Why would an NT waste their time with an aspie?

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10 Aug 2015, 8:20 pm

Why would NTs "waste" their time with Aspies?

I don't know ... maybe we're fetish objects to them.

Maybe they just feel better about their own wretched and lonely lives once they get to know us.

Maybe they feel that we are somehow "broken" and that they can somehow "fix" us.

Maybe they have not found a suitable NT - one that they can treat like a child or a well-trained house-pet, and teach how to fetch, sit, and stay.

Maybe they feel that we are so desperate for attention that we'll take all of their abuse without complaint, and never leave them like all of the NTs they used to date.

Maybe they are desperate, having reached middle age without a loving, stable relationship (no spouse, no partner, no children), and are willing to settle for someone who has no real idea what having a loving, stable relationship entails.

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10 Aug 2015, 8:42 pm

Fnord wrote:

Or maybe it's those pickup lines you came up with, Fnord. (Oh, baby!)

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11 Aug 2015, 9:21 pm

OliveOilMom wrote:

Time spent with me isn't wasted. I'm pretty freaking awesome, even by NT standards.

NT's might waste their time with me on account of my excellently refined time wasting skills.

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11 Aug 2015, 9:49 pm

Fnord wrote:

Or maybe, just maybe, a NT falls in love with an Aspie because the good in that SPECIFIC Aspie outweighs the bad/exasperating/annoying.

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11 Aug 2015, 10:34 pm

Because i am a smart, not so bad looking, faithful, occasionally funny, occasionally crazy mystery man who has supported himself from the time he was 17 and homeless. Who did his duty in the military and taught himself programming, providing many years of very comfortable living. Who despite his many mental problems has always climbed back up after a fall. I have enjoyed many good years with some good partners and some not so good, but that is life. Do not ask me to pity you but I do feel sorry for you, for anyone really who only defines themselves in terms of their disability. And before you think that maybe I not that Aspie, my anxiety from operating in the NT world nearly killed me with a cerebral hemmorage a few years back. A week in a coma and a couple monrhs of physical thearapy. Thats not including all the suicide attempts following my psychotic breaks when I spent days in the ICU follwed by weeks spent in psychiatric wards simply because I couldn't face starting from scratch yet again. But here i am. Have i got back everything i lost from the latest break? Not yet, but I will. And one thing I am sure of is that there is still someone out there that wants and needs what I have to offer. Just as i do them.

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11 Aug 2015, 11:22 pm

I'm a strong believer that out of 7 billion people on this planet, there's going to be at least one that wants what you have to offer. 7 billion.

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12 Aug 2015, 12:54 am

Not if you suck enough. If you do, the very fact that someone likes you should be taken as a sign that they're not lucid enough for their assessment that you're a worthy partner to be taken seriously.

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12 Aug 2015, 1:14 am

Labradorite wrote:

I'm a strong believer that out of 7 billion people on this planet, there's going to be at least one that wants what you have to offer. 7 billion.

how does it help me that some woman in china would like me?

so limit to the population of my county or state .

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12 Aug 2015, 1:35 am

Spiderpig wrote:

Here's another one. I'm so tired of reading negative responses from you. Are you negative 24 hrs a day? It's you and Sly, guaranteed negative responses 100% of the time. Can you find one positive thing that's happening in your life? Just one thing positive is all I'm asking for. I'm tired if hearing you run yourself down all the time. Where is all of this negativity getting you? There had to be something positive coming from you being so negative or you wouldn't keep doing it. What are you getting out of it?

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12 Aug 2015, 1:57 am

nurseangela wrote:

Spiderpig wrote:

not on this site. this site is nothing but worthless loser men bashing now. atleast in l&D. it use to be for helping us but not now its all about bashing us. telling us how crappy we are, how we should change evertything about us. or about how we should just shut up so you happy people can be happy.
no one makes you come here or read our posts. i'd be much happier if you not read my post and stop bashing me and making me feel worse. I come on here some times having had a ok day , hard to do, only to leave here feeling suicidal.
then I ruin the morning for my friend(night for me) talking to her all depressed. I cam here to be accepted not letuced about how bad I am by nts.

it doesn't make people feel good or motivated to be told they suck over and over.

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12 Aug 2015, 2:18 am

Nice discussion anout NT and Aspie....

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12 Aug 2015, 2:20 am

Labradorite wrote:

I'm a strong believer that out of 7 billion people on this planet, there's going to be at least one that wants what you have to offer. 7 billion.

Yeah, but you can't marry yourself unfortunately

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12 Aug 2015, 2:31 am

mahendar wrote:

Nice discussion anout NT and Aspie....

huh?

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12 Aug 2015, 2:48 am

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I'm not sad or upset about this, but it's a tricky question.
Life is too short to waste it. Humans only live for a few decades. It's gone in the blink of an eye, so one has to make the most out of most it.
That being said, why would an NT waste their precious time with an aspie? There are many other NTs out there on the same wavelength. Aspies are annoying, infuriating, repetitive, boring, insensitive, rude, disgusting, narcissistic, selfish, immature, bizarre and socially inept. That's the way we are and we can't change it. I see no reason for an NT to want a relationship with such a worthless twisted human, when they could be in a relationship with another NT.
An NT might at first fall in love with an aspie. Once the NT knows the aspie well enough, the NT will reject the aspie and never come back. I don't understand how the aspies on this site got into relationships, or how their partners tolerate them. It wasn't supposed to happen, it's against natural selection.

Confirmation bias - aspie's out of dmv, autism lumps in as aspie, so now aspie are antisocial, selfish, boring, rude & whatnot; let those with the official paper make the rules ! !

And what is the matter with leaving deliberately out all the disabled-non-autists in the equations, those have worrying parents too >>> just this gives a troublesome idea about the whole autism-thing <<<

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13 Aug 2015, 1:33 pm

nurseangela wrote:

I'm so tired of reading negative responses from you.

Then stop reading them.

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13 Aug 2015, 2:46 pm

Don't you guys ever get tired of fighting?

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