Online dating is hopeless.

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I tried going on OKCupid, but the tests gave my personality a bad image, so I just hit the bricks, especially since I couldn't get higher than a 75% match, and nobody was really that attractive anyway.

[spoil]Hi , I received your mail. I really want to get out of here and come back to the States.If i leave this here i wont be going to texas. I really need your trust and help to get me out of this trouble i am into.I promise i wouldnt dis-appoint you, i will really appreciate your help towards this. Once i get there, we will arrange things in order and we can start a new life together.I want to believe that you will not let me down. As I've discussed what brought me here from the states. While i was coming here, the african guy told me to come with enough money for investment and i even go to the extent of selling my inheritted house just because i want to come down here to invest. I came in here with a total sum of $400,000.00 with all the money I've gotten from my Dad's business and contracts renumeration. Because the african guy told me of an idea to investment in African sculptures here. When i got here, he made all possibles means to get the money from me and get away with my money. As soon as i noticed this, i took the money and my travelling boxes and deposited it with a Security/Insurance Company here in Africa in order to safe myself and my assets. Thereafter i left the guy's apartment to an hotel where I am in right now and from which i am communicating to you now. Now, I'm in need of your help, have gotten the enuogh money to run myself when I get to you in in the states. I want to come over to your end and we can start a new life together, I don't want to live here anymore, you know i'm a foreigner here and it is absolutely danger for me here, so that is why i need your gesture assistance. How i want you to help me? I have funds hidden from the guy here in West Africa and i've left his apartment.For me not getting setup by him,i had to act fast for safety.I put this money in a box and got it locked up with a security code known to me only.I deposited the box with some of my travelling luggages with a Security and Insurance Company who render private diplomatic delivery service and i told them that the two boxes are my travelling luggage, which I want to send forth to someone in the states because i want to return to the s tate, then i paid them up their custody and security fee, but i did not tell them that the boxes contain money in order to make everything secure and safe. So, I want the boxes sent to you while i catch up with you as soon as it is been delivered to you while I come over to meet you and we can start a new life together. Every arrangement for the delivery is kinda perfect, I have obtained customs papers for private freight and there are seals on the box showing that it is a private delivery and check performed, it is free from customs checks, it will be delivered at your door step by the diplomats of the security company, you do not need to burn out to receive it. And the boxes have security codes lock known to me only, only me can open the boxes, except if I tell anyone the Code, so the Boxes cannot be opened on the Way of delivery to you. Therefore, I want you to contact me as soon as possible, so that I can give you all my deposit details and information for you to make the Clearance from the Security Company as my fiancee who is to receive my Boxes in the in the states.Once the box gets to you,i will let you know the lock codes to open the boxes and the instructions, then you can open the boxes in order to have some money sent to me for my flight to the states. Once I get there, we shall invest the money together and start a new family, provided you will not disappoint neither take advantage of me. I hereby promise 40% of the total fund for you to meet any personal needs and I can get something done with the balance. I am counting on you with trust and I will appreciate your trust towards this and hoping to hear from you and to meet you inperson. Let me hear you as soon as possible, so that I can give you the deposit details and the contact of the security company to arrange the shipment as soon as possible.

sincerely,





=====calandale1 wrote=====
My immediate reaction to reading your post is that it sounds like you're trying to scam me. But, on the off chance that you are indeed as poorly treated and gullible as you come off (sorry for putting it that way, but that's the nature of this beast that you are dealing with), I'm truly sorry to hear of your trials. Nonetheless, I am not interested in entering into a relationship with someone that I don't know. I'm not sure where you got some of the ideas that you are mentioning, and frankly that would worry me nearly as much as the whole idea of a scam. I'm not one to shoo away someone in need of a friend however, so if either discussion (through this medium) or advice might be helpful, (pathetic as the idea of getting advice from a lunatic might seem), feel free to continue contact.




