Top 10 Reasons You Can't Get A Girlfriend

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^ They're banned now.

I don't think this is a professional troll hired by anybody.

It's an ex-user who tended not to like guys too much.

She was an academic who believe in historical feminist theory--that women were oppressed in the old days, and that now women must avenge this oppression.

She believed in a broad interpretation of "sexual assault."

Trolly conspiracy theories.....

1.} My family says I can have friends, but NOT a girlfriend.

2.} My first GF I dated in secret.

3.} She and I had to break up two years ago because my family found out I was "dating someone."

4.} My current GF and I only see each other on the campus of school.

5.} The irony is that I have no friends without a girlfriend.

It really boggles my mind how you can date someone in secret.

I guess we can extract two conclusions:

• If you’re a parent and want to keep your adult child of university age who has some trouble becoming independent romantically and sexually frustrated for as long as possible, as a mark of their dependence, don’t let them go out at all unless they’re chaperoned, with the side effect of making a big show to everybody else they’re not allowed to function as a normal adult. After all, not being allowed to have a partner already highlights their diminished status.

• If you’re the child, g-e-t t-h-e h-e-l-l o-u-t-t-a t-h-e-r-e!

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(the above is totally false, and for the most part we only have ourselves to blame for being single. if someone is so truly horrid and that is the reason they won't date you? well, they're actually doing you a favour by leaving you alone. this shouldn't be a reason you are single as there are plenty of nice people on the planet attracted to other nice people. but remember that being nice isn't an accomplishment even in this modern world, it is merely what is expected of all functioning, conscious human beings in civilized society).

This thread is specious, presumptive and ostentatious. Did I already say contrived? I'm on the bleeding edge of technology, I dwell atop mountains in lieu of basements and I work tirelessly to be fit, clean and informed. The only reason I'm single now is because I'm obstinate, not possessive. I've never had unsettled debt in my life and I know where to make money should I need or for some dastardly reason want it.

OP writes from the perspective of allowing one's natural inheritance (Earth) to be stolen from beneath them by unsubstantiated authority.

Hells yeah! 42nd post

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https://youtu.be/Fx3f3X28tRc?t=626


^^Lol at this part she was saying "I am seeing on TV guys who are getting jailed and getting involved in drugs, I am don't want them to go out with girls either - they will get drunk with girls and have sex with them"


The irony is, that her wish will most probably become true: no girls would ever want to date these guys, they are totally inexperienced about everything in life and they are almost illiterate, their personality is smashed, they can't even speak the local language properly so it's impossible to hide this lacking. I highly doubt they will ever have girlfriends or get married, and probably will stay virgin for life.
The girl might get a bf or husband, but imagine how easily she would get trapped in abuse and exploitation.

Those are really extreme cases, but I find it scary I suffer from some of those problems, too, without having literally been kept locked in a room. Going to school didn’t help me socialize much, because I didn’t know how to, and my parents always had other priorities about me. I didn’t realize it as a teenager, of course, but it’s patently obvious no girl would have wanted to go out with someone like me even if I had been allowed to date. I was both clueless and powerless about the importance of living an interesting life and having something to offer. I was also isolated enough to be unable to speak like normal people of my age did. Slang was beyond me, and my blind attempts to use it only made me look even more pathetic, and I had too little practice talking to anyone—especially to anyone other than my parents—to be able to utter whole sentences without stopping to think or mangling them into something very different to what I wanted to say. Even when I didn’t mangle them, I was largely unaware of the way people interpreted many words and expressions which I’d only learned from books, so the chances for misunderstandings and making a fool of myself were plentiful. I also tended to mimic the way my parents talked to me, which was very inappropriate when addressing a peer and probably pissed them off.

Anyway, why would you let these 10 things stand in the way? Your world is changeable.

My case:

1. You're physically unattractive.

I self-identify as a 6.5, and can even potentially be a 7 on good days. From others I get anywhere from 5.5 to 7.5.

2. You have sh***y social skills around women. No. Ironically before the start of this year I had NEVER had a female friend before, this year I only recently realized ALL of my friends/acquaintances the same age as me are FEMALE, and I actually don't have ANY male friends in the same grade as me. I do have some male friends but they are all younger, NONE the same age. As in, I don't get along with any males in my cohort, my peers.

