Peacesells wrote:
rdos wrote:
Sounds more like desperation. That's an awful approach to relationships.
Victim blaming is no good. You're right about desperation but sometimes it can't be helped.
Well, desperation isn't helpful, so you better come up with some better approach if you want a relationship.
Peacesells wrote:
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I also develop feelings easily. I can get a crush on somebody in just 30 minutes. However, I know my vulnerable point so I don't subject myself to situations where this is likely to happen before I know the girl well enough. A first date with a complete stranger is one of the worst scenarios that is likely to lead to a crush.
I thought it didn't happen often to you and you didn't like dating.
I haven't done any dating. I don't need to in order to be able to figure out that a first date with an attractive woman has a high risk for a non-reciprocated crush. I don't even need a regular date in order for that to happen. As younger, I had selective mutism and I didn't talk to anybody that I didn't know very well, and that included women. That also meant I couldn't do dating, so I figured out alternatives that worked much better for me. When I eventually had overcome my selective mutism, I already had working strategies with women, and so I didn't feel I needed to change those because I could talk to strangers. I didn't even have an idea that others had completely different strategies at that point.
21 Feb 2016, 11:01 am