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Hello,
I am very glad to hear from you.I am feeling reluctant to talk about myself and my situation to you because i don't know how you'll feel. But I'll like to let you know all about me and the situation I am into now so that it would't be too late.I have had alot of bad experience in my previous relationships, and i dont want to fall into the same problem anymore, i will like you to give me your words that you will really love me and that you want to make a new life with me, because i have been gamed before and i will not want to be gamed or played on again in my life. I am telling you all this, then you can decide if you still want to be me or not, so that we will not waste each other's time, when you get this mail,kindly give me a response to let me know if you are still interested or not. My dad died 3years ago in houston, texas and my mom still living in Texas. I'm the only daughter, the only kid of my folks. My dad is an American man and my mom is British. My mom and my extended family now live in my dad's house in houston.. My ex-boyfriend, David Benner gamed me alot and treated me badly, he absconded with my dad's money which was kept with me after a completion of a contract in texas,. When my boy friend got absconded with the undisclosed sum of US dollars, this brought the first brokeup between me and my dad, because he thought we had the deal together, but not knowing that i'm innocent about this. So my dad has been harsh and tough on me about this. After all these happened to me and caused by my Ex boyfriend, I joined a dating site(www.couple.com) where I met an African guy online here who promised heaven and earth that he wants to marry me and make me happy in life; "I never knew I was going from Fry-pan to Fire". The African man told me of an investment opportunity in Africa and he convinced me to come along with loads of money when coming down. On getting here, all his intention was to take away the money from me, play me and leave me alone. I came from the United States with all the money I've gotten from my Dad's business and contracts renumeration. Because the african guy told me of an idea to invest on sculptures here. When I got here, he made all possible means to get the money from me and get away with my money.When I noticed this, I took the money and my travelling boxes and deposited it with a Security/Insurance Company here in Africa in order to safe myself and my assets. Thereafter I left the guy's apartment to an hotel where I am in right now and from which I am communicating to you right now. I don't want to fall into any other terrible situation again after all these that I have faced and I am not ready to be gamed, this time, I need to be very very careful of whom i will go out with or date this time. I will need some words from you, which will prove to me about your interest me and what exactly you want out of our relationship. I am very eager to have a date now, since i would be coming back to the united states as soon as possible you want me to, provided you will treat me in an orderly manner. Well, let me hang on here till I hear from you. I hope you will understand my situation at this time and I hope you will come to my resuce and be of whom i expect you to be. I really need to be Loved because I really deserve it and I need a man that would always be there for me, who will be like a father and husband to me,i will reciprocate true LOVE as well. Sincerely

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Hello, how you doing today? i was just surfing through profilse and got stunned by yours so i decieded to contact you,sorry i dont have alot on here (profile) coz i am new. There is alot to know about. here is my yahoo im () you can im me.

Thanks.

I usually just hide from them. But recently, I've started writing back, explaining that I don't want to deal with IM's until I understand them a little better (motivations ect). It seems to keep them away, which I guess is ok. I can't imagine why I'd want to have an IM discussion with anyone I didn't know, and am frightened of the kind of person who would.

Why can't you see why that is rude?

If someone says hi to you, you should say hi back. It's a social rule. You should know this by now, especially if you have AS.

The rules might be different and the chances of finding something might change, but it's still possible.

But you only need one woman, right?

I love the results it gives for my personality. Doubt that anyone would seek me out based upon them, but the pure dichotomy of the contradictions is wonderful.

Just took one user made test:
The What's Your League? Test
http://www.okcupid.com/tests/take?testi ... 6648866230

which gave the most perfect line for me: "What? Plus, don't cringe when people try to touch you in a platonic way."

The only problem I have with the site is (like anything at all fun) a tendency to get absolutely addicted to taking the damned quizzes.

Because it's the internet? Different rules apply. People should not throw hissy fits if someone doesn't reply, sending someone random email is like trying to jab something in the dark. If you don't like someone, you block them. They may never know why. This is horrible and extremely hurtful, yet there is nothing one can do about it, because that's the way the INTERNET WORKS. It should be expected.

I personally don't see the point os sending people pointless messages that go no-where.. so I don't reply when people send me things like "howz u" and "wazzup".

Also, she said: "I'm on OKCupid and I've seen a lot of nice guys but I can't bring myself to actually e-mail them back when they like me. Probably the commitment of an ongoing social exchange...either that or I can't focus enough to actually write the g-d message."

It is not a matter of rudeness, she does not know what to say. I have this problem a lot, to. I don't know what to say to "WAZUP" so I put on my profile : "Don't be offended if I do not reply."

No, that's me trying to work on my social skills as best I can. Also, there is no obligation to write ANYONE. If others on the site are not interested in someone, they ignore them. Do they need to write a disclaimer saying they won't write back? Don't be such a dick.

Obviously you have not figured out the rules of the internet. Social interaction is not done in real-time, thus eliminating the need for certain responses and allowing time to formulate a better response. I think if you actually interacted with another human being (this is possibly why you are such an ass) you would find that this one of the attractions of the internet...that the same social rules do not apply. If someone does not reply to an e-mail I send, no harm/no foul. If I walk up to someone and say hi and they ignore me, I am deeply offended. Please go online more often and research the differences between the internet and real life.

And if you have AS YOU should know by now not to be so god damn judgemental.

Wow, phenomenon, I come here and express my opinions and instead of debate I get called offensive terms like "dick" and "ass." Then you get other people to go along with you and tag-team me... Hale_Bopp and NeatHuman.

Offensive! How do you know I'm not one of the more sensitive members who can't handle being sweared at??? We disagree strongly about a point, so I'm a dick, and an ass??? How can I feel free to express myself in a place full of character assassins like you and your cronies???

Maybe I should make my own forum website where I'm the only member, so at least I won't be attacked.

People like you.

If they knew you more, they'd love you.

The problem you might have is the inability to filter your charisma to an intended audience. To hone yourself in the direction you want, you need to stop being so humble and allow yourself to be less than shiny. Look for keepers in TCL.

Maybe I should make my own forum website where I'm the only member, so at least I won't be attacked.