Ladies, how do I look and what can I do?

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That's not how it works for me.

They probably say that for a couple reasons. 1) Women like to pretend they're not as aesthetically superficial as the stereotypical male. 2) It is true that females' attraction to males is a lot more emotional as well as based on attraction to personality and character etc vs. mostly physical appearance.

It's more probable for a woman to meet a guy she wasn't initially physically attracted to, get to know him, and then develop an attraction to him that's more emotion/personality based than appearance than it is for a man to do towards a woman.

But I agree, women still have appearance preferences just like men do. I can only speak from my own personal experience, but I know instantly when I see someone (or their picture) whether I'm physically/sexually attracted to them or not and I bet the vast majority of people, male & female, are very much the same. It's just that girls have a bigger component of emotional/personality parts to their attraction to a guy than guys tend to have towards girls.

I am a woman. And I'm not primarily attracted to guys for their looks. Looks are superficial. I can think some guy is hot, and then be totally turned off by his personality. Or a guy that's not so physically attractive may become attractive to me because of his personality.

I have certain standards as far as looks go, but they aren't that high. Eye-candy doesn't do much for me. It's more like mind-candy.

What kind of person are you trying to attract BaneBear? That's sort of important as to how you may or may not want to change your attire.

Not to hijack, but I need help with that myself.

I'm trying to attract nerdy/artistic gals with similar views to my own (ambitious, dedicated, etc.), adventurous and 'work hard, play hard'. Here's a dating profile I have, where all my other one's have essentially been copied and pasted to be the same as this one: http://www.mylol.com/profil_view.asp?uid=2226207

I'm definitely narrowing things down and not trying to appeal to the majority or anything like that.

I look at all those that have given me attention online and real-life, but fail to notice many patterns. The people who give me attention seem to be on the more attractive side though, and I'm confident I look nice myself.

Another thing is many have a calm, laidback and tomboyish personality, because I am these things myself, but become bored with me once they figure out what may be considered my 'nerdier' side (interest in philosophy, the arts, new agism, etc.)

Can anyone give me a hand?

Everyone usually judges somewhat on appearance when it comes to who attracts them and who doesn't. I mean I don't know any guys that would bother dating a female they don't find attractive either.

And since this is my first post in this thread I would add that in my opinion if you perhaps dressed in better fitting more casual clothes....like maybe some jeans instead of the business looking pants and t-shirts that aren't super baggy on you. Perhaps grow out your hair a little since I am not so sure the super short hair is the best look.

I am attracted to women who are intelligent, have a great sense of humor (Like huge one because I make lots of really bad jokes and puns), compassionate, interest in many topics (I like people who don't need to partake in some interests but can talk about them like they are interested), and like affection (I can be kind of touchy feely with girls I like and ones who hate physical contact make me feel intimidated). Also a girl who doesn't mind staying in or going out, like someone who doesn't define a relationship based on that.
As for looks there are no real super preferences, just someone who takes care of themselves hygienically (Including their hands and feet), height isn't a big issue but girls who are shorter than my stomach or their breasts are up to my chin. I do not mind some curviness on a girl but I don't see myself dating someone who has severe weight problems.
All other stuff like eye and hair color, butt size, chest size, or nose don't really matter to me.

Oh and girls who are open to anything in bed.