Would you let yourself fall for someone who has no picture?

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Yeah, I knew you didn't refer to WP, still I thought it's better to make sure for potential misunderstandings in advance.

I've struggled understanding this sentences for several minutes ..maybe due to my bad English..more elaborate pls..

You still sound happy...

..Aww..Let's not consider this as a truth..

Theoretically, we should know how she/he looks before meeting, unless we want to say hi to a wrong person haha..

Why is it understandable for Aspies not to want to show pictures? I don't understand the reasoning. I accept my Aspie friend's decision and right not to want to show me his picture, but if we were to ever meet then me seeing his picture would be mandatory.

I don't generally decide to fall for anyone online in general...I cannot make that kind of decision until I meet them in person. Like with my current boyfriend I decided from our online communications that he was worth meeting, and then more or less 'fell for' him when we did so. But we did also see each others pictures...I mean I generally only acknowledged profiles with pictures on dating sites since otherwise it could be some bot, a troll or at the very least shows they aren't willing to be open about who they are.

You know once you've put your face on the Internet, it stays on the Internet...
Upload sites usually take full rights of your pictures to sell them, edit them, etc. as they want...

I think that before you meet someone, it would be a good idea to see a picture of them. I'm not all wrapped up into looks, but I wouldn't feel comfortable wondering if someone was hiding something. Not so much about looks, once again, but if there is evasion and/or deceit right at the beginning of the relationship, what else will come up in the future?

Perhaps I misunderstood the heading/question. I thought the question was related more, to whether or not one would need to see a photo, in order to become attracted to, or "fall for someone".

In addition, if I find that someone possesses particular traits, I am not capapable of keeping myself from 'falling' for them in some way, shape or form. I don't have control over the feelings another person provokes in me, and I don't need to see them, physically, for my feelings to become strong enough, to "fall" for them. After reading through more of the thread, I can see I probably misunderstood.

Yes completely and entirely aware.

I can and did. She had the traits and personality that I'm attracted to.

I work in technology so I've always seen online dating as something that would be recklessly irresponsible for me to get into. I'm way more reconciled with the internet than most people, so I prefer to go & see what it can do for me in person. It's a good conversation starter, being able to say I work on so many of these things people keep structuring their lives around. I get more out of just seeking smart girls IRL than I feel like chasing down online.

You know anonymous brings absolute honesty. WP users share various difficulties, difficulties in psychological/emotional/sexual/social/family related dilemmas..the more anonymous, comes even greater honest questions and answers. So not sharing photos is better idea for the purpose of this site.

But in your case I thought he should've shown you his picture long ago. You didn't ask him to share his face open on internet, he only needed to share his photo with you. If I were him, I wouldn't let my partner wait for the damn single photo..What could be more important than not hurting the partner in that situation? He would sound very fishy to everybody who has brain. And I wouldn't accept his decision if I were in your shoes.

I was surprised at there are actually some people who don't share their picture in dating sites.?? Is that really happening over there?

I didn't know that..

Yeah, agree. And before going too far, we have right to ask for the partner's face right at the beginning.

I believe most people could not help but fall for some people even they have no faces..But I would try hard not to fall for too deeply while I'm enjoying fantasizing them..

..IRL I am attracted to smart shy guys..

I don't think there's anything wrong with people or fishy about them for not wanting to show their picture. Some people like their privacy and enjoy being anonymous online. It's understandable that you would want to see someone's picture when dating, and that you wouldn't want to get involved with a person who won't show it. But if you involve yourself with someone romantically, who has said they don't want to show you the picture, you have to take responsibility for your own decisions, too. I think it's important to respect the decisions of others. Sometimes it just means that you're not compatible with that person and you need to move on.

It shouldn't bother both parts if in the first place, a relationship started based on agreement that he/she has no willing to share their faces. No possible conflicts there.

Normally I would agree with you and that is why me and my Aspie friend have had several disagreements over the subject. Then I'm told by some that I must just be interest in his looks instead of his friendship and I also have feedback from my NT friends saying that she understands where my Aspie friend is coming from because she doesn't like her picture taken either. Then there's my Ma - I don't have one (NOT ONE) picture of her because she refuses to have her picture taken. I was thinking about that a few days ago because she is chronically ill and that could change at anytime. I was thinking of taking pictures of her when she didn't know it - like when we go to the Olive Garden and she dresses up and sits across from me. I can hold up my phone and take a picture without her knowing. I need to have something to remember her by. So that is why my Aspie friend not wanting to show his picture isn't bothering me as much anymore - I'm surrounded by people who also don't like their pictures taken. I'd hate to give up a friendship I've had with someone for 1.5 + years just because of a picture.

TBH, the picture isn't even the problem now - it's the communication that may change the friendship forever. My Aspie friend is in college and has two jobs and I haven't heard from him now for almost a month, which probably feels normal to him - the less communication the better. However, I'm feeling like there is no friendship anymore or its only one-sided. The communication means more to me, I guess. It actually seems so long a time since I've heard from him that I probably won't even know what to say when he does say something. He's starting to feel like a stranger or at the most an acquaintance.