3. You're trying to go for the wrong type of women.

I've gone after all types from the hot types to the shy laidback plain-looking non-conformists. I've found most success with those that break traditional dating rules or social rules and conventions.

4. You're too shy and passive. No. I am self-confident and actually prefer approaching others. I hate it when people approach me. I only like to be the approacher, the pursuer, the aggressor. I want to speak to people out of choice. I do not mind when others speak to me first and can respond politely, but inside it annoys/frustrates me.

5. You are the ultimate FREELOADER. Am just 16 but aiming to move out A.S.A.P along with doing volunteer work to get used to the idea of working and then transition to a legitimate part-time job before deciding what to do at university.

6. You're terrible at flirting and don't understand it.

I believe most of us are capable of it. Why? Because flirting, by definition, is simply expressing your physical or emotional attraction towards someone, whether implicitly or explicitly.

Everyone flirts differently and no way is more 'right' or 'wrong' than the other.

Sure, we might not be able to pick up certain signs of flirting or act out flirting behaviors, but that does not mean we cannot flirt - it means we do not understand another person's SPECIFIC way of flirting.

Like I said everyone flirts differently and has different methods.

I personally flirt in a very subtle and unique way that most N.T females can't even pick up, but they question it.

We've got to stop treating 'flirting' like it's part of 'the game' and society's 'social rules'. Flirting requires little social skills.

Just saying to a girl "You look very pretty today." as a compliment is a type of flirting to some!

And if you're too nervous to even do that? Well, sometimes even just becoming so nervous around a woman you really really like may also be considered a part of flirting for some. Some women even find it sort of 'cute'. So embrace your nervousness! If she is attracted to you back, then she won't judge you.

How I flirted with my ex-girlfriend: Example 1: We were both private about our relationship, so almost no one knew. A friend asked us both who we liked and had crushes on, we both refused to answer and pretended we both didn't like anyone. The friend realized I have feelings for my girlfriend and said "I know who YOU like" pointing at my ex when she wasn't looking or paying attention. Then when me and my ex were talking I said "Yeah, (x), I don't know who YOU like. Who DO you like anyway? "

Example 2: Her friend asks if she has a boyfriend and who it is, she says yes but also 'I don't know'. I quickly run up to them and say 'YEAH, (x), who's your BOYFRIEND? "

Basically had fun pretending that we were NOT dating and only friends and used it to tease and play with her whenever I could.

7. You come off as "special" to others and you're not very good at hiding being autistic. No.

8. Your clothes selection and personal hygiene are absolute s**t! No.

9. You have some sort of physical flaw which affects your physical attractiveness. 5'8'', average weight (70kg/154lb), no deformities to speak of.

10.You just don't give a f**k about women at all. Yeah, sometimes wish I could be them too. Just being able to live your life. This is the one thing I am still trying to overcome as I learn to enjoy the single life.

And please don't just tell me I was 'born one of the lucky ones'.

Last year I was extremely awkward, inappropriate and had very poor social skills. I was a complete loser and I had looking back at myself.

I wasn't bullied or anything or ignored, I was a real attention seeker and tried to be a funny guy but was more of a laughing stock/joke/clown than anything else. Laughing at me more than with me.

I had very poor hygiene, didn't brush teeth, barely used deodorant, etc.

I was out of shape and skinny-fat.

Now am started working out and starting to look thin but fit, take care of my hygiene much better than used to, eat healthy balanced diet, have decent social skills and confidence, had no female friends or acquaintances last year now they make up the majority of people I interact with, and also, finally, at last, I really AM the 'funny guy' - In English class I am basically the class clown.

We are a very laidback and funny class, even the teacher is a joker type, so there are a few others who are known for being good jokers, but I am somewhere near the top, I can tell you that.

Honestly, once you start down the right path, it all seems to become more and more effortless. I honestly can't even remember how I even became the class clown type. I didn't put on a show or a sham or a fakery, I simply being myself. So many people in past found me unfunny, somehow my sense of humor is now uniquely likable.

So here's one success story. From a young age too. If it helps...