GeekChic wrote:
On a slightly different tack, the rest of the (NT) world presents dating as if it were simple and fun. I think that even they find it difficult and frustrating, they just pretend it isn't.
IF I meet someone, which happens super rarely, there is the immediate set of issues: Is the person loud and outgoing? Relationship fail, most likely. Do they smoke? Darn, not gonna work. Are they significantly politically opposite me?
I view dating like trouble-shooting, in that some things are negotiable and can be flexible, some really cannot. The odds of just getting past level one diagnostic are daunting, then you have to figure out level two: do we actually enjoy each other's company and can we manage activities together? Argh.
I hate that too, people acting like dating is the most fun hobby to have and singles have the time of their life. The wild success stories get the most attention and the many failures are often not shared.
I seem to be more OK with bigger differences with a future significant other as I see excitement and opportunity for growth. But it seems a rather useless attitude since I've never met anyone looking for somebody really different than herself.
I would recommend to avoid politics as a subject when dating. It can get emotional. If it's unavoidable keep it cool and moderate, shed a light on both sides of the political struggle.
02 Jul 2016, 5:05 pm
