I Think I'm Falling in Love

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Thanks for telling me.

Yes, if you are a regular and forget your money, you can get a "rain check" on it, but you usually have to pay it next time. I suppose that is just a leftover from when this was a lot more common.

A 50-50 chance? That's interesting. How'd you derive at that? I'd say if you're being paid for at an eating establishment other than the one your crush works at, it's a long shot.

Whilst it's true that your crush may be interested in you and he may not, there's no real way to know except asking him. If he isn't interested in you, 'falling in love' with him is gonna set you up for one hell of a disappointment, which is why I preach romantic abstinence until you have substantial reason to believe that your love interest is indeed interested in you as well.

I believe I read something that said you've known this guy for 5 months, is that correct? If that's the case, it seems unlikely to me that asking you out is on his agenda if he hasn't done so in this fairly significant time window.

Has he given you any explicit reason to believe he might be interested in you? Like any at all?

I don't mean like a one-second glance that could be interpreted as something more by a hopeful mind. I mean, has he flirted with you? Asked for your contact info? Actively gone out of his way to converse with you? Put off doing other things to talk to you? Do you even have his number/have him on Facebook?

If not, I would certainly be coming to grips with the fact that he may not be interested if I were you. That's not to say he isn't, but if you're lacking any significant evidence that he might be interested in more than a friendship, you'd really best have your guard up imo.

As good as it feels to hoist yourself up into the oblivion of love chemicals in the brain working overtime, should you find out that your love is unrequited, you will probably come crashing down at the speed of light, onto the pavement of broken hearts.

See? The truth is revealing.

What truth?

I think it is much more than a 50% chance. Maybe something like 90% that it's him?

Based on what?

I'm just guessing like the rest here.

Consider this:
1. What is the chance of getting repeated free lunches at the same place? (very low)
2. What is the chance of two shy guys being interested in a girl at the same time? (pretty low)
3. How often has Kitty experienced this? (apparently only this time)

You're getting her hopes up.

1. Not low, as mentioned.

2. The other guy isn't necessarily shy. He could be hinting madly at her and she isn't picking it up.

3. Apparently.

I'm balancing it. Some people want to get her hopes down, so I do the reverse. Plus that I find the whole thing interesting as I've been involved in similar things myself.



If he was non-shy, he would go talk to her.

Jeff did talk to me a little bit & it wasn't about work, I mean it didn't involve me ordering food. He was talking a lot to other customers, he was Mr. Charter Box with them & not me, he were talking to other women at the counter. I felt left out, wondering why he's not talking to me. I read that men can be shy around very pretty girls, I read that in Cosmopolitan magazine. If it is true that he was shy..... OMG!! ! A guy shy around me, never happened before, wait maybe it did when a lot of men were flirting with me when I was in my 20s, they flirted with me in front of my mom, she told me they were flirting, I wasn't picking up the signs.

If Jeff was shy then why he always take my order, he wasn't shy when he was taking my order, even when he were busy, he came over later to me. This So Great!! That would explain him being my secret admirer at the restaurant & when I saw him twice, the first time was a month ago, I was sitting on a bench & I saw him walking by, he waved at me. The second time was last Tuesday, I saw him walking & shortly later, he was sitting on a bench for awhile, it looked like he was waiting someone. I saw him Monday, he was working in the coffee house, he was vacuuming, the coffee house is still being remodeled, it's feels like the coffee house being remodeled for months. If he is shy then how can he talk to me a little bit? If Jeff is my secret admirer from the restaurant then he's telling me he hasn't forgotten me & still very interested in me

Yes, that's another "coincidence" the skeptics needs to consider. He apparently didn't offer free lunches, or bumped into you before the coffee house closed for remodeling. Instead, he seems to have switched method now that he cannot see you naturally at his work.

That's another thing that is unlikely to be pure chance.

That people working at the restaurant, who are not secret admirers, are paying for things for you.

Oh no.

Wrong! The woman who paid for my drink, she told me she was paying, she is nice lady.

I been a regular customer at another restaurant & they didn't pay for my meals.

I saw Jeff today, I saw him 3 times. I was at an ice cream shop & I saw him walk by, he didn't see me then I went outside to eat my ice cream & I saw him again, when I saw him, I was so nervous, I put my head down to hide & I was very shy too. He saw me, I think he said my name.

If we are both shy, we never going talk to each other.