How can I tell her I don't just want to be friends?

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You could ask her on a date. Set the tone, sort of thing. Like go to a romantic restaurant and over dessert you could touch her hand across the table. How she reacts will be a good tell.
And the language of love is universal, just be straight with her.

Yes I will. I have also asked my Chinese ex for advice. I hope it's not too late

Sometime soon she'll come to my house for pizza and DVDs. Perhaps this can be a chance to try some of that Chinese courtship stuff.

I asked my materialist Chinese ex what to do. She said to shower her with gifts.

That's friend stuff. I think you should try something more romantic.

Like what?

This place looks nice:

Concubine is a modern contemporary restaurant that fuses flavours of the orient with fresh local produce, showcasing South Australia's best. Winner of the 2009 and 2010 Best Chinese Restaurant (South Australia) - Restaurant and Catering Awards

Canadians are known for a very subtle sense of humo(u)r, but in my country I can't imagine a Chinese restaurant having such a name!

In all seriousness, I really wouldn't take her to a Chinese restaurant for a number of reasons. Anything but!

You might nervously make her aware how much you would appreciate if somebody were to cook some Chinese food for you. Maybe that would give her a good idea.

It is a rather suggestive name.


I thought about the presumptuous of it. They say that Western Chinese restaurants are nothing like real Chinese cooking. But this place is "fusion." And it has won some awards. So it could be interpreted by her as a meeting of cultures. It looks expensive, but I notice there is 20% off on takeaway, so they could have a picnic.


At this stage I think he should be doing something special for her to show his interest. Asking her to cook for him is not romantic.

If she wants to be his girlfriend, she will probably want to cook for him. Giving her a big bouquet when she comes by to cook would be romantic.

I would hope he gets some guidance from the "syllabus".

Ask if she wants to do something with just the two of you. Typically, a girl who wants to be more than just friends will go out with you then, or at least reschedule. If she invites you alone to her apartment (or accepts an invitation to your apartment), that's also a sign that she likes you.

Don't listen to the people who say it's been too long since you met her to start dating or anything like that. If she sees you just as a friend, however, there really isn't much you can do. Note that she might still change her opinion of you (see you as more than a friend) in the future, but you shouldn't try to force it.

^ Yeah, couldn't agree more.

And especially in some asian cultures such as China, Japan, SouthKorea, men take it much slower in romantic relationships with women.

^ This and Kurgan said about family honor, losing face ..etc are characteristics of the ....whole East, not only the Asian countries

Asian countries + South Asia + Middle East + Meghreb.

Not sure if Russians have those too.

That's what I thought at first. I asked on Yahoo Answers if I should take a Chinese girl to a Chinese restaurant and they said she would feel stereotyped.

On the other hand, it seems like western cuisine is very unfamiliar to her. When she's not with me she dines in Chinatown or cooks Chinese food at home. She might feel more comfortable dining in Chinatown. I get a little anxious there. In western restaurants no one blinks at seeing a mixed couple but in Chinatown the young men glare at me when they see one of their own being seduced by the white devil.Maybe it would. I'd love it she cooked for me.

My mother suggested I give her flowers.

I asked my Chinese ex and she suggested I present a roast pig to her parents. I'm not going to do that. Her parents are in China. Anyway, roast pig is Cantonese cuisine. My ex is Cantonese. The new girl is Mandarin.We've been on our own all the other times we went out. Maybe I could invite her to my apartment but we can't be alone at her house because she has housemates.That's what I thought when I read a website that said Chinese girls don't even kiss until after six months.

Since she's not living here permanently it might be that she doesn't want a long term relationship in a place she's not supposed to stay in. Short term relationships aren't a part of their culture. I hoped I could convince her to stay here in Australia if I could get her to like me but that might not happen. Anyway I doubt I could afford to buy her a permanent visa.

Really? I didn't know that.
Those three countries(China,Japan,SouthKorea) are only countries I know in Asia continent. My knowledge is rather limited. lol