing to date you yet.

My ex wants me back. She wants to come back to Adelaide and be with me. I still have feelings for her. But I remember how crazy she was, how impulsive she was. How she said she wanted to marry me the day after she met and then six weeks later she'd just move to Sydney without warning.

And all the time in-between she'd alternate between declaring her love for me, threatening to leave me and crying at me because I said the wrong thing. I still have feelings for her but I think it would be good for me to be with a girl who's more stable and consistent.

Last week there was this girl at the lodge. I'd met her two or three times at the community center but this was the first time she'd come to the lodge. This was the first time I'd gotten to have a proper conversation with her.

She's nice. She's kind of shy but that only made her more endearing to me. She's not one to make discussions on impulse. She has cutest laugh where she scrunches up her whole face and body. She's skinny and small and cute, like a pixie, even though she's a year older than me.

I could ask her out sometime. It's just a bit awkward with her mum there. She goes everywhere with her mum. She still lives with her mum even though she's 28. Not that her mum hates me. Her mum said she really missed seeing me at the community center since I got my new job.

They said they would come back to the lodge. So now I'm thinking, how do I ask out a shy girl? Should I wait a longer time? Should I become friends first and then ask her out?

With girls in general I've always been bad making the transition from friend to dating. Is there a proper way to know when the time is right or do I just have to make a leap of faith?

Anyway, the girl I was dating before said she wants to stay in Sydney for a few more months before returning. She says she's saving up for new furniture, which she wants to put in my apartment because she doesn't like mine. Also saving up for bond for a better apartment because she doesn't like that either. I like my apartment and I like my furniture.

She says she wants a two bedroom apartment so she can have her own room. Not her own bedroom, her own computer room. She says sometimes she needs time to herself (I don't blame her for that, we all do).

This new girl? She says she doesn't like loud noises or strong smells like perfume. She says she has hypersensitivity in all five senses. She says she doesn't like being touched. That could make intimacy impossible (also her shyness). Whereas the girl I was dating before was more sexually liberal.

Girl-from-before was a few years younger and appealed to my Asian fetish. New-girl is a year older than me and not Asian but she's much skinnier and cuter.

Most importantly, new-girl is more stable and consistent. She may be shy but she's not crazy like the other girl was.

Advice please?

If there's three pages of dithering, then the answer is obviously behind door #3.

Or to flip a coin.