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calandale
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04 May 2007, 11:05 pm

beautifulspam wrote:

Not really. I'm still hopeless in social situations unless I *think* my way through them.


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if I plan them. I either panic, and shut
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05 May 2007, 11:01 am

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beautifulspam wrote:
So...now that I have an actual life, have travelled, have an extra dimension to my life that wasn't there before, women are interested in me, for the first time in my life, without my having to initiate things.

And the heck of it is, I'm really overweight now. I never was before, but it turns out that fat + outgoing > fit + shy.

Personality matters.

Who'd have thought?


All I can think to ask is how old are you? (Generalization coming up, does not apply to all, just what seems to be the majority, so please take it as that) Women in their early twenties seem horribly superficial. Maybe where I'm located has a lot to do with that right now, or the crowds I tend to be around. Not sure.


No, you're absolutely right, that's pretty much the way it is everywhere. In fact, I'm dating a woman twice my age right now, and one thing I've found conspicuously missing in my new girlfriend is immaturity, vanity, and game-playing. Ahhhhh........ a breath of fresh air. Finally, I'm dating someone in my (mental) generation.

It's never worked out for me, the few budding relationships I've had with younger women -- they got nothin' in the noggin! No offense to the exceptions to the rule.


I firmly believe that it is better for aspie men to date women who are in their 40's or older. After my divorce I tried to date some younger women and it was a disaster. For some reason women in there 20's and 30's seem to be very emotionally immature. Women that age are very hung up on social status and all the other ridiculous things NT's love. After the age of 40 women become less concerned about those things and are more willing to accept a man as he really is.


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05 May 2007, 11:03 am

they are also lower in the pecking order and less choosey :)



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05 May 2007, 12:23 pm

Personality > Looks.

From what I've experienced this is true. In my life, I've many times been commented on how good I'm supposed to look. Yet, I haven't been with anybody for +2,5 years and haven't had that many before either, simply because I have no personality at all and I'm too shy; I'm like a robot.
Therefore, I used to be very nitpicky on women's appearances. Now, I've softened up and look a lot more for matching personality.

Be glad if you've got the personality, looks don't really matter that much in a real relationship. :wink:



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05 May 2007, 5:52 pm

thats great guy, i unfortuantly have a bizzare personality and only really get animated about things that i like


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