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I'd say you are probably above average. It depends on how old you are. The younger the person, the more attractive that person will be. It's much easier to be attractive at a young age.

I also think you'd probably look better without makeup.

I did advertising and marketing for some years. You could model for print.

Yes i'm sure you're fine. Your face would definitely be considered attractive.

But attractiveness isn't all in the face, it's also in the body. The real question is, are you obese? Obesity isn't perceived as attractive by a lot of men. If this is the case for you, eating less and eating more healthy, and doing some aerobic exercise for a few months should do the trick.


I'm known for my blunt honesty, and yes you have an attractive face.

With a disclaimer that I'm only me and hold no 'spokesman for men' sort of position.

You have strong, pleasant features that don't overwhelm, and that combine and compliment well.

I don't know much about make-up other than I prefer women without it, with exceptions made for a few particular looks (goth, for example). That's not just visual but sensory - I don't like the texture or smell of make-up. I can't see how your appearance would be 'improved' by make-up.

I find your gaze intense - were you going for something like that, or is that just how you are? I like that sort of thing, but I think some men prefer something more passive from a woman. That, sadly, might be 'offputting'.

Other than that, I'd guess your difficulties are a matter of body language and comportment.

Just because you find someone physically attractive doesn't always mean that you have a crush on them. Because we often have certain "types" that we're attracted to. And these are the types we tend to get crushes on.

For instance, the girls I crush on tend to be small and petite (like 5 ft 3 and under) with a cute face, especially them redheads. Just like some guys prefer taller girls.


And just like some girls prefer tall manly men with beards, other girls may prefer the empathetic man with a cute baby face.

I'll say it again, I'm not anywhere near obese. I'm curvy, but skinny. Hourglass.

I try to keep my head high and shoulders square when I walk, because I've heard that denotes confidence.

I hope this thread doesn't start to look like narcissism on my part. I can't tell whether or not anyone close to me is attractive. Thank you for your input, though.

OP, i'm going to teach you a method that works but not a lot of women use and quite honestly it's stupid that woman don't do this.

If you want a boyfriend, want sex, whatever you want, the secret is to adopt a male mindset when it comes to attracting someone. Because when a man likes someone, he's the one who usually initiates the conversations, asks for her number, asks her out on a date, and he's usually obvious with the fact he likes the girl. He plays the pursuer role while a woman usually plays the passive role and waits for a man to ask her out.

But what if you reverse the roles and women are the ones pursuing? The reason why women should try the approaching and asking out method is because men are less likely to reject you. If you walk up and talk to any man and show interest, I guarantee you that you will rarely get rejected. The majority of woman are considered attractive and are thus valuable by the majority of men. So in a way if a woman plays the active and pursuer role when it comes to dating, she's less likely to be rejected compared to if a man was going around asking out woman.

And I honestly don't know why more woman are playing the pursuing role, they're far better at it than men are. Men actually like it when a woman goes up and talks to him. Men like outgoing girls.

Now if you're going to do this, i'd say get to know him first a little bit before asking for his number so he won't feel uncomfortable. And also make sure the guy you're going to be seeing is safe.

CryingTears15 -

I think, when wondering why we can't seem to attract people, it makes sense to first consider our appearance. But I think you can take away from this thread, with confidence, that there's nowt wrong (and plenty right) with your face.

People you know in real life will be able to give much better advice on how you move through the world, how you come across to others, etc. They will be able to observe and demonstrate. Do you have siblings or friends who could do this for you?

Am I the only one wondering why noöne has yet told the OP to forget about dating till she's much, much, much older and content herself with having no life beyond studying, working and whatever her parents tell her to do till she no longer needs anything at all from them? Lots of other people would have received this kind of answer much sooner at her age, including me.

On the other hand, the photos almost made me cry. At fifteen, those eyes would have dazzled me. It's like looking down the tunnel of time at a point when I had many newfound, vivid feelings that now have been dead for a lot of years.

At that time, a look like that made me sense there was something important behind it, something that could be even more important than getting top marks. Yep, the first girl I think I fell in love with was the best student in my class and she inspired me a lot. I clearly needed to have been sent to a male-only school to stop such an aberration from happening. Anyway, I say I think I fell in love with her because I have no grounds to claim I actually know what falling in love is. Besides, it was definitely unrequited (there's no question she saw me as a slightly funny ret*d at best, though I wasn't very aware of it back then), and, even if it weren't, it's not like I could do absolutely anything about it. Going out with her (or with anybody at all, for what it's worth) was not an option. Since you're supposed to fight to the death and defeat each and every obstacle or die trying when you're truly in love, mine was a really sh***y kind of "love" at any rate.

I have since learned to recognize female attractiveness and charm as a warning, "Stay the hell away. There's indeed something extremely important, desirable and valuable in me and it's not for you". It helps that women, over the years, learn to replace that innocent and friendly smile with a disgusted grimace that unmistakably gets across the point that you're a creep.

You're fine in the looks department. I'd give a 6 or a 7.

I'm assuming you're 15? If so, you should know that it's just as common, if not more so to start dating around 16/17 than it is at your age. Heck, I'm 19 and have never dated anyone, and there are a hell of a lot of us guys and girls on this site with little to no dating experience, your age, my age and older.

That said, the best advice I can muster up in terms of dating is to put yourself out there. The more people you come into contact with, the more prospective romantic partners you're going to subject yourself to.

I'm not sure how you're going about trying to get guys to approach you, but what I will say is, if it's the guy's job to approach you, that means it's your job to be approachable.

Yeah, it's just occurred to me OP is probably 17 at oldest (presumably she was 15 on joining, hence the number in the username, and there could have been two birthdays since then, but more likely one). She looks about 20 in her avatar picture, and from the larger pictures I'd have said 19.

I don't think I said anything inappropriate, and I try to address things in a way that fits with what I take to be my interlocuter's maturity rather than age, but it still feels weird.

I thought this thread was a joke, and I wasn't sure if that was really you. Maybe everyone's taste is different, but you look amazing.

I'm sixteen. Maybe the lack of approaching is due to my psychological issues culminating in some time away and the fact that I used to be the "weird" kid with rather extreme stims.

However, those outside the school still don't seem interested, I don't know. :T

I try to focus on school first, yes, though it hasn't done much good, tbh, due to my executive functioning issues. But I certainly think it's natural for me to walk by an attractive person and want to be closer to them. Can't help those desires, so I might as well go along with them.

Hey, CryingTears. I'm sure a lot of guys around your age would find you attractive.
It might be worth asking in here: viewforum.php?f=22
Or here: viewtopic.php?t=56

Sorry to be a killjoy XD it's just that a majority of us in this board are not teenagers and our feedback wouldn't be from a demographic you're looking for.