aspies are not virgins

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I met my girlfriend at an Asperger syndrome support group and we are going strong. I have dated people on the neurotypical spectrum but really I have nothing in common with them. I do with my current girlfriend who like me has Asperger syndrome. We have similar sense of humour and sensitivities and it for us is like we can read each other's minds. I never had that with my exes who were on the neurotypical spectrum.

The more one wallows in self-pity the less attractive they become. In other words, the lonelier you are the more likely you are to turn people away. Gotta love downwards spirals.

I'm been more attracted to people who were lonely & desperate.

Are you telling me that you're attracted to people always moping around about being single? I expect you're in the minority there. Certainly miserable men are going to have a hard time attracting women.

Yes

I too, like women that feel extremely lonely.

NOT desperate, as that means she'd date anyone who came her way, but one lonely and one who's been searching for a long-time but still alone and doesn't have too many people in her life right now as I am in this situation right now.

Sabreclaw, sir, it's that common double standard that men can deal with flaws in women that women aren't believed to like in men.

Even if I was 27, I'd be fine dating a woman who still lives at home, a nerdy/quirky one, possibly a slightly creepy one, an extremely lonely one.

Many aspie males here would I think, but are women just as likely/inclined to be capable of dating an extremely lonely man who still lives at home?

I don't think so. If the women here disagree, please show evidence to disprove my theory. If you're a women who would date a man like that, speak-up.

Why not? Unless most women are looking for someone "perfect" or better than them or has his sh*t together. Maybe I'm just a weird woman. I don't care whether a man lives at home with his parents or doesn't have a job or has mental issues or what have you. A man's heart is more important than his life situation. He can even complain about his life and how desperate he is. No problem.



I am one woman here who disagrees, and would date a man like that. Actually I have. Oh, and I still am. (For almost 4 years; nick007 from WP.)

I have/still am dating a formally extremely lonely man who still lived at home with his mum.

I'm a virgin because of religious reasons and past sexual abuse. I do plan on having sex after marrying my boyfriend, but I'm afraid of my personal issues getting in the way.

Well said!
Nice to meet another "weirdo"

That was sarcasm, it's what some women on here want, not what I want.

Ah, so it's you. That's nice. He speaks quite well of you miss in his posts.

I'm certain I'll have my stuff together by age 27 though I think some aspie males (or females) might not always.

Good to see there's people here of both genders that are okay with someone not exactly with everything together.

DEATH TO CAPTCHA

Less attractive to who? You guys that post here on this same support board? The weird crazy chick that has been bannned like a 1000x or whatever random rad fem that has decided to join the fray? Really missing out. This is basically trying to shame people on here into shutting up, I suspect it's more about that it makes other people uncomfortable maybe about their own situations to have someone so down on their own but that's real life. What can anyone expect but sadness and pain out of the relationship section on support site where the primary debilitating factor is the social deficit.

I feel like I got caught in just the worst time to be diagnosed, I would of been better off 10-20 years before where there was no such thing or 10-20 years from now when they actually have services. Right now there really isn't anything out there, I was failed as a child, it is a lonely place for sure and one that most don't dig their way out of.

Who said a relationship was easy?

That's a big lie.

If you want easy, just go date yourself.

My current relationship with an NT girl is the only relationship I've ever been happy in. Previously, I've had a girlfriend with BPD and another one with ADHD. Both were nightmareish.